Sending a circle of friends to run in the sun was ridiculed? That's because you have violated these three basic ideas of human nature.

Today, even on 9 102, the fact that the circle of friends was ridiculed has not changed at all. Because time is changing and technology is improving, but at least in our limited life,

People's thinking has never changed.

As long as people's thinking will never change, in fact, whether you are running in a circle of friends, drying your baby, or drying other content that can cause others to be jealous, you will be satirized with great probability.

However, it is better to teach people to fish than to teach people to fish. I believe you will not only satisfy one answer and solution. What we need to do is to explore the essence through phenomena, change our views and improve our ability to resist pressure.

Let's talk about it first

Why does the human mind never change?

First of all, there are the following three kinds of bottom thinking, which are deeply rooted in almost everyone's subconscious mind and are born with it. So when you have this idea, you don't have to be shy or ashamed.

Why do you have such strange ideas? Historically, human beings originated about 5 million years ago. At that time, unlike today, human beings had become the king of all things. On the contrary, it is extremely fragile. Facing the harsh living environment around us and the threat of fierce beasts, human beings do not have advantages in speed, strength and body shape. So the life span of primitive people is very short. According to the data, the average age is only about 10. Therefore, in the case of short life, people can get immediate returns, that is, positive feedback, when they do anything they want. After all, time waits for no one ~

Our brain hormones also confirm this. When we get positive feedback, the brain will produce a series of pleasant hormones, such as dopamine, to encourage you to continue.

You will never find the following scenes strange.

This is actually a secret in the depths of our brains. It is your primitive brain that controls your choices.

Need to add here, in the book "Principles", made a wonderful description of the subconscious mind:

So when we send a circle of friends, we will actually send some beautiful things unconsciously, because we all know that such content can easily attract everyone's praise. Therefore, it is not difficult to understand the practice of sending running records to friends. This is all influenced by our primitive brains, and reason can never be defeated by sensibility.

In fact, there is no problem in satisfying personal desires. The problem lies in:

That's because there is another idea in our brain that takes precedence over positive feedback. Its priority is extremely important! It is:

Let's talk about history first. As mentioned above, about 5 million years ago, when human beings originated, the living environment was very bad and resources were extremely scarce, which led to a very big problem. How to solve the food problem? You can't beat wild animals, you can only eat their leftovers and store the food you have picked up for a rainy day.

Therefore, when we explore the address of primitive humans, there will always be many food remains or storage devices at that time, because without storage, human beings can hardly survive. Due to the lack of resources, losing everything may threaten one's own survival. Therefore, the aversion to loss has penetrated into human bone marrow.

Back to the scene in our life, there is a famous hypothesis that can explain how much human beings hate to lose:

Similarly, when we send a circle of friends and record running, because of the needs of the primitive brain, we usually expose something that others have not done, so at this time, the content we send stimulates others' aversion to loss. After all, you did it, others didn't; You got it, others didn't, so for others, it was actually a loss.

What happens when people face loss? Of course, it is in a bad mood, angry and sarcastic words. Therefore, it is normal for you to meet the satire of others in your circle of friends, but it is not normal if you have never met it.

How powerful is the aversion to loss? In fact, as long as you think about the e-commerce promotion activities you usually encounter, you will already understand. For example, in the promotional festivals such as "6 18" and "Double Eleven", will you refrain from giving up your hand in the face of half-price goods? Of course, most people can't help it. Of course, they want to buy it in buy buy.

After talking about the two basic ideas of human beings, there is actually a very important instinct that has not been mentioned, that is:

What does this have to do with the dynamics of friends circle? I'm telling you, this is important. As usual, we should trace back to the source, starting from the origin of mankind.

As mentioned above, in the early days of human birth, human beings were very weak, not only hungry, but also threatened by wild animals. Then the question is, how did man become the king of all things without occupying his size, strength and speed? According to the current research of scientists, one of the reasons is the joint efforts of human beings.

Because primitive humans are at a disadvantage, in order to survive, human beings must live in groups and work together to form a social division of labor. Therefore, the word socialization has been deeply written into human bone marrow from the very beginning of human birth. You will find that accepting positive feedback from others also comes from socializing. After all, if you are always alone, there is no such thing as positive feedback or negative feedback.

Because people are social animals, it is actually impossible for you to put an end to the idea of making friends. Even if you can control it for a while, your emotions will always need an outlet, whether it comes from the internet or real life.

Is it really impossible to send a circle of friends to record running? I am not at ease without running records; Sun ran a record, and others felt uncomfortable; So, what can we do to kill two birds with one stone? Or, is there such a way to kill two birds with one stone in this world?

Remember the method of breaking the game that Xiaoyue said at the beginning of the article? Next, it's time to witness the miracle! (Cough)

What? Why don't you say something so simple? Because the method is simple, but it is not easy to do! There is one of the most important problems before us, that is, how to find this suitable running lap?

A running circle that suits you must have the following three aspects (the following rules also apply to other circles):

1. Satisfy your desire for positive feedback.

This means that this circle needs to be consistent with its own values, or at a lower level, it will praise its own behavior without conflict, and even encourage itself to run more and get better results as soon as possible. For example, athletes in China have achieved good results in the Olympic Games, and the audience in China will cheer for them.

2. It won't make others feel disgusted, and it won't make you feel disgusted.

This means that this circle needs a good running atmosphere. When people see you running, they will only shout 666 in the comment area. Good, good. I didn't run tonight, but I will run tomorrow. I will also be immersed in the record.

3. Let you stop being lonely and play your social role.

This means that the running circle should be big enough, and you can fly freely in this circle and breathe fresh and free air. Just like in the New World, I discovered a new world of my own.

Is this circle easy to find?

Not easy to find.

Then how to break the game? How to find such a world at low cost?

In fact, there is already a solution, that is, using the Yue Run Circle.

Don't turn it off yet Xiaoyue knows that when you say this, you will think that it is just advertising, but Xiaoyue tells you seriously that it is really not, because the mission of running laps is to make sports more fun with creativity and professionalism.

Of course, we don't look at advertising slogans, only at the curative effect.

Does the Yue Run Circle meet the above three requirements? As a running circle, can you rely on running circles?

At present, there are more than 80 million users using Yuepao Circle. They will use the Yue Run Circle as a recording tool for running data. After running, they will punch in the community of the app and share their running dynamics.

The premise of socializing is that there are enough people. At present, Yue Run Circle has already done this. More than 80 million users, and all of them are running enthusiasts. Are you still worried that your running screenshots will be ridiculed? No way, running here is as natural as drinking water and eating, which is enough for you to find your own world.

Of course, the number of users is only the basis. How to socialize better? Of course, it is to communicate with people and better show their value.

If you are not satisfied with this and want more, there are actually more treasures worth digging. For example, you can join a running group, become one of them, and win honors for you with team members. Even if the geographical environment is inconvenient for you to be together, it doesn't matter, because you can train together through the app and even participate in the agreed running project with the team members. Encourage everyone to keep running by paying, and those who complete the contract can get bonuses. Because this part involves recruitment, I'm afraid it will be considered as an advertisement, so it won't be on the picture. You can search for it yourself if you are interested. )

Of course, you can also choose to be a runner, publicize your life values and become a great god in the running world.

If you haven't used the Yue Run Circle before, then the Amway wave here in Xiaoyue is very strong, so it doesn't hurt to try it. This way, you will never be satirized by the screenshots of running records sent by your friends again. (All major app stores can search for "Yue Run Circle")

Finally, abortion has something to say about the word "cultivation". There are two kinds of culture.

Either way, it is actually anti-human and difficult to do. However, after understanding our original three kinds of bottom thinking, I hope everyone can consciously cultivate themselves. In this way, even in different circles in the future, you can face it with confidence and self-discipline, and you can laugh at the situation anyway.