Do you know how miserable a divorced woman is?

Many years ago, a neighbor named Xie found a daughter-in-law, who was divorced and was very kind to Xie. Xie Tou's first daughter-in-law, lazy, greedy and unruly, was rejected by her neighbors. The second daughter-in-law is honest and kind, and lives at home with Xie in a down-to-earth manner.

After a long time, we asked her about the past. She said that it was really impossible for the first man to take drugs. The family was kicked out by a man and had nothing. After the divorce, she took the children back to her parents' house. Sister-in-law gives a dirty look every day. In those years, the villagers didn't get up and go out to work, so she had to live in her family.

There is a custom in the village for the New Year that a married daughter cannot live in her mother's house at the age of 30. Sister-in-law sarcastically said that she knew. She went out with her three-year-old child in her arms. She had no money to stay in a hotel, got some firewood and lived in bridge opening. She was so hungry and cold that the child dared not cry. She stayed until the second day of school and took the child back to her parents' home. ...

She said she was in tears, and we heard that she was in tears. She said that she was a strong person and didn't want to suffer all her life.

She is very capable, and she has found another Xie, and her life has a head start, and she is the number one inside and outside. Built a big tile house in the village, gave birth to a son, and lived a comfortable life.

Later, they went to work in the city and got a house and a car. All the children went to college and found good jobs after graduation.

After the divorce, this woman went from suffering to happiness, and her fate was ups and downs, which made people sad.

The true story around me.

A friend of a friend, divorced at the age of 24, took care of her daughter alone.

After the divorce, I left my daughter at my mother's house and went out to work alone.

Work outside, meet a suitable person, and stay with this person for many years. The man didn't mention getting married because he was divorced and didn't want to get married.

After several years together, I realized that this man has become a family. At that time, he broke up. Finally, for various reasons, there was no score. In the end, I can only continue to be a mistress.

My daughter followed her grandmother. She didn't want to study after junior high school, so she took her daughter to work outside.

My daughter is very rebellious. Knowing that she is a mistress, she often quarrels about it.

Her daughter does nothing all day, and then goes to the internet cafe to surf the internet. She met a man twenty years older than herself, and then got pregnant. She will marry this man anyway. Of course, she won't allow her daughter to marry a man her age.

Persuade my daughter not to listen. My daughter ran away with this man. Later, when I found my daughter, her stomach was already very big and she was about to give birth.

I have no choice but to let my daughter marry this man.

After the daughter married this man, the man had no job, nothing to do, great pressure and no money to spend, so he began to beat his daughter and ran back to find her every time he finished. She advised her daughter to divorce the man.

The daughter scolded him: "I don't want to divorce my dad and be a mistress like you." I'm your fault. You made me like this. "

Repeatedly, my daughter is not willing to divorce. I don't want to go to work.

She is going to work to earn money for her daughter and her daughter's daughter. Every month, my daughter asks her for money. If you have no money for your daughter, make a scene with her.

Women in their forties look like people in their sixties. She was a mistress when she was young. Now that she is old, no one likes her. My daughter hates her and asks her for money every month. She rents a house outside alone, and she is alone during the Spring Festival and the holidays. I work hard to earn money every day. After giving money to my daughter, there is just enough money left to live, and there is no deposit at all.

Now I want to marry someone else, but I have found the right one. The daughter disliked the man's lack of money and worried that she would have no money after remarriage, so the daughter scolded the man and ran away.

Now she just wants to live every day, and she doesn't know what to do in the future. Her mother's family has passed away and there is no place for her.

Therefore, it is really difficult to divorce a woman. Forget it. You have to worry about your daughter and your daughter.

I think it's better not to get divorced if it's not necessary.

Divorce really hurts a woman. So, what are the pains of divorced women?

1 can be said to be homeless.

Divorced woman, lifelong partner parted ways, parents can't go back. This is really a dilemma.

First of all, I thought I would stay with you all my life. I gambled on the happiness of my life, but the result I got really didn't come to the end.

When you go back to your mother's house, you will not only be pointed at by all parties, but also be rejected by your sister-in-law. Of course, besides being a man's sister-in-law, you can't wait too long at your mother's house.

So from this perspective, there are still relatively few divorced women.

It can be said that there is no happiness in my life.

Divorce is not good for both men and women.

In fact, no one will easily embark on the road of divorce unless they have to. After all, the happiness of half my life is gone.

If you are strong, you will drown yourself if you are not strong enough Especially divorced women, it is even worse.

Judging from this, it is really not easy for a woman to divorce.

Summary:

There are bound to be bumps and bumps in marriage. Since you chose to get married, you should stick to it on your knees. After all, nothing in life is insurmountable.

Therefore, as a husband, you should sympathize with your woman and don't let irresponsible divorce ruin her happiness and your own happiness.

First of all, how big is the psychological shadow of the questioner? Secondly, several divorced women around me seem to be doing well, at least in terms of mental state, dress, quality of life and so on. Whether a woman's life is good or not is not necessarily related to divorce. thank you

The first love has been married three times, and may be divorced again. I broke up with her when I was a junior in the army. After she left the army, she was married and had children. Later I heard that her first husband was from the same company. After she got her sweet words, she often went out for whoring and was arrested by the police. Later, she divorced. After drinking, her second husband likes to blame this and that. It seems that he is the only person in the world who has the ability, and finally likes to hit people. Now the third husband hears that life is different. For this alimony, now her husband says that she has lost her family and wants a divorce. My former classmates passed by my city for dinner and showed me her current photos. They are all so old, at least 15 years older than my wife. Now I have no other thoughts, but I hope her life will be better in the future.

Name one I know.

One of my yoga teachers has been divorced for three or four years. I looked at her life and always thought that her family was happy. It was not until I got to know her better that she told me that she had been divorced long ago.

It was love at first sight between her and her ex-husband. At that time, both of them were teachers of training institutions. She said that her ex-husband satisfied all her imagination of her husband, wore glasses, was gentle and became a teacher. At that time, they also got along well and got married soon. However, after marriage, she found that her ex-husband was a child who didn't grow up, loved playing games and did nothing at home. She is the kind of person who doesn't help her when the oil bottle falls. She once played games for three days and nights.

If you just love playing games and don't make progress, the yoga teacher finds that her ex-husband is a moonlight family and has no sense of responsibility for the family. Even if a child is born, the salary is moonlight, and there is no plan for the future. When he runs out, he borrows money and borrows money everywhere. At first, two people quarreled, and then they quarreled so many times that they didn't even bother to fight.

Later, the yoga teacher felt that her ex-husband had no hope, so she started her own business as a training institution. She was very tired when she first started working. But the ex-husband not only did not support it, but also satirized it. In her most difficult time, her ex-husband cheated on her.

There wasn't even a fight this time. In the words of the yoga teacher, I feel sick. It makes me sick to see this man. It is an insult to quarrel with him. However, such a marriage, the yoga teacher endured for three years for the children.

Three years later, when the child was an adult and sensible, she took the initiative to persuade her mother and father to divorce before making up her mind to get out of this failed marriage. After the divorce, I felt relieved. I have a career and no financial pressure. My daughter is smart and sensible, and she is going to study abroad at once. Her whole state is positive and enterprising.

I was shocked to hear that my female neighbor was divorced. At the beginning, my female neighbor and her husband had a good life. They have a daughter whose husband is a salesman in the factory. She took care of her daughter at home when she gave birth. Female neighbors often proudly say that she is as happy as a rose and so-and-so (divorced) is like a cabbage flower. At that time, in our building, everyone envied her for finding a good husband. The key to making money with good temper is to pay back the money. Later, my husband set up a factory in partnership with others. I heard that there was something wrong with the female employees in the factory. The female neighbor couldn't get half a grain of sand in her eyes, so she missed her daughter and left. A few years after the divorce, she met her current husband who was ten years younger than her. She is a college student and a foreigner. Her current husband is very kind to his daughter. My daughter's name is Dad, and Dad is a tutor for the senior high school entrance examination. They are engaged in the sale of used cars. Therefore, not all divorced women have a bad life. Sometimes there must be something in life, and there is no need to force it in life. I think this is fate, and it has nothing to do with divorce.

Personally, I think divorced women are not miserable, but women who have always relied on men are miserable.

Many people around me got married at a young age and then divorced a few years later.

Many of them had no jobs before they got married, so they married a man with nothing. In fact, this man's salary is not very high. Even so, some people will go out to find jobs for themselves. Although the salary may not be high, they still have an income, but some of them really rely entirely on this man whose salary is not high enough

I have always been in favor of the high school curriculum "the economic foundation determines the superstructure", which is actually applicable to families. If the people in the economic position in the family want it, there is no equality in this family.

Because that person knows that you must rely on him, and you are nothing without him.

So you have to tolerate everything about him, whether it's cynicism, cheating or violence, or cold violence and so on.

In the end, they may divorce because they can't stand it. Of course, they may also get divorced. Whether divorced or divorced, women will consider a lot before and during the divorce. Future life, children, income and other issues may never be considered before, but now they have to be considered.

People who have never been to work, in particular, are actually strangers to work, and may feel confused and helpless when they just enter a new state.

Even those who have gone to work and lived as housewives all the year round after marriage have long been out of touch with society, which is actually similar to the situation faced by those who have never gone to work before.

In fact, this is really tragic. It is miserable to face life without knowing where to go and what the future will be. I just know that my life can only go on, so I need to work many times as hard as others.

Listen to it as a story. About twenty years ago, an unfaithful woman ran away for several years after abandoning her husband and daughter, and then was left sick and went back to her hometown to beg for mercy. Her parents and in-laws are from the same village. Since she derailed and eloped, her parents have lost face and felt sorry for her in-laws and son-in-law. They took the initiative to take care of their granddaughter and arranged for their youngest daughter to marry and have children with her ex-son-in-law. So when she came back, instead of being forgiven, she was very ill. She vomited blood in front of her old house, and her ex-husband and sister couldn't bear to spend money to help her get better. She is ashamed to stay at home any longer. After she got sick, she kissed the child in her arms and left in tears. Later, about her fate, there were rumors that she became a young lady because she was beautiful, perhaps because she felt sorry for her children and family, and often sent money home when she earned money.

A divorced woman who doesn't cherish her small family and put herself in a proper position will be miserable after divorce. Tell me an example around me.

My former neighbor, who graduated from junior high school, studied in a traffic vocational school and later worked as a conductor in a bus company. When he was old enough to talk about marriage, he met a very handsome young man who worked in a very red chemical industry. They knew the girl for three or four months, got pregnant and got married in a hurry. In the process of preparing for marriage, the girl resigned without the boy's consent on the grounds that the conductor was pregnant too hard and needed to keep fit, and never went to work again. What is even more outrageous is that the girl moved back to her parents' home from the wedding room rented by her parents ten days after she got married. Her husband insisted on going home alone for several months, finally compromised and moved to her parents' house together. Live to divorce.

After two years of marriage, when the children were one and a half years old, the bankrupt man of Wujiaohua was laid off. In order to support their mother and son, he had to do odd jobs everywhere The woman refused to go out to work on the grounds that she lived in her parents' house and her husband had to raise his son, so it didn't matter whether she went to work or not. Her husband put up with his parents' eyes for several years and felt that there was no hope for such a life. He could never afford to buy his own house, get rid of poverty and depend on others. When the child was five years old, she filed for divorce, and the woman forced her to refuse. Finally, the man left home to work in the south, sent back half of his salary to his children for living expenses every month, and didn't go home for ten years. Finally, I felt that the man had no hope of coming back. When the child was fourteen, the woman finally agreed to divorce. The condition is that the child belongs to the woman and the man gives half of his salary and living expenses every month. At that time, in the late 1990s, the salary was only 1,000 yuan, and men gave them 500 yuan a month.

After the divorce, the woman was persuaded by her parents to go out to work. After more than ten years at home, she can't do anything except play mahjong. It is very difficult to go to a teahouse to help people squeeze juice.

Her ex-husband is actually a very kind person, but after the divorce, she has been asking for money in the name of her children. When their children graduated from high school and went to work, they gave almost 200 thousand, which was all the savings of that man. Because neighbors have been educating children to hate their fathers, children never take the initiative to contact their fathers except asking for money after work. When a man came to see the children, both mother and son looked at him. Later, the man remarried and was completely chilling to his son, as if he hadn't contacted for several years and his son didn't care about getting married.

To tell the truth, the mother and son look really pitiful, but the poor man must have something hateful and committed a crime himself. ...

Therefore, if a woman doesn't cherish her small family and can't put herself in a proper position in the family, divorce is very miserable.