Children's educational methods

How to educate children when they are older?

How to educate children when they are older? We all know that we can't take drastic measures to educate children. Beating and cursing may make a child's personality extreme, so at this time, parents need to set an example and think more from the child's point of view. How should we educate our children when they are older?

Children's education methods 1 How to educate children

How do parents educate their children to be human? How to play the role of a successful parent, the concept of family education: not only to be a qualified guide for children, but also to respect their "sophistry", analyze and respect their feedback, educate their children purposefully, and pay attention to the fact that family education cannot be inconsistent.

Method 1: Respect children's "sophistry"-feedback effect

Whenever parents point out their children's mistakes, children always find many reasons to prove their innocence. At this time, parents generally call their children's behavior "sophistry" angrily. In fact, this is not sophistry, but a kind of feedback from children to their parents' education.

Education is a two-way street. Parents should not only teach, but also accept children's feedback, so that education can achieve the most perfect effect. However, many parents are not aware of this. They just "teach" themselves and don't care about their children's information feedback. Such education often fails to achieve the purpose that parents want.

Method 2: Analyze and respect children's feedback.

When children give feedback on our education, we must first analyze this feedback. Of course, this analysis is not only aimed at children's language, but also includes children's movements and expressions.

However, it is worth parents' attention that children's feedback should be respected regardless of whether it is "sophistry". In the above-mentioned educational cases, when the children tell the reason why "the children in our class say so", the mother yells at the children without analyzing their feedback. Is this a sign of disrespect for children's feedback? Therefore, the mother doesn't know that the feedback from the child is really good-she doesn't think "you are so stupid" is a dirty word.

It is conceivable that parents misunderstand and suppress their children's feedback. In the long run, children will never give positive feedback to their mothers' education. Without children's cooperation, parents can't educate their children.

Method 3: Educate children purposefully according to their feedback.

When analyzing the problems of children's feedback, parents can carry out purposeful education on children's feedback. For example, if children don't know the importance of politeness when giving feedback, parents will never do it again. They can tell their children the importance of being polite through examples and reasons, and guide them to be polite children. If the child's feedback is that he doesn't want to know the responsibility caused by the recent wrong words and deeds, parents should encourage the child to be a person who knows his mistakes and corrects them.

In short, no matter what feedback children have on their parents' education, respecting and analyzing children's feedback is the primary prerequisite for achieving educational goals.

Method 4: Family education should not be inconsistent-Watch Theorem

Psychologists have done an experiment: give a person a watch, and when someone asks him the time, he can tell it quickly and confidently; However, when the man got two different watches, the watchmaker could not know the time quickly. Because two watches can't tell a person a more accurate time, on the contrary, it will make people who look at the watch lose confidence in the accurate time. Psychologists call this phenomenon "watch phenomenon", and draw a conclusion that there can only be one guiding principle or value orientation in doing things. Later, people called this conclusion "Watch Theorem".

How to educate children to learn

It is common for children to be impatient and careless. We don't just help them solve a homework problem. The key is to help them form good habits so that they don't regard their parents as their crutches. The ultimate goal of learning is not only to solve a problem, but to cultivate children's ability to think and solve problems independently. Too much criticism will cause excessive guilt and shame to the child, while not criticizing will make him feel irresponsible and unable to realize his desire to correct his mistakes. Therefore, targeted disciplines are particularly important, and the key is to master this degree.

Cultivating children's honest character, whether children have honest character is very important for his future development, so we should create a relaxed, happy, democratic and harmonious family atmosphere for children; Always talk about the truth of "being honest"; Meet children's reasonable demands and wishes; There must be correct educational methods; Formulate some rules and strict requirements; Adults should set an example.

Pay attention to children's speech, because children like to talk to their parents, which is unconditional trust in their parents.

And show love with actions, the richest man in the world, Bill. Gates spends the rest of his time with his children except at work. In fact, many fathers who are extremely successful in their careers believe that spending most of their time with their children is the most important part of life. Never neglect the happiness of family and the growth of children for the sake of work and career. Every child is unique, so you should also educate him according to his unique characteristics, which requires your daily observation. Understand his heart, and you will have a deeper understanding of him. Teaching is an art, and you can't learn it in three or two days. There are no two identical children in the world, so we must first understand our own children and find ways through constant exploration. Of course, it is always good to learn from the experience of our predecessors. Remember, your child is your shadow, and your every move will affect your child and even affect the formation of your child's character. Do it yourself and set a good character example for your child.

How to educate children to be independent

To cultivate children's independent ability, we should start from an early age, for example, let children accomplish some things independently from an early age, from simple handkerchief washing and cleaning to cultivating labor spirit. It is necessary to instill a sense of responsibility in children and do their own thing well. Don't think they are spoiled, but train them into little emperors.

The starting point of cultivating children's independence is to cultivate children's pioneering spirit and become an independent person. In families in developed countries, parents generally attach importance to cultivating children's self-care ability and self-improvement spirit from an early age. This is because the developed market economy requires members of society to have this ability and spirit.

How to educate disobedient children

Children of this age are in the dark period, which is a stage of resistance that requires great efforts. So make friends with him first, guide and help him through this stage. We should also talk about psychology, with a gentle tone, and sometimes we should communicate with him more attentively. Even if he does something wrong, don't blame him, but encourage him and cultivate him to form good study habits. Step by step, you can also drive him to learn self-discipline through his peers. As time goes on, he will change, focusing on encouragement and praise.

Parents should give their children enough respect.

Only by being respected can children gain self-esteem and learn to respect others, and self-esteem and respect for others are the first conditions for becoming a healthy person. Because children are still immature, self-esteem consciousness is often in its infancy and is particularly vulnerable. Once their self-esteem is hurt, they will use a lot of "disobedience" to fight.

Therefore, parents should have the awareness of protecting their children's rights and give them enough respect. It can be said that respecting children will play an important role in the development of children's life.

Let the children do things by themselves.

Sometimes children are disobedient, which is the embodiment of their independent requirements. Independence is one of the manifestations of healthy personality, which has a very important influence on children's life, learning quality, career success in adulthood and family life.

In real life, many parents don't let their children do anything in order to concentrate on their studies. Get up in the morning to help your child fold the quilt, and prepare learning tools for your child before going to school. Sometimes, your child complains that he forgot to prepare some learning tools for him.

You know, children are not born so dependent on their parents, and their dependence is generally related to the substitution arranged by their parents. The more parents do, the more dependent their children are. On the other hand, if parents don't interfere with what children can do, and there is no saddle, children will start to do it themselves.

How to educate children to succeed?

Now educating children is not a matter of paying attention to it, but a matter of how to successfully realize the successful education of "children becoming talents" Therefore, the current family education should attract everyone's attention. The current educational results are 30% for schools, 20% for society and 50% for families. Family education plays a great role in children's education. Because some parents do not attach importance to family education, teenagers account for 20% of the national crime rate. Therefore, family education is related to your family and society, and to your children's future. Parents have different methods in family education.

Some parents advocate "a dutiful son is born under the stick", and parents' education for their children is criticism and punishment. Some parents advocate "only test scores". They can do anything for their children to get good grades. In fact, these are all incorrect family education methods. You can't look after a child's life.

Family education is a complex project, and the key is whether parents have mastered the key points of educating their children to become talents. Here I will tell you the key to successful teaching, hoping to help your child's education:

1, there are penalties for incentives.

What is incentive? How to motivate children? Simply put, it is a fundamental and main method to give full play to the deepest things and potentials of children.

Every child has great potential. What parents should do is to motivate their children, let them play their own values and give them opportunities to develop their potential.

People are like cars, and motivation is like gasoline in a car tank. Parents must mobilize their children's enthusiasm and let them tap their potential, which is like refueling their children's "fuel tank". Parents should have sincere encouragement when encouraging their children in order to impress their hearts. Never think of yourself as your child's parents, put on a cold face and act like your parents are above you, so that your child will not accept your encouragement and suggestions, and your encouragement will be invalid.

Some parents always use simple and empty comments such as "you are great", "great" and "great". Children don't know why you praise him, so they lose the motivation to use you. It's better to be specific, for example, "It's nice of you to dress yourself up neatly." "You can fold the quilt yourself and clean up the bed. You are great! " Point out the praiseworthy places of children in detail, let them know why they are praiseworthy, and continue to work hard to strengthen the good aspects and gradually develop good morality and habits. Parents must pay attention to spiritual encouragement and material encouragement.

2. The relationship with children should be equal and harmonious.

Why should I emphasize equality? The reason is that China has a cultural tradition of thousands of years, and "the monarch is the minister and the father is the son" has penetrated into everyone's bone marrow. Many parents think it is "impossible" to be equal to their children, so many tragedies keep happening. For example, there is a 5-year-old girl who is very willing to make friends with her uncle next door and is willing to tell her uncle instead of her parents. The reason is that this uncle is squatting when talking to her, as tall as him. She feels that she is respected, but when talking to her parents, she is condescending. No matter whether mom and dad are standing or sitting, they are always much taller than themselves. And mom and dad are always very serious and don't want to talk more at home. In this way, there will be no harmonious and equal atmosphere between your family and children, and there will be no guidance and education. Your family's affection and affection for your children will be greatly alienated, and your children will not resist in person, but they don't like you in their hearts. The potential contradiction in your family exists silently. Therefore, family harmony and equality is the first element of family education.

3. Save some face for the children.

There is an old saying in China called "Teach your child before class, and teach your wife by your pillow". In other words, a child without a face can be educated anywhere, while a wife with a face can only be "educated" in a secret place next to a pillow. But it is this nonsense that has brought disasters to many families and created a great gap between parents and children. Here I repeatedly emphasize that parents must pay attention not to make irresponsible remarks about their children in front of everyone. Do you know how children understand it? Children's understanding is that if you do this to everyone, it is a lot of special approval for children. Although the child does not resist face to face, but the child's mind does not accept it, your goal has not been achieved at all. On the contrary, children don't want to talk to you at all. Let me give you an example: the father of a child in Longgang opened a small shop, and the child dropped out of school in the first grade. Dad saw my report in Shenzhen Special Zone Daily, so he found the Special Zone Daily and my former parents and teenagers training center, and made an appointment to go to the training center with my uncle, father and children in Hong Kong. Dad said: this child is disobedient and always fights at school. Now he has dropped out of school. Please ask the teacher to help our child. As soon as the child heard it, he said loudly, today is to criticize me! I quickly chimed in and said, well, let's talk about children separately. Do you want to talk about your family education experience? Why don't you go back first and I'll communicate with the children alone? After two hours of communication, the children knew their mistakes, which also reflected the parents' shortcomings in family education. So I appeal to parents not to make irresponsible remarks about their children in front of everyone. Children also have self-esteem and face-saving.