What worries boys in adolescence?

Adolescence is the best time to acquire knowledge, and it is also the most impressive period of youth in life. People are always guessing, what is the most talked about topic among young friends? I often hear people talking about teenagers. People say that the minds of boys and girls are the most difficult to understand. But if we listen more from their standpoint and listen to what they really think in their hearts, we may see a different, colorful world of youth.

Many people may feel a little puzzled when they see this topic. In fact, there is nothing to doubt. It is said that adolescent girls have many worries, and naturally young boys also have worries. Everyone knows that as a boy, a boy who is about to become an adult has his first love and is full of curiosity about everything in the world. They are such a sensitive group. They are full of enthusiasm and yearning, pursuit and hope. Usually when we look at these boys, they usually appear carefree, cynical, or lively and cheerful... On the surface, they appear to be So strong, in fact they are so fragile and timid. They need people's care, support and understanding. They need the respect of others, and they hope to be encouraged by friends and family.

At all stages of life, you will encounter various problems, of course including emotional problems. There is a process of understanding them from immaturity to maturity. Adolescence is in a vague, hazy and immature stage. Entering adolescence means that boys and girls have ended the childhood period of "young people don't know what it's like to be sad" and have entered the "troublesome years". At this time, as they grow older and gain more knowledge, their inner world is constantly changing. Due to the continuous development of their psychology, their emotional self-control ability has been greatly improved compared to when they were children. They have learned to hide it, and they hide it very well. They hide their true emotions and have the characteristics of psychological "lock-in". Children who used to be talkative and laughing may become taciturn or even withdrawn when they enter adolescence. They often shut themselves in their rooms, rarely talk to their parents, and even refuse their parents' care and care.

After reading the boy’s self-narrated story below, I wonder how my friends will feel!

Recently, I found that I have changed. I have become taciturn and do not want to pay attention to anyone. My classmates and teachers say that I am not gregarious. This way I am lonely and indifferent... The reason for using " The cold word "falling into the desert" is because I really feel that no one can understand me, and no one can help me. Therefore, I was never willing to share some of my thoughts with my teachers, let alone my parents. I locked it deeply into my heart and hid it forever, allowing myself to bear it and endure its torture. It's like some huge force, weighing me down so hard that I can't breathe. It's like a huge boulder, which makes me feel so uncomfortable. That heart-breaking feeling is really painful. It hurts so much that I want to cry. If If crying can relieve some pain, I really want to cry all at once.

When I had the unique worries of adolescence, I was full of infinite love for the opposite sex. At that time, I thought, could this be the so-called ‘love’? At that time, I thought about her all day long. When I closed my eyes, her shadow would appear. On the way home from school every day, I would secretly follow her. I wanted to make friends with her. It was very difficult for me to make friends with her. A good kind of friend. But I don't dare to get too close to her. She is so excellent, and what about me? I felt that I was too far away from her, and I thought at that time that I would like to protect her silently.

The days passed like this, until one day more than a month later, I failed to see her. I waited at the school gate for more than half an hour, but still no sign of her. , could something happen to her? My first thought at the time was. I walked in the direction of her going home. I had no idea what I was going to do. I just wanted to go to her home to see her and see if she was okay and if she had arrived home.

While walking, three boys came towards me. One of the taller ones walked up to me. He grabbed my collar without any explanation and said fiercely: "I'm warning you. Boy, from now on, don’t follow XX. If I see you, be careful of turning you into meat!” I was still standing there dumbly, and several boys had already walked away.

The next day, the girl appeared safe and sound. There was nothing abnormal about her. I was very happy to see her again. When school was over, I still followed her to escort her. For so many days, she didn't seem to notice me. I was thinking, if she knew that I was escorting her, if she knew that I wanted to be friends with her, she would Won't you accept me? Look! Are you dreaming again? I don’t know how long these days have passed. It was another Saturday afternoon. On the way home from school, I followed her not far behind. I found that she seemed unhappy recently. Maybe I was too worried.

While walking in tandem, at a corner, the three boys appeared in front of me again. No, to be precise, it was the tall boy in front of her. He was pulling the girl and pulling her angrily. When I saw this, I rushed towards that person desperately, not knowing where I was coming from. With so much power, it's just a kick to rush over. The flying kick was really enough for the man. He turned around angrily and punched him, saying: "What a boy! You are really brave. You still want to be a hero to save the beauty?!" "Okay" Ah, I will help you today!" Then, there was a burst of punches and kicks. The girl was crying and shouting not to hit her, not to hit her anymore! Several people finally stopped hitting me (maybe I had become a meat paste by then). The big boy yelled: "I'm her boyfriend!" Then, he held the girl out of my sight.

I was thinking, why does the girl in my heart have such a boyfriend? She didn't explain, and maybe she didn't need to, but I think he was definitely not the boyfriend of her choice. It’s hard for me to understand, and I can’t understand it now, because from then on, the girl never came to school again. I don’t know where she went. I only know that I failed to protect her. I really hate it, I hate myself. I am so weak, I hate myself for being useless, I hate myself for not being able to protect even a girl, I hate myself...

Finally, in these days, I spent two years, and my life seemed like Restored. I am the same as usual, just a little more sad and a little more enlightened. Adolescent boys always like to express themselves in front of the opposite sex, always want to attract the attention of friends of the opposite sex, and always want the opposite sex to worship them!

There are many worries between girls, and their hair and nails seem to hide many secrets. They can talk to their parents or sisters about their concerns, or write down some of their concerns in a diary (girls generally have the habit of writing diaries), etc. And boys and boys often only have boring banter or chat about current affairs issues. They never talk about their own concerns. It's not that they don't have anything on their mind, but they don't want to show their vulnerable side, because in the boys' hearts they think they are men, and only when men don't shed tears easily are they considered men in vain.

The boy's thoughts are not the clear spring water, nor the blooming snow lotus; the boy's thoughts are like ancient texts, and the boy's thoughts are like the darkest star in the night sky. There are too many worries in adolescence.

Boys entering adolescence want to be independent and mature. They especially need to discuss and communicate with others, but they are unwilling to open their hearts. They feel that they are not understood no matter what they do; even their classmates who were usually good friends are no longer so close and talk to each other about everything. They are worried and don't know who to talk to. Therefore, German psychologist Spranger said: "No one looks out at the world with more yearning eyes from their lonely little room than young people. No one is more eager to contact and understand the outside world than young people in deep loneliness. "This kind of immaturity and this feeling of loneliness is a manifestation of the development of adolescent self-awareness.

In fact, everyone has their own concerns, especially adolescents.

Good men are ambitious in all directions. As they grow older and gain more experience in social life, they will gradually understand the society. Through the deepening of self-understanding, they will be able to grasp themselves and be confident in themselves. At this time, they can both think independently and be willing to communicate with others. At that time, they have truly grown up.