Human nature: Neighbors don’t want each other, relatives don’t have friends, the ancestors’ words make sense!

In life, the most fortunate thing for us is to be able to make a good neighbor and friend, because we always see each other without looking up. If both parties can be considerate and understand each other, then this will avoid a lot of troubles and trivial matters in the future. Just as Zhang Ying, the Minister of Rites during the Kangxi period of the Qing Dynasty, said in a letter to his family: A letter from home that is thousands of miles away is just a wall, so why not let it be three feet away? Do you think how big this pattern is? But not everyone can meet a good neighbor, especially the following two types of neighbors. We cannot afford to offend them, so it is best to hide away and have less contact with them, otherwise it will only cause trouble.

This kind of neighbor cannot see that we are better off than he is. We usually live an ordinary life, but once we are better than him in some aspect, he will be envious, jealous and hateful. He will either speak to us in a strange way, or he will have hidden things in his words, or even stumbling upon us behind our back. The best way to deal with such neighbors is to stay away, so that everyone can have a certain sense of distance. Isn't there a saying that says that the closer people are, the easier it is to compare them. We take the initiative to make the distance between each other farther, so that the other party has no object to compare with.

Although in life, we do not need a drop of water to be repaid by a spring. But for what we do for each other, the other party needs to be grateful. To make him grateful does not mean that he must ask the other party to repay him, but to make the relationship between each other better. Especially among neighbors, harmony is important.

But there is a kind of neighbor who is ungrateful. Our contribution always comes to nothing, so forget it. The key is that the other party is used to asking for it. When one day we don’t pay for the other party, the other party is not used to it. He always feels that we owe him something, or feels that we have a problem with him, look down on him, etc., which makes him resentful.

For such neighbors, if we suffer a loss once, forget it, and we can turn around in time. It’s not that we don’t want to lend a helping hand, it’s that we don’t want to cause too much trouble.

After we have talked about the two neighbors not being friends, let’s talk about the two relatives not being friends. This is even more important.

Although it is said that relatives have broken bones and connected tendons, and the tendons can be there, we still have to keep a certain distance from relatives who are duplicitous and have less contact with each other. As the saying goes, distance creates beauty. In this way we neither offend others nor hurt ourselves.

Because of their duplicitous relatives, they always like to do one thing in front of their faces and another behind their backs. People do one thing before others and another thing behind them. Often we count the money for them after being sold by them. In the end, I can only be a mute and suffer from the pain of eating Coptis chinensis. Therefore, it is better for us to have less interaction with such relatives and let everyone maintain appropriate etiquette.

There is a saying that those who are close to vermilion are red, and those who are close to ink are black. If you interact more with relatives who are good eaters and lazy people, you will naturally become good eaters and lazy people. Because free pies will not fall from the sky, and you will sit back and live in vain. Therefore, if we want to make our lives better and better, we can only rely on ourselves to work hard to get rich.

We should not try to change such relatives, because if they could be changed, they would have changed long ago and would not wait for us to tell them. The best way is to have less contact with them and don't let your good qualities be ruined by them.

Although no one is perfect, no gold is perfect. But for the above types of people, their conduct will affect our future lives. It is not easy for us to criticize them, but it is also not conducive to our deep friendship.

Neighbors do not want each other, and relatives do not want to be friends! What do you think about this? Everyone is welcome to leave a message for discussion!