Always denounced by colleagues

Colleagues are always tattling on you. People like villains can be seen everywhere. We know that in the workplace, colleagues will inevitably play tricks on you. Therefore, we need to find better ways to overcome difficulties. The following sharing is always reported by colleagues.

Always reported by colleagues 1 First of all, it's impossible to prevent the workplace villains.

At the weekend, my sister and I spoke out about one thing, which deeply affected people's minds in the workplace.

It turned out that in order to catch up with the progress, she and Lingling, an office girl, worked late. At that time, her sister casually said that the leaders were not sympathetic to their subordinates and treated women as men, depriving them of their surplus labor value.

Because Lingling and her sister are employed at the same time, they are similar in age, and they are usually close and have a good relationship, so when my sister said these words, she didn't feel anything wrong.

The next day, at the meeting, the boss said by innuendo:

"Some employees complain constantly, have no overall situation, and only have their own careers. I hope everyone can accept this kind of thoughtfulness. If they are not satisfied, they can resign and leave ... "

When my sister heard this, she immediately understood that it was Lingling who gossiped behind her back and spoke ill of her sister, making the leader so angry.

I didn't expect people who are talking and laughing to make small moves behind their backs. My sister is very angry and sad. I don't know if I should confront Lingling.

In fact, this kind of thing is not uncommon in the workplace, or even impossible to prevent.

It's no use getting angry with colleagues behind him. Only by analyzing the reasons behind it can we see this move.

Second, people who love to snitch are behind these three kinds of psychology.

1, please lead.

Some units have such an atmosphere that leaders like to know their subordinates from other employees. They not only don't punish people who snitch, but also benefit these people and objectively condone the act of snitching behind their backs.

This also increases the credit of the informant in disguise. In order to show loyalty, please leaders, gain benefits, do not hesitate to betray colleagues, violate conscience, and even maliciously hurt people.

2. Strong jealousy

Trees attract the wind.

The better you are, the more jealous others are.

There is no shortage of people who can't hide from others. They are also a unit. Why do you develop fast and earn more than him?

The more you think about it, the more unbalanced it is. Do everything possible to discredit you. When you see any trouble, you should make a small report of yourself, exaggerate your shortcomings and mistakes, and let the leaders have opinions on you.

If you two are competitors, he wants to be superior and just squeezes you out by snitching.

3. The wicked complain first

Such people are afraid of taking responsibility and choose to strike first.

When everyone makes mistakes, he chooses to snitch on you behind your back, which can shift the responsibility at the first time. Colleagues don't know, don't explain, or leaders don't investigate, so they push the responsibility clean and get rid of themselves. It can be said that he is very scheming.

Third, people with high emotional intelligence are treated like this.

Don't be too Buddhist, let it develop, and don't rush to tear each other apart. Try these five tricks.

1, adjust the mentality

Being reported is really bad, but if you are angry and don't solve the problem, you should learn to put yourself in the other's shoes.

First, we should understand that such people and things are common in the workplace and treat them with a normal heart.

Whether you vent your emotions or ask questions to the other party, it will only increase the negative effects and is not conducive to solving the fundamental problem.

Second, we must see the essence clearly.

Hateful people have their moments of pity. People who love to snitch are often narrow-minded, narrow-minded, incompetent and have a little inferiority complex in their bones. That's all they can do. Such people have no future. After a long time, they will be seen through and cast aside.

Therefore, in the face of such people, it is the best policy to maintain emotional stability without fear, hatred and anxiety.

A little more tolerance and understanding means letting go of yourself.

Step 2 keep your distance

Birds of a feather flock together. If you don't appreciate or accept the actions of villains, you choose to stay away from them.

Minimize the overlap in work. If you really can't avoid contact, it's good to talk about work without heart-to-heart.

Because this kind of person can easily process and polish your words and report to the boss in another way.

Don't gossip, sit still and think about yourself.

When you get along with such people, you must keep your mouth shut. When people talk about leaders and colleagues behind their backs, you don't participate, express your position, disagree, and you can't complain about your work and spit out your leadership in public.

3, rigorous and meticulous

Colleagues report behind our backs, so we should reflect at the first time: Is there really something wrong with our work?

For example, whether there is room for improvement in work style and life style.

Take this as an opportunity, strive for perfection, improve your ability, try not to leave a handle, let the informer have no informer to fight, and fundamentally cut off his thoughts.

In addition, forming strict work habits is also a good way to deal with such people.

Sometimes, we think we are doing well, but it is inevitable that we will meet people with ulterior motives. To protect yourself, you need to be careful:

Do a good job record, perform the signing procedures and keep the work evidence.

In this way, the other party can prove his innocence by reporting and leading the pursuit.

When we are strict with ourselves, leaders and colleagues can also feel that we are rigorous people who are not easily fooled.

4. Be a low-key person

High-profile work and low-key life are the eternal survival rules in the workplace.

Keep a low profile, be humble and low-key, you can protect yourself well, and it is not easy to attract the attention of jealous people.

When you get achievements, don't be complacent, let alone show off everywhere, but emphasize the credit of the leaders and the hard work of colleagues.

Doing so, on the one hand, can gain everyone's goodwill, on the other hand, it will also dispel each other's vigilance.

When he feels that you are no longer a threat to him or a competitor, he will naturally stop staring at you.

Step 5 beat around the bush

If you keep silent and don't fight back, the other party may think you are a "soft persimmon" and bully you more and more.

You can casually mention it when talking to him about work or eating, and listen to others say that you speak ill of me behind my back. I don't believe it.

It doesn't matter how he answers, what matters is to warn and remind him that I already know your behavior, so that he won't dare to speak ill of you behind your back easily.

The Qing dynasty is self-cleaning. Remember that integrity is the best way to fight back against villains.

Always being reported by colleagues, 2 1, being honest and establishing a positive image.

Many times, I can be reported by a villain because I made a mistake and was caught by a villain. For your own mistakes, you have no choice but to be criticized by the leader. Sometimes it is vilified and falsely accused by the villains, but the villains act first, so it is difficult for you to defend yourself. Therefore, in the workplace, in order not to be vilified by villains, we must first be upright and establish a positive image of the workplace.

For example, a workhorse, if the villain says he is opportunistic and lazy, it is hard for leaders and colleagues to believe. So it is precisely because you left a negative impression on the leader that you were easily overthrown by the villain.

2, performance, win the trust of leaders

Another situation is that the leader himself doesn't know you, and it is easy to be instilled by the villain. The villain is very clever, and it is precisely because of this calculation that he can slander you at will. First impressions are very important. If you can't do it yourself, most leaders will choose to trust the villain.

So I don't want to be framed by villains, but I want to know how to win the trust of leaders. Show your face in front of the leaders at ordinary times, be positive, give feedback in time at work, and do a good job. This way, the leader will think that you are reliable in doing things. At this time, even if there are villains slandering, leaders will have their own judgments.

3. Fight back and collect the handle of the villain

Many times, everyone wants to work with peace of mind and face the competition. But there is no way, everyone in the workplace has it, and villains just like to play these small tricks to attack colleagues. Therefore, no matter how honest you are in front of the leaders and how you behave, you can't resist the slander repeatedly reported by the villains.

So do it when you have to, and don't let the villain go, for fear that he will not dare to clean him up. You can completely answer blows with blows, accept the handle of the villain, and release big moves at the critical moment. You know, tattling for the first time is the best. So we must try our best to teach the villain a profound lesson so that he will never dare to slander you again.

Being reported in the workplace is very common and inevitable. However, as mentioned above, you can establish a solid workplace image through your words and deeds. As long as you are firm enough, it is hard to be destroyed by words. What I am most afraid of is that you have some deviations, but the villain grabs the handle and enlarges it. It's really hard to argue then. I hope everyone will remember the above three tricks, so that they can be evidence-based and fearless.

Beat about the bush and let him know that you already know that he betrayed himself, but some people are just thick-skinned. If you expose him, he will continue to snitch, kiss up to the supervisor without a bottom line, and be more obedient to the villain, so if you can't expose him and stay away from him, don't trust him again to avoid being cheated by him again. The point is that such people don't feel unkind like my colleagues.

Always denounced by colleagues. Maintain emotional stability and avoid acting blindly on impulse. When you hear a colleague snitching at you behind your back, take a few deep breaths, clench your fist and relax, and do these actions several times to calm your mind, and then consider whether there is a struggle for interests behind this matter.

Be sure to find out who turned you in behind your back. A colleague who has had conflicts in public. In order to vent his emotions, he snitched behind your back. Still hiding in the dark, deliberately hitting you when it conflicts with your interests. In particular, we need to guard against colleagues who seem to have a good relationship, but in fact they may not.

If the small report affects your work, and this matter is really groundless, go to the leader to respond to the small report one by one and directly accuse it of being a rumor; If things are exaggerated or falsified, explain the cause and effect with the leader at this time and express your thoughts; If it does happen, honestly review it, but try to divert your attention.

Tolerance is not the best response. In the face of behind-the-scenes whistle-blowing, we must tell the leaders what bad effects this kind of whistle-blowing has on ourselves, the leaders and the interests of the company. Leaders like to collect information, but they hate informers who hinder the development of the company.

If the nature of your job is to speak with performance, in addition to the normal response, you can stop and try to fight back against the informant with performance; If the nature of your work is not based on performance, you should stand up and fight to the end. You can even make the contradiction public and tell the whole company that you have personal grievances with your colleagues who report you. Through this behavior, leaders can treat such things fairly and objectively.