In Buddhism, how to eliminate your own jealousy? I feel so jealous!

In Buddhism, how to eliminate your own jealousy? I feel so jealous!

No matter which Buddhist scriptures, they all teach people to diligently practice precepts, concentration, and wisdom, and extinguish greed, anger, and ignorance.

How to overcome hatred

Practice Buddhism, be brave and diligent, and wholeheartedly pursue the Tao. If you encounter dissatisfaction or adversity, you will not be angry at the moment, your temper will not explode, and you will be able to When the situation changes, the mind and the ground are as if they are still. This person has realized the endurance of the unborn Dharma. This is a continuation of the realization for many lives and kalpas. In addition, in this life, he is diligent in learning and understanding, and he is enlightened step by step, and reaches Nirvana every second. This is why This majestic and wonderful fruit is born.

Unsatisfactory situations are difficult to tolerate, difficult to cultivate, and difficult to practice and achieve. Therefore, resentment will arise in your heart and you will lose your temper. This will destroy your image, damage your virtue, make you sad, pollute your Buddha nature, and interact with others. Having bad karma, everyone sees it and avoids it. It can be seen that getting angry and resentful will harm one's own virtue and hurt the other person, and it will lead to the retribution of asuras in the next life. In theory, Buddhist disciples should have a deep understanding of such a right view; in terms of practical realization, they should earnestly practice the practice of patience. Although the practice of patience is very difficult, you cannot help but live peacefully and diligently. Why? Because practitioners want to realize Bodhi, obtain the Dharmakaya, and reach Nirvana. If they do not pay a considerable price, how can they obtain the pure and solemn Bodhi fruit? The three places in the ten directions are the diligent practice of the holy life and the solemn blessings and wisdom of all the Buddhas for the three great asamkhya kalpas. They have to pay an indescribable price in exchange for it. They even sacrifice their lives and dedicate their bodies and minds to the needs of all sentient beings. One by one, they are willing to do so. Their humiliating and burden-bearing mood bears the sins of all sentient beings, their suffering, pain, grief, sadness, tolerance, compassion, anger, and even the depth of their hearts of compassion, joy and equanimity. Only the Buddhas themselves know their warmth and coldness. These are all necessary. Only by paying a considerable price and the spirit of dedication and sacrifice can we achieve ultimate nirvana. As the saying goes: There is no natural Sakyamuni, only the natural Amitabha!

Indeed, it is difficult to endure anger, and it is difficult not to lose your temper. Therefore, the Buddha often mentioned in the scriptures that practicing the practice of patience is the most difficult course to achieve among all the methods. The scriptures quoted are as follows :

The Buddhist Sutra says: "If you indulge in hatred, you will hinder your path and lose your merits and virtues. Tolerance is a virtue, and it cannot be achieved by observing the precepts and practicing asceticism. If you can practice ninja, you can become a powerful person." If he cannot endure the poison of evil words with joy, he will not be called a wise person. So what is the harm of anger? It will destroy all good dharma and destroy good reputations, which people will not like in this life and the next. An angry mind is worse than a fierce fire. It should always be guarded against the thieves of merit and virtue. There is nothing wrong with it. Those who are not practicing Taoism can still be forgiven for being angry. Those who are monastics and practicing Taoism have no desire, but they have no fault. , It’s impossible. It’s like a thunderbolt bursting into flames in a cold cloud. It’s not what you should do.”

If you want to subdue your anger and temper, there are countless ways to do it. Here are ten tips for you: 1. Treat the other person as a future Buddha. 2. This person came from the beginningless kalpa and once served as my parents, brothers, sisters, and dependents. 3. Anger and temper are useless. They hurt your own soul and pollute your own nature first, and then hurt the other person. 4. As long as you form bad karma, the cause and effect will inevitably come back in a circle, and you will eventually suffer for yourself. 5. All the Buddhas in the ten directions suddenly gave up their hatred and became Buddhas, and we should do the same. 6. Purifying anger is Bodhi. Indulging anger and temper willfully is the cause of degradation, and the consequences are in the three paths. 7. To achieve Buddhahood, there is no natural Shika and Amitabha. If we want to achieve Buddhism, we must pay a considerable price. After all, there is no dream of getting something for nothing in the world. 8. Anger is a product of the six paths. The extremely filthy and impure anger in the Buddhist path has no reason to be stored in the eight consciousness fields of practitioners. 9. The purification and cessation of hatred is the foundation for achieving the Four Saints. 10. Buddhas and Buddhas have the same Tao, Dharma and Dharma are equal, and Dharma is incomparable. Therefore, the nature of hatred at the moment is the Bodhi nature. The nature is the same, but the confusion and enlightenment are different. If you realize the middle way, there is no duality. Gradually practice and practice and gradually become a Buddhist.

1. If anger is the nature of ordinary people, there is nothing to be angry about, because his character is like this. So if a person is angry with you, why are you angry too? It's not necessary because that's just his character.

2. Usually this person is kind in nature. If he is angry with you by chance, there is no need to be angry with him. He is usually kind, but it is just because of fate that he can't think about anything, and his mood is unstable, etc. Factors that make him angry, you don't have to be angry for his anger, because his essence is kind.

3. The stick hit me, and it was the stick that directly caused me pain. I should blame the stick; but the stick was taken by people, so I should be angry; but people are caused by worries, so I should blame the worries. No one should be blamed. From the cause of suffering, defilements are derived layer by layer. When someone scolds you, you should not be angry at the sound, because you feel uncomfortable hearing the sound, so you hate the sound. To put it in perspective, it is the person who scolds you, and it is the worries that make people scold; in other words, it is a matter of worries.

4. The harm done to me by other people’s anger is the karma I have caused in the past. For example, the current situation in Tibet is the karma caused by this group of people in the past to another group, and then encountering some current karma, I feel You will get the result of Tibet today. From the big picture to the entire international community, to the small aspects to personal karma, the root cause is mainly caused by past karma. Therefore, when others scold you, you must have a view of karma and eliminate karma.

5. When someone hurts you with a knife or a stick, you will feel pain. However, is this pain only caused by the knife and stick? Because your body can easily fall into the suffering nature of pain. Your body itself is suffering. If your body is iron today, how can it hurt when hit with a stick? If it doesn't hurt, you won't be angry. In fact, pain is not a problem between sticks and knives, but because the body is suffering, that’s why you are in such pain. One part of the cause of suffering is your body, not just external causes and conditions, so you should not be angry about the causes and conditions. .

6. When we are angry, there seems to be an object of anger like an arrow target. When we are angry, it seems that the object is very real. He scolds me, I scolds him, and they scold each other. It seems very real. In fact, they are all related to each other. Which one do you want to blame? Are you angry at yourself or others? Thinking about coming back is all caused by fate. You have to think more about this truth, otherwise you will never expect it when the realm comes.

7. People will suffer pain only if their mental patterns are not tamed. If you have the correct concept, the pain will not come. It is caused by wrong concepts of troubles. Therefore, it is wrong for you to voluntarily accept troubles. Be angry, be angry with troubles, and do not be angry with enemies, because this is due to your wrong mental models and concepts.

8. The other person is angry with me because I have caused karma in the past. If the other person is angry with me, there will still be karmic retribution in the future. So in fact, it is me who harms him, not the other person who harms me. I provided the cause for him to feel more pain in the future. You should think that when the other person is angry with me, it is me who is harming him, not him who is harming me.

9. Compassion and patience can be cultivated by enemies. Therefore, the enemy is the cause and condition for my good deeds, but I become the cause and condition for the enemy's evil deeds. Therefore, I am the state in which he is angry, allowing him to Pain and little benefit, why should I be angry with him? I show great kindness to my enemy, but I show little kindness to my enemy. I am the one who hurt him, so how can I be angry with my enemy again?

10. I can’t stand the other person being angry with me, so how can they tolerate me being angry with them? This is empathy, so why should I be angry?

11. Working hard for your relatives and friends is only a benefit in this life. If you are angry because your relatives and friends are hurt, you will fall into the three lower realms in the next life, so it is meaningless and no one will miss it. Each karma will be rewarded. , you have to pay, but don’t pay foolishly. Rice does not mean that we will be full, but eating will make us full; it means that enemies do not mean that you should practice patience, but you can still practice patience because of your enemies. You need to think about the merits and demerits.

12. The other person is in a state of ignorance and behaves in anger out of anger. If I am still angry with this person, I am an idiot. If you scold the other person and he is angry, it is foolishness. If you are angry yourself, wouldn't that make you even more foolish? You are already sorry for making others angry, but it is even more sorry for you to be angry at others again. No matter whether the other person is angry for no reason or not, if the audience is at fault, the Buddha will not become a Buddha. No matter what the other person is like, I have to cultivate myself. The Buddha cares about us because of his great compassion. Otherwise, if we were like this, the Buddha would have run away long ago because all living beings are disobedient. Sometimes we are very cunning. When we look at each other, we think that what the other person did is not good. If we encounter the same thing, we will forgive ourselves very easily. So if the other person feels comfortable because of his or her ignorance, then if we blame others for their ignorance, aren't we also ignorant?

13. When we are scolded by others, it is a serious crime and we take it lightly. We give up a hundred to get a thousand - I am now a human being. When someone scolds me, I still have Buddhist teachings to change my mind and feel the consequences of the evil realms of hell and animal realm in the past. I will receive retribution in the human realm in advance; if I were a dog and I didn’t have any thoughts about Buddhism, I would be very painful when I was angry.

Don't talk about animal ways. Some old people have a good life, but when they are dying, they are suffering from illness and are very greedy and have no Dharma. Do you know how miserable they are? We can clearly see that people with Dharma are better able to face adversity, but this is not the case for people without Dharma. You must prepare quickly, otherwise it will not be like this when the time comes.

14. You are annoyed by the other party because you are greedy. Greed is the foundation, anger is the surface, greed is the fundamental cause, and anger is the direct cause. The other person will be angry with you because he is greedy; he cannot get what he wants, so he is angry. The same is true for everyone.

15. You will be angry only if your heart is unhappy, and you will be angry only if your mind is too small and narrow. Therefore, it is your fault, not the fault of others. If a person is easily angry, it means he has a small heart. If he gets angry when others are angry, doesn't he have a small heart? No one will believe me if I say I have practiced a lot.

16. The fault of anger is that the good deeds in the past are reduced and later reborn in the three evil realms, so think about it. Practice patience more, otherwise a thought of anger will open millions of doors, and nothing can be done.

17. When the enemy is praised by others, there is no need to be jealous and unhappy; perhaps when the enemy is praised, you should also join the ranks of praising the enemy. This will make it easier to practice the four good practices and To fulfill his convenience, the question is, do we have such a mind? Can you tell it now? And everyone creates their own karma. If you say words of praise unintentionally, there will be consequences without intention. The other person will let go of your mind because of your praise. This is the result of letting go. Regardless of the effect, the key point is whether you have cultivated yourself. Don't look at the problem from the perspective of temporary interests, but look at the problem from the fundamentals - he is a sentient being who wants to escape suffering and gain happiness, and he also needs praise and encouragement from others. As long as he is a sentient being and he does the right thing, we should praise and encourage him. If you look at the problem from the perspective of stakes, it will be endless. In fact, it is not that difficult to praise. The reason why you cannot admire your enemies is because your mind is unbalanced and you still have troubles such as jealousy and self-love attachment. This is the reason why you cannot speak out. You should slowly start with your thoughts and feelings, and then practice it with your body and mouth. Sometimes, you can pat someone on the shoulder and praise someone of the same sex.

18. Even if the Three Jewels are slandered, you should not be angry. Others have no ability to slander the Three Jewels. The Three Jewels will not be slandered. Therefore, there is no need to be angry with those who destroy Buddhism. Why should you? Angry mind, because there are only pitiable beings and no hateful beings. Therefore, there is no need to agree that the other party is wrong, but being angry only hurts oneself and does no harm to others. The Three Jewels will not be harmed by others. Without the Three Jewels, there is no need to be angry.

19. Practicing the four immeasurable hearts early in the morning every day, practicing compassion, joy and equanimity - I hope that all the sins and sufferings of all living beings will mature in my body, etc. The enemy is also in all living beings. If you are angry with him or don't like him, Him, aren't you cheating? This is something to be ashamed of and needs to be repented of.

20. Let all sentient beings be happy and seek to become a Buddha. They have already achieved happiness. Why are you not happy but angry? As far as an enemy is concerned, haven’t you made the vow to save him and become a Buddha? The enemy has worked very hard to be happy, so why aren't you happy?

21. If you have vowed to do something to benefit others, you should be happy when you do it to benefit others. Why should you be angry?

22. If the enemy gets bad things, you are happy; if the enemy gets good things, you are not happy, but have you actually harmed the enemy? It's because of your own ignorance. If you don't like him when he's not good, or if you don't like him when he's good, it's just to satisfy your troubles, because only troubles will be satisfied, so that you can continue reincarnation.

23. To be praised by others is to covet a good reputation. Sometimes when others praise you, you think you are great, and you feel arrogant and despise others. You are jealous of others who are better than you, and you are arrogant when they are not as good as you. So be careful when others praise you, and don't think that you are good at it. Having said that, how do you compare with a Bodhisattva? Not even close! Do you still have the heart to praise yourself? If you think about it, when the other person praises me, I think that the other person is very good at cultivation, understands the merits and sees the merits, does not see the faults, can see the merits of others as the merits, and rejoices in his praises. In this way, there is no fault. If I feel that it is great, it will be a fault. Or the concept of sharing, I wish to share the happiness of being praised with sentient beings, or I wish that the other party has the same merit as me. This is a matter of one thought.

24. If someone slanders me, it can stop me from being arrogant, free me from fear, and generate renunciation. It can help me create the cause and condition to eliminate my own troubles, and prevent me from entering the three evil realms. Why? Not grateful? If there is adverse fate, this part must be repositioned. Learning Buddhism is to use the Dharma to change thoughts and hearts. This value is the same as the value of the guru; he will help me prevent troubles and evil deeds, why not accept it? If you are not used to it, you will not be able to stand it if it is unreasonable. In this case, where will the Dharma go? There must be a method for this.

25. I only want to achieve liberation and become a Buddha. I don’t need others to praise my reputation; once someone slanders me, I will cherish him even more.

26. Some people say: I am slandered by others because I let others damage my blessings. If others slander you, they think your reputation will be worse. If your reputation is bad, you will have less support and your blessings will be lower. It is wrong to say that it cannot be obtained. Although others slandering you will bring you a bad reputation, a wise person will not judge you just because you are slandered by others. This is a rumor of a fool, and the rumor makers stop at the wise. Whether your blessings will decrease or not is accumulated by yourself, not because of other people's relationships. Others' slanders increase your blessings, not reduce them. The reason is: the enemy is the best opportunity for you to practice patience. , the practice of patience is the best way to accumulate blessings. Therefore, enemies are there to accumulate blessings for you, not to destroy them.

27. Anything can produce fruit or have benefits, because the cause is the condition for the fruit; if the cause is the main cause of the fruit, it means that the cause has its benefits. For example, a beggar wants you to Giving birth to good luck. In the same way, the enemy helps you to endure humiliation, not harms you, but helps you; but why are we in pain and smoldering when facing the enemy? What's going on? Not repaired.

28. Generally speaking, it is easier to give alms, because there are more beggars, and it is difficult to practice patience because it is difficult to do it. It must be reasonable and not angry. The object of anger needs someone who knows it and has a stake in it, so it is rare to have an object that is precious. It is not easy for someone to find such a rare object of anger, and even if you go back with him in anger, you don't think it is precious at all. When encountering a quarrel, think about it carefully. Because it is rare, I have to take advantage of the cause and condition to practice well. If I fight back when I encounter a quarrel, I will not know how to seize the opportunity. There must be a reason to hold back your anger, otherwise how can you hold back your anger? So think about the truth.

29. We need others to be angry with us because we need to endure humiliation; that is to say, we really need angry people to appear because we need to be patient.

30. The merits or blessings of practicing patience must also be dedicated to the enemy, because the enemy will scold you at all costs and give you the opportunity to practice patience, so you must dedicate it to him. No one If objects ask us to practice generosity or patience, what should we practice? Because there is someone who asked us to give, we dedicate the merit of giving to the person who gave to us. In the same way, the same is true for patience. Good deeds that are combined with many karma should be dedicated to all karma, because they are not produced by one person's power. May the merits of your patience be fully transferred to the other person and stop being angry. I hope that the other person's heart can be tamed. I am grateful to the other person for not having the retribution of falling into the three lower realms, so that I can achieve the merits of patience. This is a great blessing. I want to be grateful to him. I hope He also practices the same way as me. Give back this way.

When a person's heart is too soft to be soft and too pure to be pure, the other person will be embarrassed to scold you. With skillful speech and a soft heart, everything will change. Cultivation is not about hoping that others will practice, because it is impossible. It is not that I have to practice when others are reasonable, but that I have to practice when others are unreasonable. Welcome the unreasonable state and accept the unreasonable state, which is the main object state. Buddhism tells you that you can control your mind in good or bad situations. The cause of merit in Buddhism is in any state - purifying your mind. Only when a person's heart is calm can he have courage, and only a reasonable person can face an unreasonable person. He who puts an end to confusion and repentes his wrongs is a wise man. In terms of altruism, this is the intention of protecting others. All living beings are environments to us, and we must take conditions as our teachers and train our minds on the environment.

31. It’s not that I’m too powerful and I practice patience. It’s because my enemies asked me to practice patience, so I’m not very good at practicing.

32. If you only think: The enemy only does harm to me, then you have to think that the truth of the path is the mind that realizes emptiness. The truth of the path does not have the intention to benefit the Bodhisattva. The truth of cessation is a magic weapon. (Unconditioned Dharma, no mind), it has no motive of benefiting others; the two truths of annihilation are magic weapons, and those who have them can be saved. That is to say, although there is no motive for those who possess the two truths of annihilation to gain merit, these two magic weapons can help sentient beings escape the suffering of reincarnation. Another example is that a watch has no intention of helping you, but it helps you tell the time. In the same way, the enemy has no intention of benefiting me, but because of the enemy, he can get the blessing of enduring humiliation, so he should be respectful.

33. Some people say: The magic weapon does not benefit my mind, but it does not harm my mind either, but the enemy does. This statement is not wrong either. If the enemy hurts me out of a desire for profit, he is not called an enemy; an enemy is called an enemy only when he hurts me out of a harmful intention and behavior. When a doctor treats a disease, he also cuts your hands and feet. You wouldn't call him an enemy. The reason is that the doctor does it for profit. Therefore, I can deliberately practice patience for the sake of my enemy. Therefore, my enemy does not have the intention to benefit me, but only has the intention to harm me. Although it is different from the magic weapon, I should still practice tolerance, and I will gradually gain benefits.

34. It is not wrong to treat someone who is disgusting or hurtful to you as an object of harm or anger. However, if the other party can practice patience and humiliation, because it is difficult to practice, you can make the enemy a dharma. I think it’s very difficult to practice Fa-rectification. In the same way, the enemy is also Dharma.

35. The achievement of merit depends on the Buddha’s material field and the material resources of all sentient beings. It depends on the Buddha’s material field to generate faith, and based on the material resources of all living beings, compassion arises. It depends on the enemy’s cultivation. To endure humiliation, we must cherish it, as "The Theory of Entrance" says: Half of becoming a Buddha depends on Buddha, and half depends on sentient beings. Living beings have two patrons - Buddha and Jailer (King Yama who carries out evil retribution), so we must establish the idea that living beings are precious.

36. When I encounter causes and conditions that harm me, if I develop patience, I can achieve a dignified appearance in a short time. People with strong tolerance for humiliation and a more solemn appearance can eventually achieve the Buddha's physical body. For example, Venerable Atisha said: I have been accepted by virtuous teachers in all my lifetimes because I have cultivated a relationship of patience and have a dignified relationship. Saints do not have evil intentions and treat them differently, but when teaching, they are more solemn and pleasing to the eye, and are easier to be converted, because all living beings will have joy, which is their nature.

37. Achieving the Buddhahood of ending all faults and perfecting all merits and virtues depends half on sentient beings and half on Buddha. We can only have respect and faith in Buddha. It is wrong and despicable to treat sentient beings badly. I am very respectful to my teacher, the Three Treasures, but I am very unkind to my lotus friend. This is a very serious problem.

38. Great compassion is an inconceivable merit. There is suffering but also happiness. Only by relying on sentient beings who lack happiness and suffer, can we get rid of suffering and enjoy happiness. So if you encounter sentient beings with angry minds, why don’t you practice cultivation? It is unreasonable to inflict harm in this way.

39. Being patient with those who are angry is the most pleasing offering to the Buddha. When all Buddhas and Bodhisattvas first arouse bodhicitta and accumulate blessings and wisdom, their only purpose is to benefit boundless sentient beings and achieve Buddhahood. Therefore, the World Honored One who has become a Buddha, is about to become a Buddha, or is currently becoming a Buddha, the only thing he cares about is the benefit of all sentient beings. The sentient beings whose only benefit is the most precious thing are extremely precious. When you harm sentient beings and you take refuge in the Three Jewels, the Buddha will not be happy. The Buddha will I think you are pathetic. On the one hand, we make offerings to the Buddha and make millions of merits, and on the other hand, we harm the sentient beings whom the Buddha cherishes. How can this be compatible? This goes against the meaning of the almshouse. Therefore, no matter how many sentient beings you benefit, the Buddha will be happy; if you no matter how many sentient beings you harm, this is actually inconsistent with the Buddha. It should be carried out from the point of mind and happiness to not harming, to the preliminaries, and to protect sentient beings by contemplating the Three Jewels.

40. To understand the enemy is the basis for cultivating patience. Therefore, we must harm sentient beings, live in a humble position, think badly of ourselves, and treat all sentient beings as extremely precious.

41. Sad and pitiful sentient beings are the only source of perfect merit.

42. Practicing kindness and patience towards enemies, especially, is the best way to make an offering of good deeds, that is, an offering of merit.

43. If you practice patience for the sake of your enemy and are not angry, you can benefit yourself and prevent future harm. In other words, if you are patient in the present, you will not suffer harm in the future. Therefore, in order to avoid harm now and in the future, patience must be practiced.

44. The world is viewed as interdependent. It is a global village. All living beings are one body and help each other. There is no need for enemies on the earth. Everything is a branch of the same body. This is viewed from a macro perspective.

How to reduce your own jealousy?

Everyone will be jealous of others. As long as you can control your jealousy within a reasonable range, you will not let jealousy drive you to do things that hurt others or yourself. , that doesn’t matter. How to suppress your jealousy?

Do you think this will work?

1. List the things that make you grateful, be kind to others, don’t hold grudges, embrace life with childlike innocence, understand life with maturity, know how to be grateful, and be kind to those who have been kind to you

2. Develop your interests and hobbies, maintain strong curiosity and desire for knowledge, and maintain a healthy body and mind

3. Establish connections with others and talk more with relatives and friends. People’s energy is limited, so what you want to do is There are many things to do, so reduce unnecessary interpersonal constraints

4. Like and love yourself. Don’t always want to give others a good impression and deliberately change yourself. Planting flowers intentionally will not bloom, but unintentionally planting willows will make shade

5. Compete with excellence instead of competing with others, progress is the greatest victory; compete with yourself instead of competing with others, and defeating yourself is the biggest winner

6. Accept your own abilities With limited facts, choose what you really want to do in life and the person you really want to love

7. Eliminate hostility and aggression, try to cooperate with others instead of competing alone, make decisive decisions about problems, and adapt to changes

8. Learn to chat and care about others, don’t take yourself too seriously, and try not to make others feel selfish

9. Don’t complain about unimportant things, and don’t always take things for granted. Take it very seriously, don’t blame all your mistakes on yourself, keep looking for new hobbies, care about recent current events and new things around you

10. Make friends, be positive, be more positive Communicate with negative people and have as little contact with negative people as possible. Unless you can change him, you will be changed by him. Different choices lead to different lives

11. Love life rather than its rewards, and treat life Full of freshness, you must know that the sun is new every day

12. If your financial ability allows, you might as well find time to have fun, such as traveling during holidays or going to a place you have longed for. Go hiking

13. When you do something well or succeed, celebrate yourself, even if it’s just you at the party

14. Help others do something, help Others will make you happy, especially when others are in trouble. "A friend in need is a friend indeed" and what you get will be far greater than what you put in.

15. Don't distort other people's criticisms. It is so rare to hear other people's positive and objective evaluations of oneself. You should be calm, correct them if they are present, and encourage them if they are not.

16. Participate in moderate sports for a certain period of time, get up early and Minutes, be sure to sit down to have breakfast

17. Try to keep yourself busy and eliminate tension and fear

18. Know what you can do and what you should do, Don't be afraid to face your limited abilities, give yourself an objective evaluation, understand yourself, and eliminate the mentality of being too high or too low

19. Learn to calm yourself, maintain a normal heart, and don't pay attention to small things. It’s hard to be confused if you care too much

20. Be independent and principled in your actions, and don’t use other people’s likes and dislikes as the standard for your actions

21. Get rid of those things that are a burden to you Things, stop doing things that make you feel boring

22. See the bright side of things, admit that there is a bright side and a dark side in human nature, be tolerant and understanding, and do not Be happy with things, don't be sad for yourself; don't go to extremes, and don't eat in anger

23. Try to do something new to enrich your life, give up less important things, listening to music, reading books and newspapers are the best The best way to increase interest

24. Understand that good motives may not bring good results, but you cannot give up because of this

25. Understand the principle of "people are more annoying than others" , don’t compare yourself with others, don’t compare your own shortcomings to others’ strengths, and don’t compare with others in trivial matters in life

26. Don’t have too high requirements for yourself, pursue results rather than demanding perfection. , develop a winning mentality,

But don’t be superior

27. Vent your depression in time, talk to yourself and comfort yourself when things go wrong

28. Set feasible goals and divide large projects into smaller ones. Small and doable parts, so that you will have a sense of accomplishment after completing each part

29. Count your proud things, imagine that you are succeeding, recall your past glories, and ignore your Don’t worry about troubles and dissatisfaction, don’t dwell on the past, and don’t feel guilty for your proper behavior

30. Make up your mind to change the rules that you don’t appreciate, preferably those that everyone doesn’t appreciate. If you can’t change others, then you won’t. Change yourself, don’t blame others, don’t always worry about the future, there will be a road before the car reaches the mountain

31. Rest before you feel tired, please remember: rest is not a waste of life, it allows you to be in the best situation. Do more efficient things

32. Go to bed and go to sleep. Don’t think about other things. If you are in the mood, you can have a bedtime meeting, but don’t affect your sleep due to excessive excitement.

33. Look at the problem from another angle

How to control your jealousy?

Jealousy, also known as "pink eye".

The treatment of jealousy should not fall into the category of psychology.

Measures can only be taken to gradually improve it. :

(1) Psychological balancing method. If someone is better than you, find out what is better than him, and then you can even out the situation.

(2) Self-comfort method. That is, Ah Q’s spiritual victory method.

(3) In addition, you can also make yourself feel that it doesn’t matter. The more you value a certain achievement, the more jealous you will be. If you don’t value something, then it doesn’t matter. .

(4) Be more knowledgeable and open-minded. Generally speaking, rich people who have never seen the world are more likely to be jealous than those who have seen the world.

(5) If it is The grades of your friends are also your grades. After all, your friend’s happiness is also your happiness, so you are good friends.

Everyone has jealousy, as long as it does not affect your own life , there is no need to care too much. If jealousy puts you in trouble and affects your interactions with others, you should be wary.

First of all, we must admit that there are differences between people. It may be a gap in ability, or it may be a gap in family background, appearance, etc. Don't think that you are good just because others are good. It should be that way. See more of the efforts behind other people’s success.

Secondly, regard the gains of others as the motivation for your own progress. If others succeed, you can copy them through hard work. If you are a fish in the abyss, it is better to retreat and build a net, and you can try it yourself.

Again, if other people’s success is due to irreproducible reasons such as luck, relationships, etc., accept this and don’t worry about things that cannot be changed. How to control your jealousy?

Jealousy is a sign of lack of self-confidence. A person who is fully confident doesn't even bother to compare himself with others, because everyone has his or her own splendor, and there is nothing to envy and envy about other people's success, because I also have my own success. Everyone's life is a mixture of bitterness and happiness. People with low self-esteem often only see others' happiness and their own suffering, and because of their low self-esteem, they believe that they cannot achieve the other person's success. In addition, they are accustomed to hiding, and it is easy for them to hide in their hearts. Became dark and twisted.

The key to avoiding jealousy is to build self-confidence, get out of the narrow world of those with low self-esteem, develop healthy hobbies, interact with people more, and let your mentality become sunny.

Let yourself move, calm down, ask yourself what you can be jealous of, and everything will be under control.

Be open-minded about everything, don’t care too much, think in another direction, maybe you are better than him in other aspects! How to calm down my jealousy?

I am so anxious that I want to find a job~...Jealousy makes our minds closed. Without an open mind, it is impossible to have a good absorption effect. The result is that we end up with nothing but resentment.

Jealousy... I'm so jealous

I think you should study hard

Prepare for the high school entrance examination

Maybe you can take them lightly

Don’t worry about what others think

How to do it