My sister-in-law committed suicide due to postpartum depression. I am a little afraid to return to my parents’ home. How can I overcome this mentality?

If a mother is depressed, her family must be related. Her parents-in-law and her husband must be closely related. The husband has the greatest relationship and must not care enough about his wife. I feel sad for the mother who committed suicide. Although it was a crime and wrong for her to kill her daughter, if the family cared more about the mother, pay more attention to her condition, take care of her and give her more love and tolerance. He wouldn't kill his daughter and then commit suicide himself. I wonder if sons are favored over daughters because I have a daughter. For example, my parents-in-law said when I was in confinement, they all took care of their children by themselves during the confinement period. Why do I still have to work when I am in confinement, taking care of the children and cooking for myself? She said it was good to help me cook during my confinement period, so he usually went out to play during the day and night after cooking and could not sit back. My baby was not very obedient and was a bit difficult to take care of during confinement period. And during the confinement period, I also ran an online store because I was not rich and couldn’t afford to put down an online store. During confinement, I cried every day. I don’t have much time to rest when I’m working on an online store. I feel like my husband’s family treats me badly. My mother-in-law’s brothers and sisters are also my husband’s uncles. They said that they also brought the baby by themselves at that time. My husband’s uncle said that his aunt still pushed the stroller during confinement. Go out and buy groceries by yourself. Everyone said that in their time, confinement was done by oneself. Fortunately, my husband is kind to me, and he will definitely help take care of the baby after get off work. So get through it. Postpartum depression is closely related to family members.

You are the sister-in-law, right? Have you teamed up with your mother to bully your sister-in-law before? Otherwise, what are you afraid of? Don’t do bad things, and don’t be afraid of ghosts knocking on your door in the middle of the night.

They are all women. How many of them have not been angry with their sister-in-law or mother-in-law after getting married? Your problem is that there is no silver 300 taels in this place! After your sister-in-law gave birth to a daughter, did you and your mother whisper something behind your back again, and discuss with your mother how to deal with your sister-in-law?

If not, your niece dies, then what are you afraid of as a child? It will only feel distressing! What you are doing is completely against common sense. It only means that when your niece was still alive, you and your mother must have been doing something behind the scenes. Only you know what you did.

That’s why you didn’t feel scared more than 4 months after your little niece’s death. That’s why you were also involved in your little niece’s death. You may not admit it with your mouth, but your heart and behavior have been betrayed. Got you. The relationship between an aunt and a sister-in-law is comparable to the relationship between a mother-in-law and a daughter-in-law. If they don't get along well, it may be even more difficult to handle than the relationship between a mother-in-law and a daughter-in-law. What she fears most is that her sister-in-law and mother-in-law team up to deal with the mother. Is it strange that she is not depressed?

If there is a warm person in your family, your sister-in-law will not have the heart to end her daughter's life. She was pregnant for ten months and once she gave birth, how could she bear the loss of her own flesh? It can only show that your family is too cold-blooded and has not provided any warmth to the mother, not at all, which makes the mother so desperate and makes her feel that her child should not be brought into this world at all. Because children are so unpopular? She was so desperate for this family and everyone in the family that she chose to end her daughter's life.

Touch your conscience and ask yourself, have you ever treated your sister-in-law well? Have you ever cared about your sister-in-law and really liked your little niece? Have you ever advised your brother and family to be kind to your sister-in-law?

Do you have one? I’m afraid you haven’t! Otherwise, what are you afraid of? Because you have ghosts and guilt in your heart, so you are afraid, you cannot face these dead people, you are afraid!

Alas. I feel sorry for your sister-in-law. Afraid is right. I feel guilty.

You have a clear conscience, so why are you afraid? If it's just the fear of death that won't make you afraid to go back. I personally guess that you have a sense of guilt subconsciously. Most of the maternal depression comes from family members, that is, your brothers and parents, and maybe you.

Let’s first talk about your sister-in-law’s suicide. How much did you do to make her so afraid? Did you contribute to the flames? I think a person who commits suicide must have no hope of life before he chooses to die. As long as there is a person who is afraid of If she is better, she won't commit suicide. If you have the intention, why not go back and take care of your nephews and nieces? They are relatives connected by blood to you. You have tried your best, and you can make up for the guilt you feel towards your sister-in-law, right? What are you afraid of?

When your sister-in-law desperately took away her biological daughter who was pregnant in ten months, her heart also died.

When four months later, she rushed to her daughter's side to stay with her forever, what she left behind was despair, resentment, helplessness, helplessness and disillusionment... As long as there was a little hope, she would not She left so heartlessly; if there was still a little attachment, she would not go to such an extreme...

Such a tragic thing happened to your natal family, and they lost a large family in just a few months. One or two fresh lives. Your brother and your parents must be grieving the loss of a good family, but you say you are afraid of returning to your parents' home.

Your fear covers your sadness. If your sadness is greater than your fear, you will not be troubled by this problem at all. You will return to your natal family, comfort your parents and brother, and accompany your loved ones through this family disaster.

The deceased has passed away, and we have no right to speculate on what happened to her during her lifetime.

But we condemn those who encouraged her to go to a dead end; those who would rather let her give up her daughter's life and her own flowery life; those who let her live the last straw rather than grasping it. The indifference and coldness we live in...

Don't do anything wrong in your life, and you won't be surprised if you knock on the door in the middle of the night.

During the confinement period, a woman’s body is very weak and she is tired from taking care of her baby. If the family does not help take care of the baby, the mother will feel really desperate.

I was in confinement in December, and it was very cold at that time. My baby caught a cold, so I gave my brother the money to buy me an air conditioner. The person who installed the air conditioner was still there, and my former mother-in-law said there: Whoever installs the air conditioner will pay for the electricity. I only returned to my hometown two months after I was about to give birth. I never paid the electricity bill at home. Then the electricity bill collector came and I gave him 500 yuan. I said it was enough to use the air conditioner.

In the first half month after the birth, she thought it was because she didn’t help me take care of her daughter at all. I had no experience, so I could only look for answers in books if there were any problems. I bought a few books on this topic. book.

After 15 days, she came to help the baby bathe, and the baby smiled at her. She thought the baby was smart, so she started to help me take care of the baby.

I feel sad when I think of the first half of the month. If a woman does not have a strong heart, it is easy for something to happen during confinement.

When my baby was 3 months old, I took my baby to work out of town. I went to work too early and my eyes were very tired. I was very tired when I came back from get off work, and my ex-husband didn’t wash the diapers. The kind of mother will have the kind of son, so I understand that many women hold grudges during confinement. There is no hatred without reason...

During my confinement period, my sister-in-law was having a miscarriage. My mother-in-law bought a lot of things, and my ex-mother-in-law asked, "Do you want to eat this?" Do you eat that? I knew she wanted to give it to her daughter to eat, so she said she wouldn't eat it. I gave it to her daughter to eat whatever I said she wouldn't eat.

If your sister-in-law is in this situation, no matter who you are, your mother, your brother, or you, there must be someone who cannot shirk the responsibility. The more people contribute to your sister-in-law’s suicide, the more afraid they will be. Otherwise, if you have a clear conscience, you will be afraid. What?

I believe your brother-in-law is not solely responsible for your sister-in-law's suicide. If your brother was the only one who treated her badly, if your parents-in-law could comfort her, then such a big thing would not happen. Think about how vicious your family is...it can make a woman kill her own child and then commit suicide

How did your sister-in-law become depressed? Is there any credit to you? Postpartum depression is usually caused by the husband and other members of the husband's family. If you haven’t done anything wrong, don’t be afraid of ghosts knocking on your door in the middle of the night. If you have done something wrong, just wait for the ghosts to come and take revenge.

What should you do if your sister-in-law kills your niece and then commits suicide because she is afraid of returning to her parents’ home?

Such a big thing happened to your parents’ home, which has already cast a psychological shadow on you. Don’t you dare? Go home, but don’t want to go back. My sister-in-law committed suicide and also killed her little daughter. This is not only a tragedy for my sister-in-law, but also an indelible sorrow for my family. As a family member, you will definitely be affected. How to overcome this mentality? Face the facts, let go of your guilt, and encourage your family.

Face the facts and accept the fact that my sister-in-law and niece passed away. Although this is a very sad thing, there is no way to resurrect people after death. I hope my sister-in-law and niece live well in the next life.

Let go of your guilt. My sister-in-law is suffering from postpartum depression. Her family may not have taken good care of her and comforted her. If I feel sorry for my sister-in-law, then I should deeply repent. On the anniversary of her death, pay more tributes to her or leave her behind. Take good care of her, after all, the saddest thing is her family.

Encourage your family to face life. After the death of two lives, I believe your family must also be burdened with a lot of infamy. They feel unable to hold their heads up in front of others and those who can’t figure out the truth. The meeting will discuss them, so you still need to encourage your family at this time, and you should go back if you should.

In short, you should go back to your parents’ home. There is no need to care about the opinions and opinions of outsiders, because every family has difficulties in chanting sutras.

A person with a righteous heart is invincible, he does not do bad things, and he is not afraid of ghosts knocking on the door in the middle of the night. Your sister-in-law’s postpartum depression means that your family treats her badly and treats her well. It is impossible to be depressed. You are afraid of it. The days are behind you,