The pressure of life makes an old man take care of a baby, which brings tears to his heart. Who is taking care of your baby?

I am Yibai Fen Game Time! Very happy to answer your questions!

I am a father. Considering the actual situation of my family, I am now taking care of my baby full-time!

After seeing your question, I actually have a question? That's the sad tears you mentioned. Is it because of the pressure of life, or because the old man has to take care of the baby?

Or does it make you cry bitterly because of the conflicts between the parents of the child and the old man after the old man takes care of the baby?

When our children were young, we lived with the elderly. We went to work during the day and the elderly helped to take care of the children. When we got off work at night, we took care of the children by ourselves, allowing the elderly to rest at night. When the children started going to kindergarten, we When the families are separated, we will drop off the children in the morning, and ask the elderly to help take them home in the evening. We will then go to the elderly people's homes to take the children back to their own homes, so that the elderly will not have too much trouble taking care of the children.

This problem will be different because the circumstances of each family are different. It is also a social problem. It is indeed difficult for the elderly to raise children, and some are indeed forced by life, making it difficult for every family to recite sutras.

You are talking bullshit, creating social conflicts and family conflicts. Since ancient times in China, the elderly have helped to raise their grandchildren. This is the happiness of the family. Although there are occasional conflicts, this is normal.

My wife and I came from the northeast to my son's house in the south to wait for my daughter-in-law to have her confinement period. My daughter-in-law gave birth to a boy, and our family was very happy. Both my son and daughter-in-law have jobs. My daughter-in-law has to go to work after six months of maternity leave. She can't afford a nanny, so she asked us to take care of her. We have to get used to it for a while and then see. Relatives and friends in my hometown also told me that when I go to my son’s house, I should talk less and mind my own business, and keep in mind what my daughter-in-law likes to eat. If you have nothing to do, go to your daughter-in-law's room. You can't open the door and go in when you hear a child crying. After observing these days, my daughter-in-law is doing okay. My wife and I reminded each other that my daughter-in-law is from the south and loves Northeastern food. I also read various food recipes on my phone. We keep learning, and there are no bitter tears for the time being. Our mission is to cook good food, take good care of the children, and make our son, daughter-in-law feel at ease. The old ways of the past cannot be used, so we have to listen to the young people. Let’s live in peace. We should not care too much when we are old people. We have been young too. Looking back on our past, we must be children in front of us. Who can never do anything wrong in his life? There is no right or wrong in housework. Tolerance to each other, otherwise It is in vain to have several daughters-in-law.

Before my two children were one and a half years old, my aunt and grandpa took care of them. Later, my grandpa and grandma took care of them together. However, I am not busy at work. Basically, my grandpa helped me pick them up from kindergarten, and I took them by myself at night. .

Whether the elderly and their children can live in harmony mainly depends on whether the elderly are smart, nosy and talkative, and whether they can accept new ideas.

Secondly, the mother, can she be open-minded, don’t take things too seriously, and be more open-minded and we can get along with each other in harmony.

Why are old people crying when they take care of their babies? It is heavenly joy and fun for the elderly to help their children take care of the children when their health allows. Why is it a burden? If you feel that it is a burden and makes you cry, then stop taking care of the children and enjoy the free life of the elderly. Live every day happily, and don’t force yourself to do things you don’t want to do. You have worked hard all your life and you should live your old age happily.

Married for ten years, the child is 9 years old, and the parents help take care of the child until he is 7 years old. Someone who has experienced it will tell you that it might not be sad if you think about it from another angle!

When the children were young, most of them were taken care of by their grandma, and most of them were happy. I ran a small business of my own, and my husband needed to travel frequently for work. It was basically just the three of us at home, and we would talk and laugh when we got home from get off work. harmonious. Occasionally, I don’t agree with an elderly person’s ideas on dressing or education. Basically, I just say it out loud. Since I am raising children for my own daughter, my mother doesn’t take it seriously, and we can communicate effectively with each other.

When my child was five years old, because I was in a hurry to go to work in the morning, I took out a 50-cent coin from my pocket while installing my mobile phone, and put it on the bedside table. As a result, my child ran to the bedroom to play by himself, and when he saw it, he held it in his mouth. Inside, I accidentally swallowed it. The 5-year-old child, who already had some safety knowledge, started crying because he was afraid. My mother was mopping the floor in the living room and had already swallowed it when she ran over. The child cried and said, "I don't want to die..." Grandma, will I die..." My mother was scared to death. What was even more annoying was that she called me more than 20 times but couldn't get through... I happened to answer a call from a customer for about 40 minutes. My mother couldn't wait any longer, so she picked up the baby and went out to take a taxi to the hospital. Because an old lady from the countryside came to the city to take care of her daughter's baby, she didn't know which hospital to go to, and she was confused as to which number to call... My mother walked out while holding the baby in her arms. The community still didn't give up on calling me. At least the call got through. I hurriedly drove home. When I went to the hospital, the coin was already in the lower part of my stomach and not stuck in my esophagus. The doctor said that if the stool can be photographed within three days, everything would be fine. , we let go of our hanging hearts. On the way back, my mother kept explaining that she was mopping the floor for a client, and she accidentally ran into that house... Actually, I didn't blame her very much, but I felt sad. I felt sorry for the child and my mother, even if I took care of it myself. Children, there is no guarantee that there will be no mistakes at all. Fortunately, on the third day, the coin was finally passed out. The child had not defecated for several days, and the poop was very smelly. My mother did not dislike it at all. She took a small stick and reading glasses to carefully remove the poop from the pile of poop. I can still vividly remember the joy and relief on her face when she found the coin... I can only say that it is not easy for an old person to take care of children. She took care of me when I was a child, took care of my children when I grew up, and now my brother The older generation will always sacrifice themselves until the lamp runs out and they can no longer contribute to their children, so they have no choice but to guard their own small family, and they often say that they are old and can't help anything. You guys...

Let’s talk about my grandma. When my mother-in-law was here, she was mostly in harmony, but under the same roof, how could the pots and pans not touch each other? We are not as familiar with each other as my mother and I are, and we have completely different tastes and habits. What’s more, my mother-in-law and I are not from the same province. I am from Shandong and she is from Hebei. The cultural differences are very different, and everyone is also in the same province. Try to get used to each other. But something unpleasant happened.

Once I was on a business trip and returned on the same day. Things were not going very well. I was not in a good mood and was a little tired. It was already dark when I got home. I just pushed the door open and walked in. Before I could sit down and take a sip of water, my mother-in-law kept talking to me about me. My daughter brought a bunch of friends to the house after school to play. They made the house a mess. They were toys on the floor and couldn’t even put their faces in them... She pointed a finger at my daughter and said, "Don’t let them come to the house again! Come here!" Clean it up!" I looked at the child again, who was looking at me with red eyes and fear. My heart ached. I knew that my mother-in-law was usually quiet and didn't like cleaning. She didn't go out or socialize, and she didn't like it. People came to play at home, not to mention a group of six or seven-year-old children who made a mess in the house. She had to clean it up after a while... So, this time I was more on the side of the children. I said, "Mom, the children are also messy." If you don’t let them play together, why don’t you let Nini play alone? You also have friends, don’t your children need friends?” Then my mother-in-law started to lie, “I can’t teach, I can’t teach your own children!” Bring it yourself! I'll leave tomorrow!" I said she was unreasonable... She said I had no tutor and didn't respect my elders... We got into an argument over what you said and I explained the whole thing to my husband that night. The whole story is that I was worried that my husband would not be at home and my mother-in-law and I would quarrel. If my mother-in-law really left the next day, it would be difficult for me to become known as a bad wife. Fortunately, my husband knew my normal nature and would not be disrespectful. An old man would not bully her... He will come back tomorrow to deal with this matter. As a result, early the next morning, I sent my children to school and found that my mother-in-law's room was empty, with no clothes and no people. I called and turned off the phone, thinking to myself , not good! Really gone! Bigger than me!

After I sent my children to school, I came back to the property to check the surveillance. Sure enough, my mother-in-law left the elevator with a backpack at 5:30 in the morning and left the community. I suddenly felt a little uneasy and worried about her on the way. Safe, she is also an old lady in the countryside. If she got lost, she would tell her that her phone was turned off. I sent her a message acknowledging my mistake for a few days, but she didn’t reply. I also recorded the surveillance video of my mother-in-law leaving and showed it to my father-in-law at home. , explained the situation to him, and my father-in-law also comforted me, saying that my mother had a bad temper and told me not to worry, she would tell me when she got home. My mother-in-law left and never came back... Later, my father-in-law was in poor health and was hospitalized. I bought my mother-in-law some better clothes, and our whole family went back to my hometown to see my father-in-law before we picked him up and reconciled. This year, the two elderly people came to stay for another month. During that month, I could devote myself to work. However, once the elderly people left, I had to take care of the children by myself. Due to time constraints, I could not go on business trips or work overtime. The work was very demanding. Affected, income is also affected. Although there were unpleasantnesses in the process of getting along with my mother-in-law, they have all passed. It is a process of getting along. I don’t hold grudges, and later I felt that my mother-in-law’s words were right. We should take care of our own children. The old man has no obligation or responsibility for us to take care of our children. As long as he can give up his normal life and come over to help us pick up and drop off our children every morning and every night, I am satisfied if I can have a hot meal to eat when I get home from get off work.

The education, living environment and food and clothing habits of the older generation are different from ours. They can help us take care of our children as a courtesy. We should be grateful. Don’t blame them if we can’t. Being happy and healthy ourselves is also a blessing for our children. Just imagine when we get old, will you be willing to babysit your children? I don’t want to anyway. I feel relieved if I think about it this way!

I don’t have an old man to help me, so I hire someone to take care of my baby!

When it comes to raising children, you either accept being raised by an old person, an outsider, or you can be raised by yourself. Nothing is perfect, and life is the same.

In fact, these three ways of raising children will make you feel sad in the end. To put it bluntly, it means that no one is serving you according to their own wishes. Instead of being pretentious about these things, it is better to be open-minded. Some...

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