What I said to my parents.

Can you talk to your parents in your heart?

The generation gap is an old problem. However, with the development of society, the old problems are constantly changing in form and content.

Don't complain about your parents

I think we middle school students can't always complain that our parents don't know ourselves, but should try to communicate with them with an open mind. Don't think they talk too much, because you are their child, and you and your parents have the obligation to create a better family atmosphere. Isn't it pleasant to live in a good family atmosphere? Think about it, you may be far away from your parents after you go to college, so we should cherish the time with our parents now, communicate with them well and enjoy the warmth of our family. Some students really don't communicate much with their parents. The reason may also be that some parents don't grasp the scale of their words and deeds, but I think there are still some problems in the students themselves. We are all in adolescence now, and sometimes we have some resistance to people and things, but we should try our best to overcome these troubles and anxieties and communicate with our parents more. I hope all the students can realize that it is a pleasure to communicate with their parents. I don't think you will be happy if your parents don't ask you anything. In addition, I believe many students have the same feelings as me: parents are really not easy, so we should understand them well and honor them. I believe that on the basis of this concept, our communication with parents will become easier! ◇

Don't let the "generation gap" artificially widen.

Some middle school students always like to artificially exaggerate the "generation gap" with their parents, saying "you don't understand" or "your words are out of date" and so on. They often think that parents have fallen behind today's society and don't understand today's children. However, I think that a large part of the reason why parents don't understand their children is that they don't really open their hearts and communicate with their parents sincerely. I have also met many classmates, and I have a close and harmonious relationship with my parents in my life. From the brilliance on their faces, we can see how happy they are!

Adolescent middle school students are bound to keep many secrets in their hearts and are unwilling to reveal them to others, especially their parents. Because parents often want to "control" us, we often regard our parents as the biggest enemy who invades our secrets. At this age, our self-control, discrimination and endurance are actually quite limited, but we often regard ourselves as adults and are particularly eager to get rid of the shackles of our parents. But we should know that our parents' life experience is richer than ours, and their views on things are more comprehensive and accurate. With the progress of society and the development of media, parents can quickly master the latest and fastest things, and the distance from their children is not as great as expected. So I think middle school students should take the initiative to communicate with their parents and get their parents' support and help on many issues. If there are differences of opinion, we should also think calmly, think about who is right and who is wrong, and then decide where to go. ◇

Parents really want to communicate.

I think most people feel the same as me: I would like to tell my good friends from the heart, not my parents. As I grow up, my communication with my parents is also decreasing. When I went to the county middle school, every time I went home, my parents' first feeling was: I came back to get my living expenses. In this way, I gradually became psychologically alienated from my parents. In fact, I really want to tell my parents that I understand you very much. You have worked hard to study for me, but it is not easy for me to study. But when it comes to the mouth, it is always difficult to export. Later, it suddenly occurred to me that maybe parents also want to know what their children are thinking and whether they understand their parents' good intentions. So I chose to write to talk to my parents. Because letters can express feelings that are hard to say in person and full of infinite affection. Although my parents' culture is not high, I want to write some words in Chinese Pinyin, but my parents can still understand my true meaning and form an emotional blend with me. From my experience, I want to say that parents really want to listen to their children's voices. As long as we choose a good expression, we will certainly enhance our understanding and reduce the unhappiness caused by the "generation gap". ◇

Set up a "heart bridge" to communicate with parents

The following "communication skills" may help students build a "heart bridge" to communicate with their parents.

The first trick: "mind reading" technique. Everyone should know and respect their parents. For example, send some gifts to express feelings on holidays or parents' birthdays, or go out to contact feelings together; Express your concern in words, such as saying "good morning" to your parents in the morning and "goodbye" to your parents when you go out, indicating the expected time to go home.

The second measure: "attack" technique. Take the initiative to do a few things with your parents every week and communicate while doing it; You can talk to your parents about your school, teachers and friends, happy or unhappy things before and after meals every day, so that your family can share your joys and sorrows.

The third measure: "responsibility" skills. In addition to studying, we should actively assist our parents to do housework and take the initiative to share some family responsibilities, such as washing dishes, taking out garbage and cleaning windows.

The fourth measure: the "apology" technique. Don't run away when you do something wrong, don't be silent, and take the initiative to apologize, so that your parents will understand you.

The fifth measure: "write a letter." If you talk to your parents directly, you may make them angry, or you may not have a chance to talk to your parents. You can write down the truth, your feelings and your hopes for your parents in a letter.

The sixth measure: the "consent" technique. Negotiate with parents to sign a communication agreement. In the agreement, in addition to filial piety and respect for parents, parents are also required to raise and teach their children correctly and be supervised at all times in family life.

The seventh trick: the skill of "listening". When you are criticized or scolded by your parents, don't rush to refute, lose your temper or talk back at will, avoid accidentally saying or making hurtful words, and try to listen to your parents' thoughts calmly first, so that you can really understand your parents. ◇

Often go home and talk.

Not long ago, I saw a survey about middle school students. When asked who they would tell if they had something on their mind, most people chose to hide it in their stomachs, in turn: write it in their diaries, tell their good friends, tell their teachers and tell their parents. It can be seen that many people are reluctant to tell their parents what they think.

It stands to reason that your parents are closest to you, so why don't you want to tell your parents what's on your mind? I think this is partly because some parents blindly ask their children to do what they want, leaving them no choice. On the other hand, because there is a generation gap between parents and children, children feel that there is nothing to talk about with their parents. The author believes that this is a very bad phenomenon. Because in life, parents' experience is much richer than that of our middle school students, and they have a thorough understanding of various problems. If we tell our parents something difficult, we will certainly get effective help. In addition, it is also a good way to relieve psychological stress by telling your parents what you are worried about and not putting it in your heart. At the same time, I also hope that parents in the world should be good at listening to their children's voices, knowing how to respect and understand their inner thoughts, and being good at teaching by example. Only in this way can parents become "intimate friends" in their children's hearts. Often go home and speak your mind, and there may be less confusion and loss on the road to growth.