Why do some highly educated parents fail to educate their children?

Educating children is a very complicated project. In fact, it is not necessarily related to the educational level of parents. More importantly, parents' careful companionship, words and deeds, and educational ideas. Whether a child can succeed is related to the big environment, family education, children's life experience and so on. It is difficult to look at its success factors alone.

Generally speaking, there are several key stages in a child's growth. If parents do not pay attention to and accompany them at these stages, it will often have a bad influence on the physical and mental development of children.

1 and before 3 years old

At this time, it is necessary to establish the child's sense of security and some basic underlying psychological States. As the saying goes: look at the old at three. This sentence is quite reasonable to some extent.

At this stage, children's attachment to the present is so strong that they need to establish a "safe base camp" as their inner strong backing when facing the external environment in the future. Cold, hungry, uncomfortable, but whenever there is any need, there is always someone around, which is very important.

Children with insufficient sense of security tend to feel inferior and anxious when they grow up, and their hearts are not very strong. And many times he doesn't know why he is like this.

2. Primary school 1-3 grade

Basic social rules and study habits are established at this stage. After entering primary school, he is an ordinary student and will begin his long and arduous study career. At this stage, he will encounter many setbacks and challenges that he has never encountered in his life. If his parents don't help, support, correct and motivate him in time, then the child will have problems in dealing with interpersonal relationships, building self-confidence and pursuing a sense of accomplishment in the future. Self-discipline will also be greatly affected. Self-discipline is an important foundation for success.

3. adolescence

This is the most critical period for the formation of children's personality, and it is also the most prone to problems. Rebellious and eager for independence, they began to have their own immature thoughts and cognition of life and society. If they don't do it well at this time, their parents will definitely regret it.

In these periods, parents don't need to have a high level of education. They often need time to accompany, understand and encourage.

Educated parents are usually busy in today's society, but they have little time to take care of their families and spend with each other. For children, they can't feel the warmth and tenderness that families should have. In the process of growing up, parents are often not around when things happen and can't help him or correct him in time. These two points are difficult to ensure children's mental health, so it is easy to form some bad habits and ideas, and it is more difficult to become a successful person.

Many rural parents still educate and cultivate excellent children, because they have simple values, a simple and supportive family atmosphere, and care about their children very much.

In addition, parents' educational ideas and methods are also very important. If we attach too much importance to it and restrict its development too much, it will often backfire.

If a child wants to be a useful person to society, he can't do without his parents' intimate companionship, careful teaching and enough encouragement, and it has little to do with his education level.

Teacher Mao Mao, TLI lecturer of mind mapping certified by Bozan Center (official account of WeChat: mind mapping).

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