Getting along with excellent people always leads to the mentality that I don't deserve to play with them. What should I do?

I have the same mentality as excellent people. But from another angle, the reason why you can be with excellent people shows that you have the ability to enter this excellent circle. Just like the law of attraction, people with the same frequency will always attract each other and form a circle.

Furthermore, in this excellent circle, you have this mentality because you realize your own lack of ability. In order to improve your ability and get closer to them, you will have the motivation to study hard. The better people work harder, don't sell yourself short easily, you are also excellent.

Moreover, by getting along with excellent people, you will find your life goals more clear, learn from their excellent experience and reduce the chances of detours. Why not?

Everyone has something he is good at or not good at. We can constantly improve what we are good at and supplement what we are not good at. For example, I am not good at writing myself, but I want to embark on the road to writing, so I will continue to study and enroll in classes to learn writing, so as to achieve the goal of writing.

This is a kind of inferiority complex. Some people regard inferiority as useless, which is a wrong concept, and inferiority is also a part of motivation. Adler, a famous humanistic psychologist, once explained inferiority: "It's not because you are bad, so you have inferiority complex. No matter how good a person is, there will be times when he feels inferior. As long as there is a goal, of course, there is an inferiority complex. " It can be seen that self-provided is not garbage.

The opposite of inferiority is self-confidence. Self-confidence is not conceit. Self-confidence begins with self-confidence and moves towards self-confidence. It can be understood that from inferiority to self-confidence is a development process. People are born with a blank sheet of paper and have no ability to take care of themselves. It is the day after tomorrow that teaches us to stand on our own feet, and knowledge makes us capable. Ability is related to knowledge reserve and personal ideological and moral cultivation. Everyone's knowledge is just a grain of sand in the sea of knowledge. Therefore, if you don't know how to learn, you won't practice. "A threesome must have a teacher." Learning from everyone's strengths will make you strong.

People can't always be with people of their own level, so they won't make progress, they can only go backwards. An ambitious and purposeful person must stay with his superiors, learn from others' strengths and use others' experience for his own use. Only in this way can he make continuous progress, surpass himself and surpass others.

However, remember, you can't compare with your own excellent people, so you will lose confidence and even hurt your self-esteem. Compare your achievements and contributions with those with similar abilities, so as not to hurt your self-confidence. If you keep learning and absorb the knowledge and experience of people who are better than yourself, you will gradually get rid of people at the same level as yourself. Will make your self-confidence more and more sufficient.

In a word, you should stay with excellent people and compare with people at the same level who have higher grades than you. In this way, you will always be happy and motivated.

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Getting along with excellent people shows that you are also excellent, and you also have excellent qualities that attract them. Feeling that the people around you are excellent is that you are good at discovering the advantages of others, and it is also a rare quality to admit that others are excellent. In a threesome, there must be a teacher, a good one to follow, and a bad one to change. People are the product of the environment, and the circle is very important. With excellent people, you can clearly see your own gap and urge yourself to make progress.

I always feel unworthy to play with them. It should be that you are not confident yet, so try to improve your self-confidence. There may be a big gap, for whatever reason. I should also feel lucky, because I can walk with excellent people.

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Many times, because of our inferiority complex, we feel that we don't deserve to play with excellent people. I think it's better to seize the opportunity to get along with them when I have compassion.

So don't be afraid to get along with people who are better than you. With excellent people, it is easier to know yourself.

To sum up, getting along with excellent people will give us a better pattern and vision. Their promotion will make us better people.

From my own learning psychology and practice process, matching and unworthiness have something to do with how I face my inferiority complex, and have little to do with others. Then, when it comes to inferiority complex, alfred adler's individual psychology (I recommend a book "The Courage to Hate", which is a book by Japanese philosophers Shinichiro Kishi and Shigeki Shigeki who specialize in Adler's individual psychology, presents the charm of Adler's individual psychology in the way of dialogue between philosophers and young people, and better understands the positive effect of inferiority complex on each of us than another book "Beyond Inferiority". ).

See if this passage helps you:

"When a person is faced with a problem that he can't handle properly, he will say that he can't solve it at all. At this time, there is a self-provided plot. It can be seen from this definition that anger, tears and apology are the same. It may be a sign of inferiority. Because inferiority always causes tension. Therefore, the compensation action for superiority will inevitably appear at the same time, but its purpose is not to solve the problem. Aggressive actions always face the useless side of life, but the real problems are hidden or avoided, and individuals limit their scope of activities. He deliberately avoided failure instead of pursuing success. In the face of difficulties, he will show hesitation, embarrassment and even retreat. "

And this paragraph:

"We can never reach the highest goal in life. I don't think anyone will doubt this fact. If we imagine that a person or the whole human race has reached a state where there is no difficulty at all, we can certainly imagine that life in this environment must be boring. Everything can be predicted and everything can be calculated in advance. Tomorrow will not bring unexpected opportunities. We have nothing to look forward to in the future. In fact, the happiness in our life mainly comes from our lack of certainty. If we are sure of everything, if we know everything, then discussion and discovery will cease to exist. Science has come to an end. The universe around us is just a story worth telling once. It doesn't make any sense to give us a lot of pleasant art and religion, which once made us imagine what we didn't realize. Fortunately, life is not so easy to consume. The struggle of mankind has never stopped, and we can constantly discover new problems. And create new opportunities for cooperation and dedication. "

My personal experience so far is that every life has unlimited creativity. You need to give yourself this opportunity, not to others, but always to yourself. [heart]