When people reach middle age, there are three highest ways to live: unsociable, unlovable and indifferent.

When people reach middle age, it is not only the growth of age, but the maturity of mentality.

Pu Shu sang in "Ordinary Road": I once crossed mountains and seas, and I also crossed a sea of people. Compared with my former self, the whole person has experienced too much, with joy, gain, pain and lessons. Every time I look back, I am moved and sigh.

When people reach middle age, they will not be complacent just to show off how many people they know, but to understand the true meaning of "different ways, no common cause".

At first, I thought that having contacts was the beginning of success, so I was busy socializing and making friends with everyone, but in the end, I found that the more people I made, the less I could really talk. Even, these people just stay on the friends list and never contact.

When I was young, I felt very happy to win the recognition of others, so I did too many things that made me uncomfortable under the preferences of others. The result did not satisfy the other party, but made him more and more unhappy.

When I was a child, I didn't realize the warmth brought by my family. I always like to go out and run around the house. At this age, being with my family can make me feel the tranquility of the years. I used to like to haggle with my lover on big and small issues. Now I always like to bow my head and admit my mistakes. I feel at ease to see a harmonious family.

When people reach middle age, there are three most advanced lifestyles: unsociable, unlovable and indifferent.

Jin scholar Ge Hong said:

"Willing to join hands, not far from mountains and seas; Those who follow the rules are not close at hand. "

Truly like-minded people will not feel distant from each other because of the mountains and high waters; If two people disagree, even if they are close at hand, their hearts are far away.

You don't need to have many friends, let alone force yourself to get along with others in order to make more friends.

You used to make friends everywhere on the principle of "many friends, many roads". On the surface, everyone is sincere and grateful to each other, but few people are really willing to lend a helping hand when they really encounter difficulties, and all the vows are gone.

In particular, I used to treat my friends sincerely, but I was hurt many times. I know that there are not many friends, but the essence. There is no need to get along with others deliberately in order to make too many people.

True friends often go through many things together, so it is better to change your mind if you understand each other. When people reach middle age, they don't just try to make many friends. On the contrary, they only chat with friends who have chatted and make suggestions from each other's point of view.

"Huainanzi" said: "The same line gathers and thousands of miles follow; Whether it works or not, it won't work. "

People with the same interests and behaviors can get close together thousands of miles apart, while people with different interests can't communicate even if they live opposite each other.

It is a great blessing to have like-minded friends around you when you reach middle age.

In the big circle of life, everyone often associates with all kinds of people, some are appreciated by themselves, some are friendly, some have met before, and of course some are unhappy because of trivial matters.

When people reach middle age, they should grasp a principle when interacting with others: don't please.

Lao Zhang is now middle-aged, and the principle of dealing with others is to be kind to others, and satisfying them will make him easy to get along with.

Therefore, no matter who you associate with, you treat each other with a flattering attitude. At first, some people thought he was kind and easy to talk to, but over time, some people thought that Lao Zhang was easy to bully. Even the little brother who often sent a courier to Lao Zhang's house sometimes accused him, even if he was late.

Lao Zhang's lover advised him to change his temper. Even his own good attitude doesn't need to be left to everyone. The more you please others, the less they will take you seriously. The more attitude you have, the other person will think you have personality.

When people reach middle age, there is no need to compromise themselves in order to please everyone, because no matter what you do in this world, there will be people who support and oppose it; You can't make everyone like you. Similarly, you can't like everyone.

If you give up, you will get it.

When people reach middle age, they should realize that they live for themselves. This is not selfishness, but knowing how to choose. I know in my heart that some people can be together and some people will never change their minds.

When people reach middle age, they gradually like to enjoy the feeling of going home. Even if they sit on the sofa watching TV and see their families around them, they feel happy inside.

Family members are our closest relatives, so we should know how to "ignore" them.

Too many contradictions in the family are caused by a trivial matter, which leads to quarrels, quarrels and mutual accusations, and then rises to the stage of the Cold War.

We don't have to treat our family like everyone outside. We should argue about right and wrong, and we should distinguish between high and low.

Family members talk about care and love, not about winning or losing.

When people reach middle age, they have learned not to care, bow their heads and admit their mistakes, and make each other blush, but they don't feel that they are wrong, and even feel the fun of getting along.

If you don't care, you will care more about your family. You won't let trifles affect your relationship. You will be more tolerant and understanding, more accepting and paying.

When people reach middle age, they just want to find a way to make themselves happy. After all, they still face great pressure and responsibility in all aspects. For the people they love, for the people who love themselves, they have to move forward.

So, when you choose what kind of living method, you will have what kind of life.

When people reach middle age, they have experienced a lot and seen a lot, and they know what they want and what they really want. There is no need to get lost for external interference.

Life is a process of constant choice. When you choose to treat life in an unsociable, unpleasant and indifferent way, you will have more energy to make yourself better and better, to cherish what you have, to let those flashy things go with the wind, and not to let yourself get caught up in it and live too tired.

Live well, face everything in life with a positive attitude, take dreams as a horse, live up to your youth, come on!

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Author: Uncle He Zhi walks with you in the emotional world every day to warm and heal your heart.