Set up a monument, son or daughter?

Everything must be fair. Set up a monument to the deceased elders and ask who will pay and how much will it cost?

I don't know that in other places, our hometown is borne by our children, and some people bear it themselves. The key depends on whether our children are filial and get along well.

On the third anniversary of my mother's birthday, I set up a monument for my parents, each of which cost more than 10 thousand yuan. She also made a smaller monument for my grandfather, which also cost several thousand yuan. My brother pays all the expenses by himself.

Because I was out of town, my brother called to discuss the inscription with me. He told me that he would bear the money for the monument alone, so we don't have to worry about it, so let's go home.

In fact, my brother is also watching the tablet in advance. My brother later put my brother in charge, saying that when he finished, he would take it to the cemetery in advance.

I thought it was just a monument for my parents, but I didn't expect to know that my brother had also set up a monument for my grandfather that day.

Grandpa has no impression in my memory. When grandpa died, it was the time to harvest wheat. I only remember that my grandfather died and my father was still cutting wheat in the field. Mother asked me to call my father home and said that grandpa was dying.

I was too young to understand. I know my grandfather died, and my mother asked me to tell my father to go home quickly. So, I stood at the door of my house and shouted at my father who was working on the west slope. I said directly to my father, "My grandfather is dead, so please come back quickly." Now that I think about it, it was stupid then.

On the morning of grandpa's burial, my brother cried to go to the cemetery. Because it is too small, I don't know who tied my brother with a rope in the mill at home for me to watch. My brother kept crying and pulling out.

I remember these two details after my grandfather died. I once took my brother to burn paper for my grandfather's grave. Every time I go, my brother burns paper and I watch it on my knees. Because there is a custom in my hometown that girls don't burn paper. Simply put, girls can't hold paper money in their hands. If there are no boys, when girls burn paper for their deceased elders, they should use chopsticks or two sticks to take it, not directly with their hands.

In my heart, grandpa has been dead for many years, and when grandpa died, my brother was still young and had no memory at all, so he might not miss him. But I was wrong. For many years, my brother has been insisting on going to grandpa's grave. When my father was alive, it was also my brother who went to visit my grandfather's grave. My father died, and almost every time I go to my father's grave, my brother will go to my grandfather's grave. So when the monument was erected, my brother also erected a monument for grandpa. Because grandpa's grave is in the neighbor's contracted land, my brother set up a smaller monument for grandpa.

In short, it is best for everyone to pay money to pay homage to the deceased elders. If you can't, you can pay for it yourself. Why fight for it? Filial piety is to accumulate blessings for yourself, and don't be afraid of losses.

If put aside, the children will work together. If children have opinions or even disunity, then those who take the lead and advocate will come out. If the family is large and the population is large, it will be shared equally according to the household registration.

Please advise, who should pay for the rural monument? It's nothing. We can discuss how many children there are, and we can also spend money to build a monument. Sometimes, everyone is financially strong and unwilling to trouble their brothers and sisters. It is also possible to bear the expenses yourself. There are also children who have not lived in their hometown all the year round. In order to honor the old man who died, it is also to reduce the burden of other brothers and sisters. You can do anything. As long as they have this ability, they will not say that erecting a monument in a cemetery is a good way to find a cemetery.

This problem is not complicated, whoever makes a big contribution is right. I think as long as the deceased is kind to future generations, everyone should make a contribution, and everyone should take the initiative to pay and pay more gratitude according to their own economic strength.

Son, of course. Without descendants, why build a monument?

Who made it? Who made it.

Please advise, who should pay for the rural monument? Now answer, in rural areas, in order to commemorate the deceased, there are still many tombstones for deceased relatives, whether sons or daughters. This matter still needs to be discussed by everyone, and it is also ok to spend money to set up a monument. It would be better if someone is willing to bear the expenses themselves. In order to honor the deceased relatives, there are many brothers and sisters, and it is more appropriate for the son to pay for the monument. It is reasonable for the two sisters to share the money equally. If you are an only child, as long as you want to build a monument and have the ability, there is nothing to say. Generally speaking, erecting a monument in a cemetery is a respect for your deceased relatives.

The grave is the home of the dead, and the monument is the door of the yin house. The purpose of erecting a monument is to commemorate the dead relatives. If you want to erect a monument, you must engrave your name, place of origin, meritorious service, date of birth and death, name of the person who erected the monument, relationship with the deceased, etc. Treat the inscription with caution, and there can be no mistakes.

I want to remind some people that there is no need to erect a monument. (1) A person who died suddenly refers to someone who died in an accident. (2) The person who died young refers to the person who died when he was a minor. (3) People who have no heirs have no heirs. These three kinds of people generally don't set up monuments in the countryside.

Since we want to choose a date to erect a monument, we usually erect a monument in front of Tomb-Sweeping Day.

It is said that in the old society, the female deceased could only indicate her surname in the inscription, but could not write her own name, nor could she sign her filial daughter's name in the inscription. If that's the case, the daughter doesn't have to pay, only the son pays.

Now is a new era, and it has already changed its customs. I think the daughter and son-in-law can sign the tombstone, and of course the daughter should also pay for the monument.

In short, whoever erected the monument will pay, and whoever signed it will pay. After the monument is built, family members should offer offerings, kowtow, burn paper and set off firecrackers in front of the monument to show their respect.

Who is willing to pay for a monument, who is willing to make a name for himself, and who is unwilling to be selfish. Someone took the lead, and everyone volunteered to pay for the glory of their ancestors. Some people take the lead, but no one supports and is unwilling to pay for future generations.

This question. It's simple. If the child sets up a monument, we will discuss it first and everyone will pay. If the child can't discuss it, the individual has to pay for it. In the end, only one child signed it, and no one else signed it. If it is of great help to benefactors and individual adults, it is necessary to have the name of the inscription in order to erect a monument. Look at other inscriptions and you will know who erected this monument. When others see it, they will basically know the relationship between the person who erected the monument and the deceased. Generally speaking, children will pay for monuments. If the children have a good relationship, one person will bear it, or if he has already obtained the property, he will take the initiative to bear all the expenses.

It is very simple to erect a monument to the elders in the countryside. Whoever is rich and filial will voluntarily pay. My family set up two monuments for my parents, grandparents and spent thousands of dollars, all of which were borne by my son. All the small players are named in the name, mainly considering family harmony. The rest of the family didn't spend a penny, and Sanzhi was also a businessman and managed a meal. Nobody asked us to do this, but my son stood.

A few days ago, I saw a friend say that her second aunt took her daughter to visit her father-in-law's grave, but I couldn't find where the grave was.

So her second aunt called her six brothers and sisters and said that she had decided to erect a monument to her father, which had already been carved, so that they could go home on Sunday and have time to erect a monument.

Huanhuan told her lover that the monument was built in Tomb-Sweeping Day, Mid-Autumn Festival or Memorial Day. You can't just set a date, ask the relevant people, or it will be bad for future generations.

But her lover said that his second sister contacted several other sisters, and it was scheduled for Sunday, and the monument had been carved.

Huanhuan reasoned with her lover that the second aunt was married, and it was not her responsibility.

Her lover doesn't want to hurt the feelings between brother and sister, so he dare not say that he wants the second sister to do it. She also said that there was no need to close the case and she didn't have to go when the monument was erected.

Therefore, I am so happy that I want to divorce my husband because of the monument.

Huan Huan's second aunt's behavior almost led to her brother's sister-in-law's divorce and family breakdown. So my sister-in-law has bad feelings in her heart, and her nephew has a gap with her. This is a waste of energy and money.

Coincidentally, similar incidents happened in my family, but my aunt's practice was completely different from that of Huanhuan's second aunt. She didn't do anything, but said something that made my mother laugh and said, "OK." Moreover, he quickly asked my dad to do it, and said that he didn't want my aunt to pay, which is what a son should do.

It's funny, too. During the Chinese New Year, my aunt came back to visit her grandparents' graves and pay a New Year call. She did not inform my parents in advance, but told them after the worship.

Later, I learned that because my grandparents' graves were not erected, she made a mistake and went to pay homage to the graves next to my grandparents. After that, my aunt and my parents laughed.

After laughing, my aunt said to my parents, "In order not to make mistakes in the future, Da Gui (my father's name) and Xiaoping (my mother's name) should set up a monument for our parents. When will it be put up? " How to stand? It's up to you whether you want me to come when the monument is erected. Let me know when you have erected the monument. I will pay all the expenses and you will contribute my money. "

My parents listened to my aunt's words and nodded again and again, saying that they should set up a monument for the elderly, which is what children should do. They also said that they don't want my aunt's money, and all the expenses should be paid by themselves.

My aunt still insists that as long as my parents set up a monument, she will pay for it, saying that parents and children are the same, and sons contribute to their daughters. This is a matter of course.

Also a married sister, I want my brother to set up a monument to the old man who died at home. Why are there two completely different results?

In the final analysis, it is because married women had better only make their own suggestions and not make decisions about their parents.

My aunt told my parents about the monument and let them decide whether to do it or not. How come? When to do it, so my parents will definitely accept it.

On the other hand, Huanhuan's second aunt has made a decision on everything, so even if her brother has no opinion, her sister-in-law is hard to accept, thankless and unpopular.

Some people say, "The water spilled by the married daughter is the water spilled by the married woman. If you want to find your own position, you'd better live your own life and don't interfere in family affairs, because family affairs can't be decided by a married daughter. "

However, people who are related by blood have their own people. How can they let go? It's just that my sister-in-law or aunt is the hostess and the other sisters are guests. When I encounter problems, I only have the right to make suggestions, not the right to make decisions. It is the right way to discuss everything with brother's sister-in-law or brother's sister-in-law. It will be easy and smooth to handle, and it will not hurt each other's feelings.