How will the status quo of marriage change after a few years of marriage?

As a person who has been through it, I feel that the present situation of life after marriage has changed to some extent, which can be roughly divided into several time points: 1. One year; 2. Three years; 3. Seven years; Four seven years later.

In the first year, I feel more fresh. The young couple just started a sustainable two-person world life, and both psychologically and physically got great satisfaction. This year will basically be spent in happiness and small friction. They also habitually enjoy the life experience when they are in love, watch movies, accompany friends to eat and drink, travel, and have their own hobbies. Boys play ball games, and girls watch movie series. Love has just begun.

In the third year, many families revolve around a very important and common topic, children. Many young couples have a love crystallization at this time. The baby has just been born or has learned to be funny. At this time, most of the energy and attention of the young couple's life are put on the children, and more is to enjoy the joy and warmth of family, but at the same time, more frictions and small contradictions are brewing, communication is smooth or one party is reasonable, then everything will be fine. If the needle is pointed at the head, no one will let anyone. The first world war in love may be slowly brewing. The participating countries in this world series are not only young couples, but also allies behind them and parents of both sides. Once this war is fought, it will be indiscriminate, and no one is right or wrong. In the end, it will definitely be a lose-lose. The small one is an unpleasant experience, and one party can cross the river. If it is big, there will be many wife-to-child competitions and even tragedies from time to time. Originally, it was for the good of the children, but as a person who has experienced it, I really have to advise those young people who have just entered marriage or are still working hard for marriage to handle the three-year dispute carefully.

Next, I want to talk about the seven-year itch. I think everyone has heard of it, but how many people really take it seriously and treat it as an important exam question? In fact, the seven-year itch has scientific basis: first, physically, love is actually a pleasure produced by a large number of "love hormones" and "marriage hormones" produced by the brain, but these two hormones will not be maintained all the time, and they will gradually decrease when the brain is tired. This period of time is about seven years, and then people may deny this love and look for new "excitement", which is the "seven-year itch" On the other hand, there are psychological factors: seven years is easy to cause problems such as the growth of both sides, liking the new and hating the old, meeting more ideal people, and the time and space distance between feelings. So we must take the seven-year itch seriously, everyone, every love. If two people use faith and wisdom to face the seven-year itch together and know how to run a marriage, crossing this mountain is the sublimation of love, making it lasting and even eternal.

After seven years of itching, people's minds are generally mature, and they are more accustomed to life, so after seven years, they can basically be omitted with nine words: live, live and live. ......