Girlfriends should have proper limits when getting along. Without these three kinds of help, feelings can last a lifetime.

As the saying goes, there are thousands of friends, but one or two bosom friends. We will meet many people in our life, but few people can truly understand themselves, especially women who can make one or two girlfriends and confidants, which can be described as luck and happiness.

However, girlfriends who often get along well are hard to grasp each other, because we often make a mistake. The better our relationship is, the easier it is to lose proper restrictions. We always feel that we know each other very well and will understand and tolerate whatever we do.

Writer Zhou said: "Appropriate restrictions are a sign of mature love. It knows how to keep the necessary distance between people, which means respecting each other's independent personality. "

When you ignore the appropriate limits, you will unconsciously step on the other side's bottom line and dignity, then a sincere friendship will eventually become a face-breaking, old and dead.

And those who keep close friends with life, they understand the importance of proper restrictions and never help these three things when they get along.

John Gray said in "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus":

"When Venusians are depressed or stressed, she is more inclined to find her girlfriend and talk to her heart. She will tell all kinds of worries and unhappiness to people she trusts, and her heart will be much better. "

Women pay attention to emotional communication and interpersonal relationships, so they will talk to people they trust and ask for help, which is also a unique way for women to relieve stress.

So whether girlfriends can live in harmony depends on personal feelings to help.

Smart girlfriend knows the importance of listening, be your faithful listener, feel your pain and difficulties, give comfort and care, help you adjust your mentality and restore your normal thinking mode.

If you don't know proper limit's best friend, you will mainly give advice and help you with all kinds of advice so that you can listen to her. What should you do? In the end, two things will happen.

First: the advice given is correct, the problem is solved, and everyone is happy.

Second: because of your suggestion, the relationship with your boyfriend or husband broke down, and the responsibility was put on you, which affected each other's feelings and caused serious direct trouble.

Many women always mistakenly think that I should give them advice when my girlfriends talk to them and help them, otherwise they will lose their meaning of existence.

In fact, she had already made a decision on this matter before asking you for help. She just wants you to be her confidante, speak out her troubles and relieve her pressure, instead of really making suggestions.

So, if you want to keep each other's feelings for life, don't get involved in each other's personal feelings. If you haven't experienced her, you have no right to advise her. Once her personal feelings are not harmonious because of your decision, you are also to blame.

My cousin once had a very good best friend. It is no exaggeration to say that the two of them, like you and me, wear clothes interchangeably and enjoy a lot of things. Such a deep feeling came to an end because of a one-time stab in the back.

Once, my best friend had an argument with a colleague in the company, gnashing her teeth with anger, and asked her cousin for help. My cousin said that if you get along with others, you may not get along well. If she cares too much, she will not be happy.

But her best friend was angry, and she didn't help when she was bullied. She sarcastically said that cousin, as a sincere expression, found several people to beat that person up.

Although it is only some skin injuries, it is now a society ruled by law. If anything happens, it makes sense. You really don't go through legal procedures, and you can't hit people. The other party called the police and stayed in the hospital.

Cousin was locked up for seven days and compensated the other party for 10 thousand yuan. The matter was finally solved, but her best friend's behavior completely hurt her cousin's heart.

It stands to reason that such a big thing happened, my best friend should apologize to her, say sorry and thank you, but she has a irrelevant attitude. It's none of my business if you hit me.

At that time, my cousin realized that no matter how good the feelings of girlfriends are, they can't help solve personal grievances. The other party not only didn't appreciate it, but also pushed their feelings to the end and certified what a real plastic sister flower is.

The meaning of girlfriends' existence is to be each other's emotional confidants and help each other on the premise of obeying the law. If girlfriends are so upset and incomprehensible, it is not a pity to lose such girlfriends.

Therefore, if you want to maintain a lifelong relationship, you must help as much as possible, and you must stick to your position when you should not help. Although the other party was unhappy at that time, you will understand your pains and intentions after you calm down.

When you establish appropriate boundaries and know each other's bottom line and principles, you will not touch and trample easily, and your feelings will continue to develop.

Tingting and her best friend are college classmates. They got married and had children. Tingting has a good relationship with her husband, and her work income is also very high, while her best friend and her husband have been married for five years. Because of personality disagreement, divorce, working with children, life is quite tight.

However, the girlfriend has a strong personality. Although they don't have much money to start a business, I believe they can find investment partners with their own brains and confidence.

In fact, except Tingting, she can't find anyone else to invest in her. Tingting saw that her best friend was not doing well and wanted to really help her, so she generously invested 300 thousand.

She promised Tingting that she would find a way to pay back half of her money if she lost money, but these promises were not in black and white, and as a result, she lost completely because of her lack of experience.

Not only did she not mention money, but she also deliberately avoided Tingting. Tingting is a little angry. When she invested in you, she didn't care about the money, because she knew the situation of her best friend, and even if she didn't pay back the money, she was ready to pay it back.

But not a word. Just like disappearing into the air, no one can stand it. One day, when I was shopping in the supermarket, I met my best friend. Before Tingting could speak, her best friend said that cooperation and investment are all your wishes. Besides, there is no contract. Don't ask me for money.

Tingting only said that years of girlfriends are not worth 300 thousand. Thank you for letting me understand this truth and never see you again.

As the saying goes, friends are easy to do, but partners are hard to do, especially girlfriends with particularly good relationships. Once money interests are involved, feelings are difficult to maintain.

Most women have empathy. When they see their girlfriends encounter difficulties in life or work, they all want to lend a helping hand to each other.

This idea is correct. Feelings are not just lip service, but different ways of helping determine the direction of girlfriends' feelings.

You can help her find a job, or you can help her solve her financial difficulties appropriately, provided that you give money, borrow money and invest money.

If you give it, you can show your mind according to your own ability. After all, you have to live.

If you borrow it, you should be psychologically prepared, and it is best not to help with cooperative investment, because if the amount is too large, once you lose all your money, economic disputes will occur, and your girlfriend who involves interests will be torn.

It's best not to involve money when getting along with your girlfriend. Some people can't stand the test of money, and their feelings are worthless before money. When you suddenly wake up, you lose money and feelings.

Appropriate restrictions, people who know how to get along, don't cross the line, don't step on the line, and don't help the above three things, the relationship can last a lifetime.

Today's topic: What else can't be helped between girlfriends?