How to gracefully refuse others to pick up food for you?

Putting food for others at the dinner table should be a way of hospitality that has been passed down by the Chinese nation for thousands of years. After all, Confucius said long ago: When friends come from far away, it’s no wonder! It would be too unenthusiastic if you didn't even pick up food for friends when they get together!

However, sometimes this dish is really uncomfortable! Sometimes it’s because the other person brought the dish that I don’t like the most, sometimes it’s because the other party brought too many dishes and I was too embarrassed to leave any left, so I had to bite the bullet; sometimes it was because I saw that the other person’s chopsticks had some food on them. There were still saliva and rice grains left, and I felt that the food the other party served was disgusting. But we can’t stand up, lift the table and leave...

So, how can we gracefully refuse others to pick up food for us? Let me give you some advice:

1: I am losing weight!

Yes, if you want to refuse others to pick up food for you gracefully and without embarrassment, then use weight loss as an excuse!

Now is an era where materialism is rampant and delicious food is everywhere. Many people end up with belly fat without knowing it. So when someone offers you food, they must be offering you big fish and meat! At this time, can't we just use this as a shield?

For example, when you are chatting happily with others, suddenly an elder takes a large piece of oily braised pork from the plate and prepares it for you. What should you do at this time? First of all, I definitely can’t just refuse and say I don’t like it! After all, we are the elders. Out of respect for our elders, we should "save the country" by tactfully and elegantly rejecting the dishes our elders serve for us!

We should first stand up and express our gratitude to our elders for their care for us, show a flattered expression, pretend to think for a while, then pat our belly, and say to our elders embarrassingly I've been eating too much oil and water recently, and I'm trying to lose weight. I can't eat such greasy things. Then he politely asked the elder to put the vegetables he put into his bowl, and asked him to eat more and pay more attention to his body...

Of course, it's done. This is not all yet! Isn't there an old saying in China that it's rude to come back without reciprocating? Since our elders care about us so much and pick up food for us, then we should care more about the old man and pick up some food for him! Because the elderly’s teeth are not very good and the digestive system is aging, we can put some vegetables and radishes in the bowls of the elders, and then tell the elders to eat and drink well...

In this way, not only do we gracefully refuse the food that others serve for us, but we also show our sensible side in the eyes of everyone. It really serves multiple purposes!

Two: Pick up the food yourself!

If you don’t want others to pick up the food for you, then you have to pick up the food yourself first!

First of all, we need to know why others pick up food for us! Apart from people being hospitable and caring about you or being afraid that some dishes are too far away from you, the other most important reason is that there is no food in your bowl! Only when there is no more food in your bowl will people feel that they have not treated you well, and they will give you some food!

Now that we know the reason why others pick up food for us, it will be much easier to handle! We can put slow-cooked food in our bowl before others do it for us, so we don’t have to worry about having to put food for ourselves!

But there is still something to be said for picking up food for yourself! You must never pick up your favorite dish! Otherwise, you will finish the meal in two bites, giving others a chance to pick up some food for you! You should add some things that you don’t like so much so that you always have food in your bowl! Of course, you can also put a big bone or lion head in your bowl. Anyway, this thing is big, and if it is in the bowl, it will basically not be able to fit the vegetables that others give you!

When you are ready, you don’t have to be afraid of others picking up food for you. When the other party complains about not greeting you well and brings you food, you can hold up the bowl and pretend to take the food, and then look at the bowl in embarrassment and say that you still have food and thank the other party for the food. Great hospitality.

In this way, aren’t we elegantly and decently refusing the dishes that others serve for us?