70-year-old mother-in-law's heart: "Cooking for daughter-in-law is a burden"?

Many wanderers who have been wandering all the year round have embarked on a journey home. It's good to be home, they thought. When they get home, they can have endless sleep and delicious meals. Although there is a fly in the ointment, parents often nag me in my ears, but it's no harm compared with work. But today I have to tell these homeless people who are eager to return a cruel fact: your parents may not be so eager for your return.

Why do you say that? Listen to the following slowly.

"Chinese New Year is my disaster day! I really don't want them to go home. " This sentence comes from the mouth of neighbor Aunt Cui. When I first heard it, I thought that although she said she didn't want to, she complained a little, but after all, the child who worked for one year went home, and the total loan amount was more surprising than complaining, but she never expected that Aunt Cui really didn't want her sons to come back.

Aunt Cui is 70 years old and lives with her wife and an 80-year-old lady. Aunt Cui has been married for 50 years and has never been separated from her in-laws. Twenty years ago, when her mother-in-law became ill, Aunt Cui began to take care of herself. It took twenty years. As she grew older, Aunt Cui began to feel at a loss, but she couldn't find a nanny who was willing to serve the old man. She had to stand up to her 70-year-old body and serve her mother-in-law wholeheartedly, and finally won a good reputation.

Aunt Cui's wife is a little male chauvinist. After dinner, she sat down for a cup of tea or went out to chat. Therefore, everything in the family is decided by Aunt Cui alone, and Aunt Cui has to bear the criticism of her wife from time to time. For example, it's not done well here, it's not done well there, and it's not considered well enough. Aunt Cui is exhausted and often has heartache.

Aunt Cui is very busy. As a daughter-in-law, she has to take care of her mother-in-law and prepare for the New Year. As a mother-in-law, she has to prepare something for her upcoming son and daughter-in-law. She has three sons, all married and have children. Every year, she takes her children home to get married, a total of nine people. She must prepare three meals a day for nine people. What a huge workload this is. Every year, Aunt Cui is very busy.

My son is busy at work. Call him and get there. Daughters-in-law get together to watch their children chat about eating melon seeds, clothes, cosmetics and what centers they have visited this year. None of them thought of helping aunt Cui, and they didn't care about aunt Cui's heart.

Aunt Cui said that looking at the scum on the ground, watching noisy children and adults, and looking at the messy table that no one cleaned up, my head hurts. But she can't say anything. Once she has offended these little ancestors, she may not know how to fan the flames behind her back. It is better to do one more thing in the new year, so bear with it. Can endure, she began to be afraid of the New Year and her sons coming home.

I remember a song like this: "Go home often, even if it is to brush chopsticks and wash dishes for my mother." Old people don't want their children to make too much contribution to the family, and it's not easy to get together once in a lifetime. I often go home to see, go home to see, even if I pat my father on the back and rub his shoulders, the old man doesn't want to make much contribution to his family, but he is always on tenterhooks and always seeks peace. "

Sometimes Aunt Cui thinks, why can't my children brush chopsticks and wash dishes for this family? She really doesn't ask for anything, but someone can help me when she is confused with high blood pressure. But every year, this hope is dashed.

Aunt Cui said that she wanted to have more children when she was young. She is old, has a good support, always has something to hope for, but always becomes my burden. She can't wait to put these children back in her stomach so that she can stay alone for a while.

Aunt Cui also said that if a girl is born, she will be educated. Don't stick to who you go back to during the Spring Festival. I can go anywhere I want according to my wishes. How can there be so many necessities in life? Who stipulates that I must go home for the New Year?

After listening to Aunt Cui's words, I began to understand why the old man didn't want his children to go home. In the final analysis, the most direct reason is that Aunt Cui's children don't really care about the elderly.

They think that by giving their parents money, they can openly enjoy their parents' labor and efforts. They think that their parents will be happy as long as they come back. They never thought about what their parents really wanted. I can't remember how their parents selflessly sent them to school and made money to ensure their livelihood when they were young.

Speaking of this, it suddenly occurred to me that my mother is the most tired of the whole family every Spring Festival. From cleaning to steaming steamed bread, preparing vegetables, cutting meat, cook the meat, fried meatballs, and wrapping jiaozi, my mother did it herself, while my father waited for ready-made food. While watching TV, we impatiently asked our mother not to nag. It's hard for my mother to have a good sleep these days. She stayed up until midnight almost every day and got up early the next day to prepare breakfast for us.

It is not easy for a woman who is a daughter-in-law, a mother and a wife. They are doing endless housework and all the work that a nanny should do, but they have never been paid or rested, and no one has ever said thank you. You have worked hard.

Thinking of this, I seem to see Aunt Cui's incompetence and her heavy dark circles. For Aunt Cui, the Chinese New Year is really a big battle!

However, from another perspective, these young people around us are shouting for themselves. What is the reason why men are tired? It is nothing more than physical fatigue on the way home. The thought of facing the questioning of relatives and the heartache of giving red envelopes to money when I go home for the New Year.

Women are tired because they are uncoordinated and inconvenient, and they are not as warm as the houses in the city. But what are these compared with the mother's efforts? I am ashamed of young people who have these ideas.

In your family, who is the hardest during the Spring Festival? Who is the most tired? The year is approaching, can your parents get busy? If you can, help a group of aging people, so that their year can be a little easier and happier. Let them have a rest this year!