A friend quarreled with his family. He is in a bad mood. How to comfort him? ...

Can comfort from the following aspects:

1, give comfort

Providing comfort is not telling others "You should feel …" or "You should not think …". People have the right to keep their true feelings. Comfort means not judging them, not thinking that they are suffering or need help; Comfort means giving them space to be themselves and identify with their feelings. We don't need to "agree or disagree" with their choices or the way they handle difficulties to express our concern.

Step 2 be absorbed

When we are busy helping others, we forget that people are aware of our inner fluctuations-unspeakable thoughts and feelings. Although people are not sure what we are thinking, they can usually tell whether we are panicking, judging them or sympathizing with them. Face-to-face comfort has a lot to do with our inner feelings.

By sympathizing with them, we not only shared each other's pain, but also shared our own. In any case, the existence of goodwill and comfort is a gift to each other.

Correct method

To comfort such a bosom friend, we must follow the principle of dealing with problems after feelings. This requires you to be mentally prepared for the big trash can, and remember at least three points:

1, don't pick up garbage, accept it all gently.

Concentrated eyes, serious expression, follow each other's emotions, sometimes agree with each other, and sometimes sympathize with each other. Only in this way can you arouse the impulse of confidante to vomit, tell his true feelings, complaints and troubles, and regard you as his confidante; On the contrary, if you ask mechanically with a stiff expression, it will make the other person lose the desire to speak.

2. put away the garbage and control yourself.

Don't interrupt, don't tell the truth, don't ask the reason, and try not to interrupt each other at will. Control the impulse to express opinions and comments, and some people can't help but spit out their opinions and opinions balabala. Finally, both of them were depressed and didn't want to throw up, but they didn't want to throw up.

3, professional mentality, keep the routine.

A professional trash can, when listening, should add some mood auxiliary words and echoes to show seriousness: Oh, ah, well! Why? That's what happened! Then you should always show your patience and recognition, and the other party will vent their dissatisfaction, unhappiness and unhappiness.