Why do some adults blame children for their hatred?

Right and wrong, grudges and grudges are often staged in the world. Some are reconciled in a short while, some last a lifetime, and some are even passed down from generation to generation. There are many reasons for this, and the degree and type of grievances between them vary. People live their whole lives in such grievances, which become permanent injuries and torture each other all the time. No one is a beneficiary, this is the cruel reality.

Children usually don’t hold grudges when they are playing around. They seem to be very forgetful. They had a conflict just now and then they reconciled. In this regard, adults are not as good as children, which is worth pondering. The conflicts between children are nothing more than toys, food, etc., and do not involve face, interests, etc. In addition, children are immature in all aspects, creating a phenomenon where conflicts between children are resolved quickly. Let’s talk about the conflicts and hatred between adults. There are many types of hatred between adults, such as emotional entanglements between men and women, family problems, interest issues, face issues, various concepts, hatred caused by different positions, etc. Adults, because they are adults, have each formed a relatively stable cognition, and their own judgments, responses, and expectations are relatively fixed and generally not easy to change. This is both an advantage and a disadvantage. If you have your own way of doing things, you can deal with things independently. However, when one's own thoughts and actions are different from others' standards and methods, conflicts will arise. If each insists on not giving in to the other, it will escalate into hatred. Each other insists on their own opinions, is unwilling to give in, and is unwilling to communicate, and the relationship deteriorates. Children are very important in every family. At this time, in order to achieve their goals, the two parties to the conflict will use the children as bargaining chips or as objects of hatred to increase their chances of winning. Children are the parents' weakness. Once they grasp the bargaining chip of children, , people usually think that it will be beneficial to them. Also, when two parties hate each other and transfer their hatred to the child, the person who is close to the child will be hurt psychologically and emotionally when facing the situation, while the other party will be He felt that his chances of winning were increasing and he could resolve his hatred. At this time, the feelings and psychology of both parties became distorted. Vicious cycle. The hatred between adults is difficult to understand. Never involve children at any time.