How to speak without hurting others

1. The tone should be calm and soothing.

When you speak, your emotions and attitudes are combined in tone and intonation. From the tone, the other person can judge whether you respect the other person. If the tone is heavy and lethal, then you will hurt the other person's self-esteem by talking like this. The other party can't accept it.

2. Smile when you speak.

When you speak with a kind smile, you will instantly bridge the gap and let the other person accept you and listen to you. If you speak with a straight face, the other party won't buy your account! Perhaps a casual expression hurts the person who is most likely to become a good friend.

3. Learn to praise appropriately.

Don't be stingy with your compliments when talking to people. Appropriate praise can encourage them to make positive progress and increase their trust in you. If you are sarcastic, he may retort and even put you in an awkward position.

4. Say nice things.

For some people, especially those who like to be complimented, you can say a few good words appropriately. As long as the other person is happy, he will have a good impression on you. What do you get by going against others and choking them to death?

5. Affirm first and then deny it tactfully.

If you disagree with the other person's point of view, don't directly refute it, which will stimulate the other person's self-esteem. You should first affirm the correct part of his point of view, then take out the incorrect part of his point of view, analyze it in detail, convince him, and then politely deny his point of view, so that he won't be embarrassed and angry.

6. Speak with a sense of humor.

Clever use of humorous language can adjust the embarrassing atmosphere, give people a step down, and the other party will appreciate your rescue.

7. Don't talk to people in a commanding tone.

Some people are self-righteous. When talking to others, you are always condescending and bossing around. This is not good. Respect for others means respect for yourself. Dignity is inviolable even for employees and subordinates.

8. Stop being sarcastic.

No matter who you talk to, say what you have to say, or don't say it. Remember that words are ironic. It's okay to meet a gentleman, but he won't talk to you. If you meet a villain, he will try his best to pick on you. It's not good for you to offend him.

9. Don't use derogatory phrases.

Many people talk as a pet phrase, but in interpersonal communication, you must not have derogatory pet phrases, such as: Do you understand? Understand? Talk to each other as an idiot, as an idiot. Can you talk like this without offending people?

10. Don't expose each other's shortcomings in public.

As the saying goes: don't hit others in the face, don't expose your shortcomings. If you speak too fast and tell the other person's secret to the public, the other person will want to kill you. So such a thing can't be done, let alone said. Hurt people!