After working hard in Shanghai for more than 20 years, do you think it is feasible to sell your house and go back to your hometown?

I might as well go back to my hometown and wait until I retire.

Honey, her uncle is almost 60. She came back last year and built a three-story building in the village. She planned to come back for retirement, but she went back within a few months.

Let's talk about my wife's uncle's experience first. My third uncle and my third aunt also plan to go home for the elderly, but when they really come back, they find that everything is not what they expected. The old couple had no choice but to return to Shenzhen a few months later. (The following are all called by his uncle.)

1, the factory is handed over to my cousin, and my uncle and aunt are ready to come back for retirement.

My uncle went to Shenzhen very early, worked hard outside for many years, opened his own factory and made carton packaging. His wife also worked part-time in his uncle's factory when she was studying in the south. My aunt took her wife to Hong Kong for a few days.

Every year during the Spring Festival, three uncles, three aunts and cousins can only come back, usually after fifteen. During the New Year in China, uncles, cousins and the whole family get together and feel very happy. At this time of the year, his uncle always wipes his tears emotionally after drinking, saying that it is not easy to work hard outside these years. Although I made money, I still feel good at home.

Every time, what his uncle says most is to sell all his possessions and then come back to live. Although his aunt is not from here, she is firmly on his side, saying that his uncle often misses home, and I don't know how many times he has wiped his tears. When he remembered that he was so far away, he was sad that he couldn't drink with his brother, and he was sad that he couldn't stay with his mother all the time. My wife and grandmother are over 90 years old and can still live independently. Every year, she will steam reunion cakes for the children.

The year before last, his uncle had a house built in the village. According to his uncle, he still found a drawing designed by a famous designer, demolished the old house and built a three-story building, which is definitely the best house in the village. Last year, my uncle and aunt handed over the factory to their cousins and came back to live.

Cousins are determined not to come back and oppose their coming back.

His uncle said that they had discussed with his cousin that the whole family would move back, and now they have accumulated some assets, and they can live well when they come back to do some small business, but my cousin did not agree to come back. Actually, I think so. I have been rooted in Shenzhen for many years and am used to life in big cities. How can I come back? Besides, there are better resources such as education, and my cousin has to consider his two children, so my cousin is determined not to come back.

My cousin's sister-in-law doesn't approve of his uncle's coming back, and his uncle's aunt is almost 60 years old. Cousin gave reasons for several days:

-feel too far away after coming back, they have no way to take care of.

-Uncle is in poor health and has better medical resources in Shenzhen.

Children also need their old couple to look after them occasionally.

After the house was built, the three uncles and aunts insisted on coming back, but they faced many problems after coming back.

Everyone is busy with their work and has become idle people.

-a few brothers are busy, and there are few opportunities for parties. His uncle originally imagined that after returning to China, he would have a lot of contact with these relatives in his hometown all day, and there would often be such lively party scenes during the Chinese New Year, but when he came back, he found that it was not quite the same as he imagined.

On weekdays, everyone is usually very busy. Grandpa and several other uncles have plastic greenhouses at home, and they have to work in the fields early every morning. My father-in-law runs a small business by himself, and my sixth uncle has a farm at home. Therefore, no matter how many brothers, over 60 and under 60, have things to do and can't afford to be idle. All the brothers his uncle wants are very good. It's impossible to drink and chat together, that is,

-neighbors are busy, and three uncles and aunts have become real idlers. In addition to a few brothers, neighbors are also very busy, and they are basically not at home during the day. There are almost no people visiting other homes, and people are invited to have a drink at home at night, sometimes they can't get together. So in the past few months, most of the time, three uncles and three aunts have either wandered around the village or "stared at each other" at home.

Three uncles and three aunts said that if this continues, it will really "suppress illness."

4. Uncle suddenly fell ill and was in a hurry. He didn't know how to see a doctor.

An important factor that made his uncle and aunt make up their minds to go back was that his uncle suddenly fell ill that day, and I don't know what happened. His uncle suddenly felt sick and had some difficulty breathing. As a result, the village clinic closed at midnight, and his father-in-law drove them to the county hospital for examination. It took more than an hour from the village to the county seat.

Fortunately, his uncle's illness is not serious, or the delay of more than an hour will make his aunt a little scared. Cousin knows and will let his uncle go back. After all, he is used to living there, and how to deal with emergencies is worth it. However, if he encounters some problems at home, he will be really anxious.

His uncle may be a little scared himself. He didn't say a word when his cousin called him.

My cousin called, and no one looked after the children, so I went back to take care of them.

At the end of last year, my cousin's business was getting better and better, and the order volume increased greatly. My cousin and cousin are basically in the factory all day, the children are not looked after at all, and a nanny is not very responsible. My cousin called his uncle and asked him to go back and help with the children.

This time, his uncle and aunt did not hesitate and readily agreed. Three uncles and three aunts' plan to come back for retirement finally fell through.

In fact, even if I don't babysit, maybe my uncle and aunt will go back. For several months, my uncle and aunt didn't have a good life in their hometown, but suddenly they were idle and did nothing, but they felt unaccustomed.

6. Is it really difficult to support the elderly from a big city to a small city?

Many people want to sell their houses in the city and live in a small town. There is nothing wrong with this idea, but the following things must be considered clearly:

The pace of life is different, can you really adapt?

In fact, compared with small towns, the pace of life in big cities is completely different. If you are used to the pace of life in a big city and suddenly come to a small town, are you ready? Many people have the plot of "settling down and moving". The key point is that after living in a big city for many years, it seems that the big city has become a "hometown", and leaving rashly will naturally bring a lot of inconvenience.

A sudden change in living habits will be very uncomfortable.

There are also great differences between big cities and small towns in terms of education, medical care and sanitation. Can they adapt to small towns after enjoying rich materials and superior conditions in big cities? You know, in the past, many living habits would suddenly change, just like his uncle's illness. Maybe you can solve the problem easily in Shenzhen, but after you come back, you have to drive to the county hospital for more than an hour.

Zazie Hoko

Can you really put everything aside and live in a small town?

Many people want to sell their houses in the city and live comfortably in their hometown, but the problem is that they have established countless contacts and even many concerns after living in big cities for many years. Can these really say give up? Cousins don't want to come back. They are destined to become the concern of uncles and aunts, as well as neighbors and old friends who have worked in the local area for many years. Do you really give up when you say give up?

Of course, if everything is arranged properly, it is no problem to go back to your hometown to support the elderly. I believe this is also the biggest dream of many people, but the question is, does reality really have such conditions? Three uncles and aunts may come back, but for now, it should be after his eldest grandson goes to college.