"Classmates are isolated, colleagues are isolated, and relatives are isolated": Is it your fault to be isolated?

Share a few isolated stories with you.

Story 1: Isolated by classmates.

This story happened to me, a student I took as a substitute in the remedial class.

There is a student who has poor grades in the class, but is particularly diligent; Belong to that kind, even if you study hard, you seem to be particularly attentive, listen carefully in class and have a high degree of homework completion.

But when it comes to the final exam, the results are always very unsatisfactory.

When I finished learning, I would; But it didn't take long, and I immediately forgot.

This student is a little extreme and introverted, and there are few friends in the class to chat with.

Once I asked him: Why are you always alone? If not, you can exchange and study with your classmates.

As a result, he said: I asked before, and they said I was too stupid to learn how to teach me.

Since then, the student has become very inferior; The more I feel inferior, the more I want to change myself, and I hope my grades will get better as soon as possible.

The reason for being isolated by classmates may be because of a small matter.

Too good grades, or poor grades; Too lively, or too sexy and introverted.

People at two extremes are more likely to be isolated by people around them.

The isolation of students will bring great pressure to the growing children.

Story 2: Isolated by colleagues.

This story was shared with me by a female reader.

Female readers are engaged in the sales industry. Among the nearly 10 employees in the sales department, she is the latest to join the company, but in recent months, she has performed the best.

Because of her hard work, her performance is really good. Speaking with strength, she earned more and won the appreciation of the leaders.

In the contact with customers, customers feel that she has a good personality and is kind, and constantly introduce new customers to her.

This has formed a virtuous circle, as long as she is willing, her grades can always remain first.

However, for those senior colleagues in the company, before she came to the company, the best performers were the old employees.

And her arrival broke this calm situation; But it also caused her to be isolated by those colleagues.

On the surface, everyone is cynical about her, but behind her back, everyone is belittling her; I won't invite her to dinner, and I won't tell her the first time if I have any task arrangements.

She said that after being isolated, the inner pressure was even greater; On the one hand, it is the pressure of work, on the other hand, it is the pressure to deal with the relationship between colleagues.

Story 3: Isolated by relatives.

Have you ever been isolated by your relatives? I do.

This story is to share with you my family experience before I became an adult, and the isolation of my family and my relatives.

When I was a child, my family was very poor and the family conditions were particularly poor. How bad is it? Eating a meal of meat was a very special surprise for me, and I was happier than I got the first place in the exam.

It was also at that stage that relatives around me gradually alienated my family and deliberately kept away from my family; But in fact, even though life was hard at that stage, I still didn't borrow a penny from others.

Relatives in other people's homes will bring you warmth and joy; But for me at that stage, there is no difference between relatives and strangers.

This situation continued until I went to college, and when I graduated from college, their attitude completely changed.

No one will always be poor, and no one will always be unlucky.

Since then, the conditions have improved bit by bit, the state and environment of life, and people's self-confidence and confidence have become more and more sufficient.

Those relatives who once isolated me have now turned to please.

But now the mentality is different.

When I was young, I would think: breaking up with you is the best decision.

But now it seems that taking part in accidental amusement is the normal state of life.

Is it really terrible to be isolated?

I used to think: yes, it is very sad to be isolated.

Now I feel that if I am isolated by the people around me, I can still enjoy this loneliness.

People are changing at every stage; In the past, you felt lonely without friends, and you didn't feel warm without relatives; But now your mind may have changed: as long as your parents are healthy and your family is smooth, everything will be fine.

You are more willing to enjoy loneliness, and you can treat it with a normal heart in the face of isolation.

However, for those who are delicate, particularly sensitive and afraid of loneliness; Being isolated by people around you is tantamount to denying their value.

Many people are prone to this kind of mentality change. In the face of isolation, they often begin to doubt themselves and deny their own value and meaning of existence.

But I want to say to those who are isolated:

Being isolated is not that you are not good enough, but that others can't appreciate you.

You are very kind, but you haven't met anyone who really appreciates you and has similar views with you.

There is a saying in psychology called "please personality".

Everyone must be familiar with it, which means that once there are contradictions and problems, this person will subconsciously please others and blame himself for the mistakes, for fear that others will hate themselves and isolate themselves.

In fact, people who please the personality will be really tired; This kind of fatigue is the accumulation of emotional, physical and psychological stress.

If you want to change this flattering personality, you are not afraid of being isolated. The most important thing is to respect yourself and recognize your own value.

Only those who respect themselves will win the respect of others.

Only by discovering your own value, amplifying your own value and striving to improve yourself will others respect you more and more.

When you are getting better and better, you will find that those who once laughed at you and belittled you will be surprised at the change of attitude towards you now.

Have you ever been isolated?