Soft and hard combination

Some people are afraid of softness, while others are afraid of hardness. For example, soft women are afraid of heroes Most people are afraid of hard work, because they are osteoporosis. When they meet a horizontal, stunned and desperate person, they will lay soft eggs. Too soft is not enough, not to mention Mashan being ridden and people being bullied. Soft persimmons must be pinched first, and those who buffer, block arrows, vent their anger and hide their shame will take you as their role. Not if you push too hard. It just won't last long. Qin Shihuang suffered this loss. If he can be gentle, maybe there will be Qin Sanshi. Therefore, everything should be both hard and soft. Americans have long known this. They are good at playing with sticks and carrots. My mother knows this, too. In her words, she slapped herself hard first and then stuffed a fudge into her mouth. Zuo, the general of the Qing Dynasty, put it better, demanding a duel first and then a gift. Why are the lions, tigers and bears in the circus so obedient? Because if you don't listen, you will be beaten, and if you listen, you will have meat to eat. I didn't listen to adults when I was a child. My dad said I wouldn't fight for three days, so I went home to uncover the tiles. He also said that I was a broken carriage for many years and needed to be repaired frequently. In general families, parents always have a division of labor. Strict father is a loving mother or a strict mother plus a loving father. One plays a good COP, and the other plays a bad COP. Confucius said, "It's hard to raise a woman, but if you are near, you won't have grandchildren, and if you are far away, you will complain." I think Confucius divided people other than him into villains and women. He is a saint, and we can't say anything. I also think that many people meet the characteristics of Confucius, so we also know that children should not be spoiled. When you were young, you didn't want to be hard. When you grow up, you should kick your nose and face, and dare to hit Lao Tzu. I've seen this before. Friends can't be used to it. There must be principles. The whole world says they are your friends. How many times of crisis are real? You have to learn to reject those insatiable guys and sometimes delete them decisively. Do parents, teachers, bosses and bosses want hard things? Yes! Hardness represents your compressive strength, self-confidence and execution. What they are afraid of is not your hardness, but your softness. I deeply remember what a female colleague said to me. She said you were too gentle. How can they like you? She didn't use the word "fit", but used the word "like", which shows that girls are not convinced because they don't like it. What they don't like most, of course, is the softness in a man's character. Once I was angry with a sharp female colleague because of a little thing. She later said to me, "Seriously, I think that's what you lack." You see, the female compatriots have said so, and I have no reason not to be cruel and swear. Men just want bayonets to see red, kill people, get angry and rush to the crown, and draw swords. This is what the world appreciates. This is an aesthetic only for men. Why do men and women love each other? Because everyone appreciates the beauty of strength and hardness, it brings different enjoyment. Yes, iron bones and tenderness. With iron bones, you will gain tenderness.

Hardness represents the degree of self-reliance and gives people an impulse of obedience and dependence, which everyone has. The most important quality of a leader is his personality. Real leaders are lions and sheep, not lions, but also pretend to be lions. Lions represent hardness and bring obedience; Sheep represent softness and bring harmony.

Sometimes some leaders are unnatural and pretentious, but they can't do without them. No matter what the leader's personal qualities are, human beings are animals that need to be afraid. Without fear, he will take the initiative to find fear. Is it good for others? Peace * * * is bad? Ok, but if you do, it will definitely be unsatisfactory. It is not that others have the bad habit of bullying, but that all of us have it, which is the result of human biology. Not only humans, but also animals are cruel in adulthood. Look how cute those little tigers and leopards are, but when they grow up, their innocence is gone. People as animals also have this gene. If I say "tigers are good at first", I'm afraid some people will laugh that tigers will eat people when they grow up. But why do you believe the story that "at the beginning of life, human nature is good"? Some people say that "at the beginning of life, people are greedy by nature", which makes sense! We struggle for a greedy word; Doing things for others is to guard against greed; Criticizing society is also a greedy word. Indulge in greed is soft; It is difficult to control greed.

The above is mainly hard. Of course, people's lives need a little softness to adjust. Take your time, say something gentle and try to comfort them emotionally. In fact, whether it is soft or hard, it is a kind of control and anti-control. Proper control, carrot and stick, improper control, traitor relatives.

People should be hard, but they should be really hard, and they can't be weak outside or "silver-like wax spear." As the saying goes: "Hard mouth is not as good as hard hand, and hard hand is not as good as hard heart." Some people have a hard mouth, but they also have a hard mouth. It is not enough to brag about the mountains in Kan Kan. Some people are "hard-handed" and have real kung fu or excellent skills, but sometimes their will is too weak to control their own destiny and they are easily controlled. You can call it a talent, but you can't call it a strongman. Only those who are determined and hard-hearted can often achieve something. Therefore, one should first examine the heart, and be a man should first refine the heart. Let your wind move, my heart will not move. Eighty-one difficulties made the Tang Priest. Although this monk is kind and cruel, he has never wavered in learning Buddhist scriptures in his daughter's country or Pansi Cave. Based on this, I think his master is worthy of the name.

In this life, the so-called suffering is external, there is no hurdle to cross, there is no river to cross, and only spiritual slavery will temper people. How hard is the heart? Personally, I think there are two First, when you face a temptation that doesn't belong to you, knowing that no one will know, you can still be indifferent. Second, when you are faced with difficulties, you still have to fight a doomed war, knowing that you can't succeed.

If there is one last sentence, what I want to say is to make the soft softer and the hard harder.

2。 use both hard and soft tactics

What is softness? Soft is soft, soft is silk, just as the poem "Prosperity in Spring" says: "Smoky willows are softer than silk". Just what? It can't be strong, but it can't be strong, just as the poem "Ode to History" says: "Hard words are hard to chisel, and embedding is not enough for painting." Hard, soft is soft, but in real life, we always see the phenomenon of hard but not hard, soft but not soft. For example, Kaifeng City's "Kaifeng House" has a stone tablet engraved with the names of more than 0/00 chief executives of Kaifeng House in Song Dynasty. Among them, the name of Bao Zheng, who is selfless and brave enough to be Chen Shimei, the husband of Xu Dynasty, is among them. Probably it is people's infatuation with an honest official. When they saw Bao Zheng's name, they had to point with their soft fingers. In the long run, the stone tablet of Bao Zheng's name sank several centimeters. Do you think this is a hard finger or a hard stone? For another example, in Fucheng Park in Beijing, there is a group of bronze sculptures reflecting the camel team that transported coal from the old capital to Beijing. One of the simple and honest coal delivery workers is squatting on the ground and smoking. Perhaps it is people's respect for the messenger who brought coal into the city. Everyone likes to touch his head with soft big hands. In the long run, the bronze cast messenger's head shines brightly, changing the original vicissitudes and antique copper casting. You say it's hard in the palm or hard in copper casting.

Broaden your horizons, and there are more examples: the first factor that makes an enterprise a "Big Mac" is not "hard power" but "soft power". For example, Wal-Mart, the world's largest retail chain, has become a "mobile" enterprise "as rich as an enemy" by relying on the three soft "three elements" of culture, system and characteristics. Maybe this seems abstract. More specifically, we can see that, first of all, based on culture, Wal-Mart publicizes its values with great fanfare: "Customers are always right" and puts forward the slogan of "always low prices". Secondly, Wal-Mart held a lecture on "Wal-Mart Rules" under the protection of the system, and put forward "three basic beliefs" for managers to respect individuals, serve customers and create good performance. As long as customers are around you 10 feet, you should greet customers with a smile "10 feet rule" and "sunset rule" that any employee or customer's requirements should be solved before sunset. This system is also manifested in specific details. For example, when Wal-Mart first entered Dalian, China, it shouted the slogan "Everyone in Dalian gets a raise". How to rise? Is to let ordinary people buy better things at lower prices. To this end, they start with cost control: hand sanitizer and shower gel for employees to wash their hands are commodities that the department cannot sell; The pure water that employees drink for free comes from their own cups, not disposable paper cups; The paper used for copying in the office is a waste of the back of the report; Holiday stores are very busy, from regional operation directors, managers and supervisors of finance, human resources and marketing departments to office secretaries and all civilian staff who put down their work to help; Even the trophy won by the first place in the "Fun Games" is reluctant to buy, but it is replaced by a foam model. Thirdly, Wal-Mart, supported by characteristics, set up a "community store" to operate with characteristics, making its products truly marketable. Examples in life tell people time and time again that there is never an absolute thing in the world, and it is a universal law to learn from each other's strengths. The same is true of hard and soft. Soft can overcome hard, soft can overcome hard. Because, although hard can be powerful, soft can be far-reaching. After all, although softness is not monopolistic, it is diffuse; Although I don't have the strength to punch, I have a subtle concern for others; Although there is no weight to lift, there are responsibilities to bear; Although it does not show the majesty of power, it can show the power of spirit, which is probably why "hard power" is not enough to shock people's hearts, while "soft power" can impress people. Therefore, we should emphasize "hard power" and "soft power". This "soft power" is the power of morality, management and culture. Only in this way can we light the torch in more people's hearts, release goodwill, convey love and play the song of harmony.