After watching the happy ending of Imperial Love in the Palace, I finally understand that this world is not worth it.

The day before yesterday, Tencent members were full of enthusiasm (members can watch more than 8 episodes), so they didn't watch the happy ending of the palace royal love in advance. Then my feelings now can be described in three words: busy, desolate and destiny. As vast as a dream of red mansions. Desolate as Zhang Ailing, fate as eight dragons. Presumably, when I look back on my life, I feel that everything is a bubble of dreams and sigh that this world is not worth it.

Compared with The Story of Yan Xi Palace, which makes people look very cool, the wishful imperial love in the palace looks really depressed, so depressed that you will want to skip a few episodes from time to time (87 episodes are really too long to be patient), and you will be angry with the heroine's easy injustice and will not care about her misfortune. I wonder why I can't overcome it.

Ruyi's palace love is a kung fu drama, but it is different from previous kung fu dramas. In Gong Dou's previous plays, even though the heroine was born in humble background, she brought her own aura, which made people feel happy. And Yi, the heroine in Ruyi's Imperial Love in the Palace, has a high starting point and many ways to help her, but she can't escape the fate of tragic ending. For example, Yi's life is not satisfactory, and there is nothing cool, only meditation.

Then what caused this tragedy? I read a lot of comments and said it was a slag dragon. He became more and more selfish, fickle, willful, suspicious, and lost some of the good feelings he once had, which made it easy to love her wholeheartedly, such as losing disappointment and despair. Many friends who follow the drama should be as happy as me when they see Ruyi's broken hair and her husband.

Personally, I think it is actually more unconscious and conscious. Involuntary is the external cause of tragedy, and Ruyi himself is the internal cause of tragedy.

She was born in a feudal society ruled by male chauvinism, emphasizing that a husband should be a wife. Women can only depend on men and live in a court that emphasizes power, rank, order, discipline and ethics above all else. She can only submit to humiliation all the time and compromise everywhere.

She grew up in an aristocratic family, which made her see through the power and struggle. In order to take care of her at once, her sweetheart was heartbroken at the sight of knowing you, but she was born in an aristocratic family and needed the trust of her family.

However, Yi Ru is a strong woman with modernism, idealistic love view and strong personality. She yearns for a person's inner love, attaches too much importance to feelings, attaches too much importance to her husband's love, and cares too much, so that after seeing through the truth of Lanyinguo, she understands that flowers bloom and flowers fall, and men and women get married, which is beautiful at first and separation at last. Strong, she chose to let go, keep her heart and get rid of redemption.

She paid the wrong person. She yearned for ordinary love and marriage, but fell in love with and married the emperor, destined to lead an ordinary life. The emperors above ten thousand people felt uneasy, helpless and lonely because of the complexity of the harem of the previous dynasty. Everything they did was highly political. She can't understand and accept that the young man who once loved her has become sophisticated, suspicious, mean, cruel and vicious. She doesn't believe that this man is the person she once loved most. She, in fact, loves wholeheartedly, and resolutely refuses when she doesn't love. Presumably, many friends who follow the drama are very happy to see the scene of Ruyi Broken Hair and her husband.

In order to protect this relationship, if Yi works hard, the things he can't get are always in turmoil, and the loved ones are fearless. Yi Ru prefers to be a dragon, so she is considerate, so she chooses to forbear and give in. With the comfort of her youth, she understood his helplessness and loneliness as an emperor, stood beside Qianlong and fully supported and compromised. However, Ganlong used Ruyi's preferences to hurt Ruyi many times, not only verbally insulting him, but also hitting him harder, because he thought he was the son of heaven, and Ruyi could only be his queen from beginning to end and would not leave him. If you are like other women in the harem, you will not leave for yourself, for your children and for your family. So much so that Qianlong was shocked to see her hair cut off and left.

In the final analysis, Ruyi and Ganlong are not the same person. As Zhen Xuan said, from the beginning, it was seen that Ruyi was at odds with the emperor, and the combination of the two increased their distress.

Some people may say that such pessimism will only increase the pain. In fact, if we observe carefully, we will find that Ruyi Royal Palace does not want to promote any pessimistic argument, but let the viewers understand the reality and the difficulty of being a man better when they realize the complexity of reality and people, and keep a more objective understanding of reality and human nature, so as to see the truth of life and live a full life.

For example, the attitude towards love and marriage: for love, you can yearn for it. Because love is a need and a lack, don't say whether you believe in love or not. Love is like a flower, which blooms and falls. Whether love is in progress or in its infancy, whether you love him more or he loves you more, in fact, loving or being loved is a kind of happiness, so you should be able to bear it and let it go. When love is a thing of the past, turn around and leave.

For marriage, some people say that marriage is the grave of love, and some people say that marriage is a besieged city. People in the city want to come out, and people outside the city want to go in. Seeing these statements, it seems that marriage is more pessimistic and desperate than love. However, if you look at the reality, you will find that many women are basically children after they get married and have children. Children are also the most exposed in the circle of friends, and husbands seem to be invisible. Many husbands also give up on themselves, feeling that married life is boring, trying to escape and seek excitement.

Relevant data show that since 20 13 years, the marriage rate in China has declined for four consecutive years, while the divorce rate has continued to rise, which is 15 years. This phenomenon makes an older marriageable young woman like me have to think, what is the meaning of marriage? How to choose a marriage partner? See an interesting point shared by Li Xiaolai in Learning, Learning and Re-learning on the official account of WeChat.

He believes that most people will eventually get married (which I agree with), and the essence of marriage is to choose a life partner. However, because most people don't choose, they are basically resigned, so marriage happiness is a small probability event. Of course, he also mentioned that one solution is to pursue a strategy. I've seen this strategy. To be honest, it's not feasible.

I quite agree with Li Dan's understanding of marriage shared in The Story of Chipa, and I think it can represent a post-90s Buddha like me.

He said that marriage is a shell, not to protect it, but to protect us. Two adults should say the worst and make the shell of marriage strong enough. How strong is it? Even if the marriage is gone, we must be strong to protect us.

The "protective shell" marriage mentioned by Li Birthday has the following characteristics: first, marriage is the combination of two people who have the ability to make money and happiness, rather than seeking protection and warmth unilaterally; Second, marriage should not only have emotional foundation, but also have three views. The most important basis of the three views is the economic view. People who can talk about money and make money together are suitable for marriage; If money collapses as soon as you talk about it, then sleep, fall in love and never get married; Third, the true love of the two mature individuals is that they can seriously discuss the question "What benefits can you bring me if you get married" before marriage; Fourth, the division of labor after marriage is entirely based on the maximization of interests, not on gender differences and traditional concepts; Fifth, marry someone who supports your dreams and helps you grow.

A long time ago, I saw a similar view in a peer's WeChat tweet, mentioning that two people in love or marriage should learn to grow up together, and even if their feelings are no longer there, they can have a wonderful time after breaking up.

Perhaps, as some comments have said, people have different views on love and marriage from tradition.

True love is not * * * struggling to keep warm, but sharing happiness and glowing. Marriage is not having children, and then raising a baby to prevent old age. Getting married means growing up together and getting rich together. Rather than finding someone to warm each other and spend the rest of our lives together, we are more willing to find a life partner with the mentality of running a company.