Self-abased, introverted, not good at communication, not independent, how to break through yourself? The answers are all here.

First of all, talk about introversion and inferiority. A person's personality is closely related to his family background. Why do you say that? Because if a person's emotional demands are not satisfied when he was a child, and he has not established a sound and complete emotional connection with his parents, he will grow up to be withdrawn and feel inferior and introverted.

For example, parents seldom accompany you, have no patience to listen to you, rarely hug you and listen to your emotional needs. I even often scold you and label you with some negative labels, such as "Why are you so stupid?" Then you become less and less afraid to show yourself. In the process of growing up, if you don't get encouragement, praise, affirmation and praise from your parents, you will gradually feel inferior.

I don't want to blame my parents here. No matter how perfect the parents are, no one is perfect, but every parent is trying his best to love his children, but everyone expresses it in different ways. What we are going to learn here is "self-growth".

So how to get out of the cycle of introversion and inferiority? Learn to grow on your own. First of all, we should strive to make ourselves have a skill. I have a colleague, who is also very introverted and self-abased, but she likes dancing very much. She has been practicing secretly for many years, but she never dares to show it in front of everyone. Even her parents don't know. Once the company organized an annual meeting, she wanted to show herself, but she was afraid to go on stage. She hesitated for a long time, and finally came on stage with our encouragement, and won the first place by overwhelming advantage. From then on, she walked as if she were a different person, but she still didn't like to talk, but we all felt her confidence. So make sure you have a skill. At the critical moment, show yourself bravely, make others sit up and take notice of you, and enhance your confidence!

Second, admit your inferiority and introversion, face up to your shortcomings, but don't deny yourself, look for the bright spot in yourself. For example, I don't like to talk, but I am kind and sincere. Give yourself more "positive tips" and then amplify this advantage in your life. Then others will ignore your shortcomings when they get along with you. And you will become more and more confident.

Secondly, I am not good at communication and dare not speak in front of everyone. In fact, this is a great wealth of your life. There is really no need to force yourself to be a two-headed person. Many great men like to be alone. Cancel meaningless social activities, focus on your own career, and finally achieve great success. If you can't squeeze into the circle, you don't have to squeeze hard. Not only is it a waste of time, but it will also make you physically and mentally exhausted. Maybe it looks like a joke to others. Shining in your own world will always attract like-minded people, and these people are the ones who can really make friends with you and help you. A hundred casual acquaintances in the address book are not worth a sincere friend.

Once again, speak your true feelings bravely! Yes, it is to tell your fears, your fears and your worries.

I know a saying, what kind of person you want to be, just pretend to be that kind of person first. I don't deny that this is not good. Sometimes you have to pretend. But I think it's better to speak out bravely. If I didn't pretend, I wouldn't be so stiff. Once you say it, the pressure is released, but your heart is calmer. And others will like you more because of your sincerity. You can say, "Now, I'm so nervous." You can also say, "Now standing on this stage, my hands are sweating". Or to put it bluntly, I am an unsociable person and dare not speak in front of everyone. Believe me, you're not the only one in this situation. They will all be closer to you because of your sincerity.

At the beginning, don't ask yourself to be perfect. Whatever you do, you should do it well first, and then sum up the progress in the process. So, don't worry if you can't say it well. Be sure to speak boldly. It doesn't matter if you make a mistake, there's no need to keep it in your heart. Few people take it to heart. If you have no courage to try and make mistakes, how can you make progress?

The last point is to learn to smile. Smile is the most beautiful language of human beings, and no one can refuse a sincere smile. If you really don't know how to speak, keep a sincere smile!

Finally, there is no opinion, no active thinking. Then read more books. Reading 100 is a spiritual collision and discussion with 100 people with different thinking. Reading is the most convenient way for us to understand the world and gain insight into human nature. When you read more books, you will find that many people really don't need to pay attention to many things, just be yourself. You are in someone else's world. It's really not that important.

Finally, don't be too accommodating to others and don't be a good person. No matter at work or in life, in order to cater to others, we always bite the bullet and promise unreasonable demands from others. You think you are helping him, but others think that's what you should do. You think he will thank you and have a better relationship with you. In fact, others just regard you as a soft persimmon. Therefore, in the face of unreasonable demands, we must bravely and boldly say "no". In this way, others will think that you are an independent person and will not despise you casually.

I hope everyone can live as they like!

This is my personal opinion. If you have any ideas, please leave a comment.