12 general oral formula

12 universal speaking formula, speaking is a skill. In life or work, a person who can talk is always likable, and he can get more opportunities at work, and he will also get happiness and happiness in life. Let's look at the 12 general speaking formula.

12 common speech formula 1 1. A classic case of hypothetical answer method

Me: You are actually a curious person (any adjective).

Mm: why?

Me: Because I won't tell you why, you will always ask why.

Second, playing with women in good faith.

She asked you to get something.

You said: Do you want this?

She nodded, or didn't speak, or prayed.

You look her in the eye and say slowly, I won't give it to you.

She was very angry.

You said: absolutely not, honey trap is useless, I will give it to you.

Third, deliberately misinterpret women.

1, hit her back with something that only a seemingly woman can say.

Exodus: She accidentally touched you. You said, don't you just want my body, not my heart?

2, don't touch me, this is harassment, I'm going to call the police, but you look cute, so I'll touch you, just three times.

I know you don't look back, so I wronged myself and gave you a look.

4. Use sensitive words such as "sleeping", "bed" and "bathing" to make a fuss.

For example: What do you mean "a bed is not a bed"? We don't know each other that well I'm not as casual as you think.

5. She asked, Do you know?

You answer: I know. My mother thought about it for a long time, but she still didn't think we were suitable. Be serious before you laugh.

6. Simply rely on "sex".

She said, you are so stupid.

You said: Yes, I can't find the hole when the light is off.

7. The girl apologizes to you.

You answered: 1. Don't apologize. Many women are usually nervous and say the wrong thing when they see my hairstyle.

I know I am attractive, but I don't know that I can make women say the wrong thing.

Fourth, push-pull method

1, you: "Women are actually related to cats."

She: Why? Otherwise how to call a tigress ".

2. Make her willing to do something unimaginable with you in a short time.

For example, you said: My hair looks good when pushed up. It seems that I haven't washed it for several days.

But cute. It must be great to be my new girlfriend.

Push: You can cook (specific, expensive dishes she will never know).

No, it's time to break up.

Laura: But when you laugh, it's not just your hair that's cute.

Push: What's your smell?

What? What's that smell? She explained.

Laura: Your smell makes me allergic. It seems that we must break up this time.

3. Give her a hand when crossing the street.

Say: Be careful. She should be very grateful to you. You said, I'm afraid that XX car will be damaged by you.

Humor = unexpected and reasonable.

Do you know why someone else's memorial service is going?

Because if you don't go, others won't come to you.

Six, palm reading

Your lifeline is very long. I bet you can live through next week.

Your wealth line is not very good. You didn't have much money before you were 90, but you became rich overnight after you were 90.

Your marriage line tells me that you will believe everything I say now.

You said: Do you know what line this is? Point to any one. Sex line means that you have XX times in your life.

Nonsense: My toilet is as big as your bathtub.

Eight, speaking style: confident and calm.

1, "Can you pretend you don't know me?"

I don't know you at all.

Well, good, very similar, great.

2. "Do you believe in love at first sight, or do you want me to leave you again?" .

Nine, a woman's test for you

They will never allow or be able to fall in love with every man who likes her. They need screening. It's a good thing for a woman to test you, which shows that she is subconsciously trying to stop attracting you.

How to resolve it? A: creatively and humorously misinterpret a woman's test on you, misinterpreting her test as that she likes you too much and chases you too hard.

Example: 1, female: I think you are so annoying.

Me: Women who used to chase me said I was bored. I thought all women were the same, but I think you are still a little different.

W: Why?

Me: They don't chase you so hard, so I've never hated it so much.

2. W: You must be a playboy.

Yes, I am. What makes you feel so much about a playboy is obvious at once.

Yes, I am. Why do you like playboy so much? What's so good about playboy?

Who said anything about playboy? The others are similar.

That's right. What's so good about a playboy?

Humorous comeback method, used to test waste.

W: Do you say that to all the girls?

Don't blink all the time, blink three times a second, you discharge, or I only say this to girls who blink slowly when talking.

Well, actually, I only say this to girls who blink slowly when talking, especially in front of them.

1: Where did you sleep last night?

I miss you at home all night, and I feel bored if I think too much.

2. Who sent you the message?

Your mother, she said that you are not sensible and asked me to take good care of you.

You look so charming when you are angry that I can't bear to kiss you.

10. Anger is an emotion similar to attraction, which is better than no emotion at all.

If a woman asks some tricky and unrealistic questions, she is taking the postgraduate entrance examination for you.

Ask for some practical explanations. She's really getting to know you.

W: What do you do?

You: naked replacement.

Xi。 Attraction is fluid, and attraction is always changing.

1, don't give your emotional rights to others. A man who can be pushed around is not a man who attracts women. If a woman realizes that her words and deeds can easily affect your mood, then your attraction to her will drop sharply.

2, chunk connection method (the trick to achieve) to seize the key words: to seize those that are easy to be ambiguous, pun, misunderstanding, homonym.

3. Why is it called a woman's brother, and the elder brother works well?

Answer: You call her brother, buddy. She is not sure whether you like him or not. Women like the feeling of hanging in mid-air. If you can't guess what you mean to her, you can let a woman guess more and let her think more about you.

4. When dating:

"Well, I'm sorry, I'm a little dizzy. I want to go home and have a rest? "

: Go home? We haven't known each other long. It is developing too fast. I'm not that casual. I'm not going home with you.

: "I mean I'm going back to my home.

Maybe you don't understand, I won't go home with you. I'm not that casual, so don't play tricks on me.

5. Don't be nervous. I am not a good person.

6. In the eyes of women, not making a decision is much worse than making a wrong decision.

Twelve, deep lexical chunks: (only in the tutorial)

Through each other's dialogue, analyze and refine each other's emotions and emotional fluctuations at that time.

Or simply ask: What did you do and how did you feel? What were you thinking? How did you feel then?

convention

1, 93% people will feel tired if they work 2.5 days a week.

2. The intraocular pressure makes her take her eyes off you first. You know women.

3. delay smiling. Smile after about 0 or 5 seconds of eye contact.

4. Speak slowly and pronounce every word correctly.

5. Stop at the right time.

6. In the face of quiet pressure, you should make sure that she can break the silence.

7. Learn to drop the tone and remove the interrogative words behind the interrogative sentences, OK? Get rid of it all and use a falling tone.

8. Change into different styles of clothes.

9. Imagine walking thousands of roads at night and going out the same way in the morning (also from a speech by Ma Yun, which I think has style).

12 general oral formula 2 1. Don't say "but", say "and"

Imagine that you agree with a colleague's idea. You may say, "That's a good idea, but you must,,,," You are glib, and this recognition is greatly reduced. You can express your appreciation and suggestions with a specific hope, such as "I think this suggestion is very good, and it might be better if you make some changes here, …,"

Second, stop saying "tell the truth"

Various suggestions will be discussed at the meeting of various departments. So you say to a colleague, "To be honest, I think …" To others, you seem to be emphasizing your sincerity. Of course you are sincere, but why do you have to emphasize it? So you'd better say, "I think we should,,,"

Third, don't say "first", say "already"

When you want to report the progress of a job to the leader, say, "I must be familiar with this job first." Think about it, this may make leaders (including yourself) feel that you still have a lot to do, but you will never feel that you have accomplished one thing. Such a speech attitude will give people a feeling of pessimism, not optimism. So at this time, you'd better say, "Yes, I'm familiar with this job."

Fourth, don't say "only"

If you offer a solution strategy, you say, "This is just my suggestion." Please note that this is absolutely impossible! Because of this, your ideas, contributions, including your own value will be greatly devalued. It was originally a very helpful idea to solve the problem, but it only made colleagues feel that you were not confident enough. It is better to say "this is my suggestion" and try to change it!

Fifth, don't say "wrong", say "wrong"

A colleague accidentally dropped the customer's things on the ground, which made them dirty. He is apologizing to the customer. At this time, you must know that he made a mistake and annoyed the customer, so you said to him, "This is your fault, and you have to bear the responsibility." In this way, it will only cause each other's boredom. Your purpose is to reconcile the contradictions between the two sides and avoid disputes. So, express your negative attitude euphemistically and explain your reasons realistically. For example, "What you did was really wrong, and you'd better be responsible for it."

Six, don't say "originally,,,"

When you and your interlocutor hold different views on something, maybe your previous expression is: "I originally held different views." A seemingly insignificant little sentence, instead of highlighting your position, makes you lose your position. Similar expressions such as "as true" and "strictly speaking" simply say: "I have different views on this."

Seven, don't say "when is it nearby", but say "what time is it?"

When you talk to an important client on the phone, you say to him, "I'll call you again around this weekend." This will give the impression that you don't want to make a decision right away, or even worse-others will think that your work attitude is unreliable. Let's say, "I'll call you tomorrow 1 1 exactly."

Eight, don't say "must ...", but say "please,,,,"

When all the work partners are already under great pressure, you say to everyone, "You must imagine again,,,,," I'm afraid it won't bring efficiency, but it will bring pressure to others and make them rebellious. But what about the other way around? Who will refuse a friendly and polite request, so it is better to say "Please imagine …"

Bad news in the most elegant way. Speaking skills: We seem to have encountered some situations.

You have just learned that a very important case has gone wrong: if you immediately rush to the boss's office to report the bad news, even if it's none of your business, it will only make the boss question your ability to handle the crisis, or you will be scolded and take it out on you. At this time, you should speak your speaking skills calmly, don't be emotional, don't panic, and don't use words like "problem" or "trouble": let your boss feel that things are not insoluble, and "we" sounds like you will stand on the same side with your boss and fight side by side.

X. boss is duty-bound when calling. Speaking skills: I'll deal with it right away.

Making such an answer calmly and quickly will make your boss intuitively think that you are an efficient and obedient subordinate; On the contrary, an indecisive attitude will only annoy the responsible boss. I may take it out on you when I can't sleep well at night!

Show team spirit and presentation skills: Zhuo Zhuo's idea is really good!

Zhuo Zhuo came up with a brilliant plan that even the boss admired. You can't wait for your brain to move faster than others. It is better to steal his light than to pull a long face and be unhappy. The method is as follows: say this speaking skill when the boss can hear you. In this society where everyone wants to get ahead, a subordinate who is not jealous of his colleagues will make the boss feel that this person is pure in nature and full of team spirit, so he will be treated differently.

Persuade colleagues to help with speaking skills: this report can't be done without you!

There is a difficult job that you can't finish by yourself, so you must ask someone for help. So you found a colleague who is best at this job. How can I get others to help you willingly? Send a top hat, fill it with vermicelli soup, and promise to return it one day; In order to live up to his reputation in this respect, that kind-hearted person will generally agree to your request. However, don't forget to write it down when you make achievements in the future.

12 general oral formula 3 high eq oral formula

Skillfully avoid what you don't know;

Let me think it over and give you an answer before three o'clock, ok?

The boss asked you a business-related question and you didn't know how to answer it. Never say "I don't know". This kind of speaking skill can not only get you out of danger temporarily. It also makes the boss think that you are very concerned about this matter and suddenly don't know how to say it. However, you must do your homework afterwards and hand in your answers on time.

Speech skills of intellectual retreat and harassment;

It seems that this kind of conversation is not suitable for office!

If you can't stand the yellow accent of your male colleagues, this sentence promises to shut them up. Men do like to talk dirty sometimes, but it's hard to tell whether it's unintentional or intentional. This sentence can make the unintentional people understand that enough is enough. If he doesn't mean to shut up, it constitutes harassment, and you can report it to the relevant person.

Reduce workload without trace: speaking skills;

I understand that this matter is fundamental; Can't we check the work at hand first and put the most important thing first?

First emphasize that you understand the importance of this task, and then ask the boss for instructions to give priority to the new task and the original work. Let the boss know that your workload is actually very heavy. If you have to, some things have to be postponed or handed over to others.

Appropriate flattery speaking skills:

I want to know your opinion on a case.

Many times, you are in the same room with high-level dignitaries, and you have to say something to avoid the embarrassing situation of silence. However, this is also an excellent opportunity for you to win the favor of the top management. But what should I say? Daily life is definitely not suitable for being moved out to talk about the weather at this time, and it will not impress the top management at all.

At this time, the most appropriate topic is a thought-provoking topic related to the company's prospects. Ask a big boss a question he cares about and knows well, but when he talks about his experience, you will not only benefit a lot, but also make him sit up and take notice of your eagerness to learn.

Speaking skills of admitting mistakes without causing dissatisfaction with the boss;

It was my negligence, but fortunately.

Mistakes are inevitable, but the way you state them will affect the boss's opinion of you. It is very important to be brave enough to admit your mistakes, because shirking responsibility will only make you look like an annoying, weak and useless person, but that doesn't mean you have to apologize to everyone for it. The trick is not to point all the finger at yourself, but to admit that it will dilute your mistakes and distract people.

Show calm speaking skills in the face of criticism;

Thank you for telling me. I will consider your suggestion carefully.

When a person's hard-earned achievements are revised or criticized, it is really distressing. You don't need to write your dissatisfaction on your face, but you should let the person who criticizes your work know that you have received his message. Being neither humble nor supercilious makes you look more confident and worthy of respect, and lets people know that you are not a wayward person or a person who can't stand setbacks.