I just turned 3 1 this year and have been dating my wife for 9 years. She is three years younger than me. In these nine years, we have been together.

You are the same age as me. I'm not sure what problem I will solve, so I'll just say my opinion.

Your first mistake is what people often call the seven-year itch. I think it's better to change it than the present one. But you realized this mistake,

So you turned around. From the first time you turned around and your wife accepted you, your wife still wanted to live with you, whether she really loved you or not.

For the sake of children, she is willing to go hand in hand with you.

Your second mistake, I don't believe what you said, "I regret it, because I still love my wife, even sprinting on that woman's stomach, and I still miss my wife", because it has nothing to do with whether you love your wife or not, you just want to indulge. I think,/In my opinion,

This time, you certainly didn't want to divorce your wife as you did the first time, because you experienced it once and knew you would get it.

Out of proportion to the loss, the cost is too high.

If you are not caught red-handed for the second time, it will only be an episode in your life, and there will be no deterioration in the relationship between husband and wife.

The contradiction deepened again, and both sides had a hard time. I believe what you regret most now is not finding that woman, but being found by your wife after finding that woman.

So in my opinion, brother, your comrade is still a good comrade, just a little treacherous and extravagant.

However, none of these can help you solve your urgent needs.

In my opinion, you now believe in the crisis and want to save it, instead of breaking the jar and breaking it directly.

Since it is a crisis of trust, only by regaining trust can we return to normal.

There are several ways, but all through communication with your wife, which is the last thing you want to do.

1. Communicate with your wife alone, adopt an attitude to ensure that this kind of thing will not happen again, be willing to hand over your QQ password, be willing to be inquired about your mobile phone information at any time, take the initiative to contact your wife when the husband and wife are separated, or tell your wife what you are doing by contacting your children. If a man is dating a mistress or something, he can still do it.

At the same time, chatting with your own daughter, the face does not change color, and there is no need to save it, because it has been cultivated to a certain extent.

In the face of his wife's doubts about himself, explain and dispel doubts, instead of blindly accusing the other party of making things out of nothing (both are side effects of the previous problems and must be borne)

2. Solve it through family meetings. Is to invite parents, parents-in-law, of course, you can find a chance. Have dinner, and then take the initiative to bring it up.

The promise in front of parents' parents-in-law is much more reassuring than the package you gave her, that is, you told her 1000 times that I won't do it again.

It is better to say in front of all the family that it will never happen again, and of course avoid the daughters. This can add high marks to your credibility.

If you are determined to get rid of this problem (in my opinion, it is similar to smoking and drinking, which is harmful and difficult to quit), your commitment will also spur you.

Let you be careful when you face such temptation next time, because you have promised in front of your family. If you do this again, you will lose the trust of your whole family, not just.

Your wife. People always want to save face. If you don't keep your word in front of many people, you should balance it.

Show these words you wrote directly to your wife, let her know what you want to say to her, but it is not easy to say them in front of her.

Then we will have a long talk and make love all night. As the ancients said, one day the husband and wife are grateful for a hundred days, and the end of the bed fights. It is not unreasonable.

There are many contradictions between husband and wife, and you are the most common one.

Finally, I wish you a harmonious family. Actually, think about it. People have been tossing and turning for decades. What's the point?

If your daughter-in-law can see this passage, I have something for you: if you are someone else, the person who said this passage is not your husband, but someone who has nothing to do with you.

A man, and what he said is completely true, will you forgive this man? I believe you will choose to forgive, so why did you encounter this situation?

When things are hesitant, do you want the other party to prove that you are trustworthy?

Knowing a person too well, strangers will trust him more easily than you when he tells the truth, so be more tolerant and trust, and you will be happy!

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