There is a quirk: "grandma cried and wanted to come to my house for the elderly, but left her house and money to her uncle." what do you think?

I think, in the same family, what I fear most is the word eccentricity.

Seemingly simple words are always easy to distort the original warm and beautiful family and finally become completely lost.

People's hearts are all fleshy, so no matter how kind they are, they will always complain if they feel greatly wronged at home.

The first time I began to understand the word eccentricity was when my grandfather was ill, and my mother and two aunts at home took turns to go to the hospital to take care of him, including my father for several days.

In the process, my little uncle at least appeared.

He took a look at it that day and took away a box of milk and a big bag of fruit from relatives who came to see grandpa in less than ten minutes, saying that he would take it back to eat.

In the second half of the month, he almost always brought rice, because he knew that his aunt would bring dinner for a meal every day, and grandpa would leave delicious food for his little uncle.

Later, I heard from my mother that on my grandfather's way to the hospital that day, I was worried that I would leave like this. I had to call my aunt, but my uncle didn't answer.

Later, I learned that my grandfather was going to tell my uncle his bank card password and the money at home, for fear that no one would know when he left. At that time, my aunt and grandpa's daughters were nearby, and he didn't tell her.

In the past, I sometimes heard my mother and two aunts vomit, saying that my grandfather had a serious preference for sons, and my son had the final say in everything. As a result, my son was unreliable and had no complaints.

This preference for boys is like something carved into the bones, which can't be changed after all.

No matter how bad uncle is, he won't live up to expectations. I almost divorced my little aunt because I like gambling. He used to need grandpa's help, and grandpa still valued him the most.

Although my mother and two aunts will be dissatisfied, on the other hand, this is my father and I can't say much. At most, it is secretly nagging each other. After all, they can't help this younger brother. They usually help him.

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If you have to find a source for this quirk, you are asking for trouble, because it is completely unreasonable.

There is always more than one mode of affection, otherwise, in this vast world of fireworks, how can those parents lack right and wrong?

However, some things, whether good or bad, fall on your head and you have to bear it. There is no other choice.

I have a child, and her family is similar. The difference is that her mother has a lot of complaints about her parents, saying that there is no real hatred between mother and daughter, and sometimes she just doesn't feel sad.

Because the mother's life after marriage is not good, grandparents won't let her daughter into the house, saying that she has no face at home.

The fate of life sometimes rises and falls, who can say for sure?

Originally, her father's family was in good condition, but later her father didn't want to work for others. Go out to do business with a buddy after marriage. Because of inexperience, it dragged down the family's economy and owed a lot of money.

Her mother is a person who is not afraid of hardship. When this happened at home, she didn't complain, saying that they were too young to start all over again. And her grandmother, at that time, gave a dead order: divorce.

Because in her grandmother's view, it feels like her father's house has suddenly become like this, and it will definitely be difficult to make a comeback in the future. Anyway, that's what her grandmother thought, and then she divorced her mother.

Her mother refused because she was born and her mother loved her father.

Later, because her mother didn't agree with anything, she also said that their lives were not that bad, which completely made her grandmother angry and said that her life was not good, so don't bring trouble to her family.

It turns out that since marriage, my mother has gone home more often and often buys things for her grandparents and younger brother. Her grandmother also asked her mother to live a good life in the future, and don't forget her brother.

Unexpectedly, the tall building collapsed, and even the closest people around me looked down upon it.

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Her mother is also stubborn, so she almost broke up with her family and hasn't been back for many years, even though the two families actually only walked less than two hours.

Family ties, although compared with friendship, have a layer of blood shackles, but in fact, one thing is the same: family ties also need to be maintained and moved around, as the saying goes, "distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors."

Otherwise, family ties can gradually fade in time and fade day by day. Strictly speaking, it is not the time to change it, but the people's hearts have changed.

Her grandmother has always been eccentric and prefers boys to girls. At that time, she didn't want to contact her family again, because her son was getting married and she was worried that her daughter would come back to borrow money from her family.

Naturally, she doesn't understand this idea, because it's not the idea passed on to her by her parents when she was a child. She was the only child in the family, which was actually rare in our place at that time.

I remember there was a family in town at that time. They just gave birth to five daughters in order to have a son. After they finally gave birth to a son, they finally stopped giving birth.

And her grandmother, as she grew older, later began to change her attitude towards her family.

First, her grandmother saw the filial piety of her neighbors' daughters, and some of them were even more intimate than their sons, which inevitably gave birth to envy; Second, her family's conditions are getting better and better, and grandma has been watching.

Her mother relented later, and later found out that grandma liked to move things to her uncle's house.

As big as her mother's earrings and gold necklaces, as small as mops and eating bowls, her grandmother used to take them away and then appeared at her uncle's house, including her mother's two necklaces, which were later worn around her aunt's neck.

Her mother was secretly angry at first, but she dared not say it directly because of her mother's face. Only once did her grandmother say "there is a thief in the house", and her grandmother could calmly reply "the doors and windows should be closed."

She didn't even know if grandma really didn't understand the meaning of the words or was playing dumb.

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Because of her mother's tolerance, grandma later intensified her efforts and clearly wrote the word eccentric on her face.

Because grandma said that the family conditions were better, they raised their daughter. Now that they are old, it is time for their daughter to be filial, so they want to come to their home to support the elderly.

Her father never cares about these things at home and trusts her mother very much, so this matter really only needs her mother's consent.

But she later learned her grandmother's intention: "Grandma cried and said she would come to my house to support the elderly, but left her house and money to her uncle."

At that time, her grandmother was in tears and said that she was not easy. It was very sad to hear that. She thought that her uncle's family was in poor condition and really couldn't give her a happy old age.

However, her mother was indifferent and refused directly, saying that her mother had a son, and she always said that raising children to prevent old age. Now that my son is still here, it's not my daughter's turn to take care of him.

Her mother said that if she lived at home, she would empty it out sooner or later? This is a bottomless pit, and we can't step into it. If we reach an agreement on this issue today, we may have to make some conditions tomorrow.

She thought about it, too, because her grandmother had proposed to put her uncle's son in her house before, because the teaching quality in the city was better, and her family only had one daughter, but her mother severely refused.

She can also see that her mother's original expectation of affection gradually cooled down in her grandmother's intensified behavior, and finally she completely gave up hope.

Grandma's bottomless quirks almost ruined the relationship between mother and daughter.

All children don't expect two bowls of water to be even, but at least don't take the balance of love too seriously, because once it is completely out of balance, it is still themselves who will suffer in the end.