What are the taboos about joking?

Let’s first talk about the various taboos about joking, which are easy to encounter in life. The examples listed are only to illustrate the point, please do not make any assumptions.

1. To attack one party and lift up the other party

Don't make this kind of joke in a multi-person chat. The speaker has no intention, the listener has intention. The person who was attacked will naturally feel uncomfortable after hearing this, and the person who was promoted will not be happy either. He thinks that if you are hurting others at will now, maybe you are hurting me again in another place. Maybe it was just a good-natured joke, but in the end, in someone's words, it was hurting others but not benefiting oneself. Typical example: Oh, I said so-and-so, why do you eat so much? You don’t learn from someone else, how well you maintain your figure.

2. A joke that is easy to cause misunderstanding and has ambiguous meaning

For example, A said to B: So-and-so, you have so much money to prepare to have children.

Actually, person A means that you are keeping money to wait for appreciation, but person B understands it as keeping money to prepare for going to the hospital to give birth to a baby.

As a pure little girl, B naturally felt that A’s joke was vulgar.

3. Feel free to use derogatory words as complimentary words

For example, words such as sensual, lascivious, corrupt and decadent. Although people basically use them as complimentary words now, there are also many people who cannot accept the use of these words at first. It's best to explain it to him before joking about it.

Four. Too bad

When joking, you often need to put yourself in their shoes and pay attention to how you make the other person feel. For example, if someone leaves work on time, you come up and say: So-and-so, you are more punctual than the host of Xinwen Network. Another example is when someone goes to work on time, and you step forward and shout in front of all your colleagues: The pinch king is here. If it were you who was talking about it, you would definitely not be able to keep it on your face. If you joke too harshly, others will think that your words are thorny and there is something wrong in your words, and a sense of distance will arise.

5. Self-destructive image

Sometimes when the joke goes too far, it is easy to get confused! Instead of harming others, it actually harms oneself. This is called stealing a chicken and wasting a handful of rice. For example, when you want to make things difficult for someone to borrow something, you can say: So-and-so, if you want to borrow something from me, you can pay a deposit of 40 yuan first. If things go on like this, it will leave the illusion of being stingy and stingy to others.

All of the above are details that are not handled properly in normal joking. It is not easy to leave a good impression on others, but a bad impression is often left in an overlooked detail, and it is difficult to reverse it. As the saying goes, "Good things don't go out, but bad things spread thousands of miles." Milu also said that details determine success or failure, haha. There are many details in life that need to be paid attention to.

1. Smile more

Even a silly smile looks better than no smile at all. If you always have an expressionless face, even if you are secretly having fun, others will think that you are living a very depressed life. No one likes to stay with depressed people, as their emotions will be contagious.

2. Gossip, but handle it appropriately

People who gossip love life. People should listen to gossip more, but after listening, they should say what they should say, turn around what should be said, and forget what should be forgotten. Dealing with gossip requires art, and you must not lose the trust of others easily.

In short, in a word. Joking is the joy of life and is indispensable, but you must pay attention to the occasion and use appropriate words. You should pay attention to details when you act and speak, and personally you should be brighter and more comprehensive. The result is not the most important, but the process is equally important. Let’s go to Hushan again!