Who can tell me some secrets of saying good things about love relationships?

1. Don't overdo it, it will make people sick.

If you are just a clerk, please don't directly praise the president as a genius. The greater the gap between you and your partner, the more subtle your flattery will be.

3. Although it is your own business to shoot with what method, please be sure to pay attention: don't hurt others when shooting the boss, and the mass base is also an important factor affecting your rise and fall.

You can flatter yourself with practical actions, but don't be defined as "nanny type", because nanny type people are only suitable for subordinates and are not conducive to your promotion plan.

Look at the following story.

"Flattery" in the Digital Age

Flattery is not just putting honey on your mouth, it's as simple as kissing the boss's ass every day. People who really kiss up are implicitly kissing up and expressing themselves reasonably. The flattering version has already been upgraded.

Three "sycophants":

* The sweet mouth of the tongue-born lotus flower

* A quick-witted person.

* Ouchi master who combines words with deeds.

First of all, the tongue gives birth to the sweet mouth of lotus.

As the saying goes, one person gets a word, and one Buddha gets a wick. It was only by understanding this "truth" that Jojo changed from an ordinary reception to a cocky little phoenix.

Jojo's mouth is as sweet as honey, and only she can coax Nancy, the office manager, into laughter. For example, the most pleasing thing about Nancy is her gfd. That day, she pinned a brown hairpin to her loose perm, which looked like a social butterfly in old Shanghai, but Nancy didn't realize how dazzling the dress was.

Everyone refrained from commenting, except Jojo, who praised: "People are beautiful and well dressed. By the way, your hair is so white. It must be more charming when rolled up. Let me help you change your image. I studied beauty and hairdressing in Monita for two months. " Nancy asked happily, "Really?" "Of course." Jojo took out her hair comb from the drawer and carefully combed Nancy, looking like Li who served Cixi.

Suddenly, Jojo put it in Nancy's ear and whispered, "Don't worry too much in the future. If you are worth it, let's do it. Look, it's all gray. Don't move, I'll pull it down for you. " Seeing that Nancy was speechless, Jojo added, "Alas, there are really too many things to do in such a big office. I can't do without worrying."

Nancy's expression changed subtly in Jojo's intimate words, of course, she was both sad and happy. By this time Jojo had finished, and Nancy looked at herself radiant in the mirror, very satisfied. To her delight, Jojo sent two boxes of Lady Oral Liquid the next day. Her sentence "Health is the capital of revolution, so don't bother about work" touched Nancy. Isn't it a sign of her success that a woman can get such care from her subordinates?

To say that Jojo was really careful and didn't know how to know Nancy's birthday, she quietly arranged for everyone to have dinner that day. Some people who don't understand are too busy to go home, and only a few bachelors eat around Nancy. Nancy was too excited to speak when Jojo raised her glass and said "Happy Birthday to you". She really forgot her birthday. Just when she was moved, a beautiful double cake appeared in front of her.

Jojo said, "Nancy came to Beijing from Taiwan Province Province, and her daughter and husband are both in Taipei. It is not easy for a woman to do this. Look at the ladies in our office. They run away like flies after work, reluctant to let their husbands and children get hot. They are all women, but they are different! " Look, you can only tell by comparison. Those capable working girls became the foil of Nancy in Jojo's mouth.

In this way, Jojo, the receptionist, successfully achieved a triple jump: first, she was promoted to secretary, then to assistant manager, and now to executive director. There is only one reason. Nancy says Jojo is thoughtful and has the necessary qualities for administrative work.

Sketch of "Flatterer":

If there is no profit drive, no one will try their best to compliment. After all, insincere sweet words will make you feel bad.

However, the workplace is a big stage, and everyone is rehearsing their own programs in order to appear on the stage. Think about it, if you are a leader, are you a subordinate who likes to talk with thorns, or a sweet-mouthed person who "warms people's hearts"?

If the flattery of the tongue-born lotus can bring you benefits without hurting others, and you are thick-skinned, it's no harm to try. Just, be just right, don't get carried away, don't say too irrelevant, otherwise it will offend others and embarrass the photographer.

Second, people who are sensitive to action.

It is said that the highly competitive workplace should learn to express itself, but Guan Lin is not good at words and did not help others win votes, but she sat on the top spot of the office director, which made many people jealous.

In fact, the mystery is very simple. Guan Lin knows the truth that "actions speak louder than words". Through careful observation, she found that Zhang Tao, the administrative director of her boss, has a hobby, that is, she pays special attention to his hands and applies moisturizing cream every time she washes them. However, Zhang Tao is a careless person who often forgets to buy, so he often wipes the oil of women, which attracts many women's ridicule.

Guan Lin put a large piece of hand cream in a conspicuous position on the table without saying a word. Every time Zhang Tao comes in from the outside, she will pick up the tube of oil on the table. Over time, it becomes a habit. In fact, Guan Lin seldom uses hand cream, but she always ensures that the hand cream on the table will never stop. Zhang Tao and his lover Ping Haidu are outsiders. Half a year ago, Ping Hai was hospitalized with stomach cancer, which was undoubtedly a trouble for Zhang Tao and his wife who were alone.

Several people in the company made an appointment to see Pinghai. At that time, Pinghai had just finished surgery and was very weak. Judging from Zhang Tao's hectic appearance, he knew that he would not serve patients. To make matters worse, he can't cook at all, and Pinghai complains about it.

After coming back from the hospital, everyone became indifferent to this matter. Only about Lin, the next day she appeared in the ward, carrying her own hand-cooked millet porridge and a small dish of shredded sauerkraut. Pinghai eats very well. When she left, she left two newspapers in the ward. She knows that although the doctor asked for a rest, the interruption of information exchange with the outside world is the most unbearable for Pinghai, who is doing market planning. Since then, GuanLin BaoPingHai two meals every morning and evening, Zhang Tao looked at PingHai body gradually improved, grateful to GuanLin. Guan Lin just said flatly, "My family is also in other places, and I know how much people in a foreign land need help."

This sentence seems to awaken Zhang Tao, who can't help but pay more attention to this quiet colleague. He found Guan Lin very dedicated and earnest, and more importantly, he tasted her soup, which was delicious and memorable. There is Ping Hai, who often asks Zhang Tao about Guan Lin. When she heard that she was just an ordinary assistant, she said smoothly, "Such a good person deserves a promotion."

So, at an appropriate time, Guan Lin became the director of the office. Some people say that it is beneath her dignity for Guan Lin to be a free nanny for others. However, Guan Lin never thought so. She thought she was giving love to others, a stranger in a foreign land.

Sketch of "Flatterer":

Actions are always more powerful than words, and "flatterers" are familiar with this. When naked flattery has become a eliminated pediatrician, the hidden beard-walking action can impress photographers. Although doing good deeds is awe-inspiring, it often leads to criticism from others because of different objects. At this time, no matter how you comfort yourself, you will feel powerless. After all, the benefits of "good things" are really affordable.

If Guan Lin had not been promoted, or had been promoted long before Pinghai was hospitalized, I'm afraid her professionalism would not have been called a free nanny. The timing is really coincidental, but if it's unfortunate, I'm afraid she won't get the job with her usual performance. No wonder some people say that opportunities are everywhere, it depends on whether you can seize them!

Third, an ouchi master who combines words with deeds.

Qu Min is the oldest manager in the company. At the age of 40, young subordinates think she is old-fashioned and mean. Qu Min also thinks that they are ambitious and have no down-to-earth style, but she likes dreaming very much.

It is no exaggeration to say that Meng Yun is a super "flatterer". Let's talk about her mouth first: Yes, everything that pops up like fried beans is good news. Not long ago, Qu Min bought a small villa in the suburbs. Meng Yun praised him: "You are still the district manager and bought a villa. Now the competition is so fierce that we dare not lend, or you have the courage. Let me know when you decorate, maybe I can help you. " A few words not only praised the quality of life of the boss, but also expressed admiration for his courage and loyalty.

Let's talk about Mengyun's actions. They are all real and make people feel sincere. Only two days later, Meng Yun took some beautifully printed magazines and pushed District Min's office open: "District Manager, I found you some books for decoration. Please refer to them." Will leaders not like such picky subordinates?

On weekends, department employees have dinner together. Qu Min pointed to a passerby's shawl and said, "Look, it's really beautiful. I don't know where I bought it. "

The speaker was careless, but the audience was very interested. At work on Monday, Meng Yun sent a large shawl of the same style to District Min's office: "District Manager, I went to a supplier meeting on Saturday, and people gave me a gift certificate from 500 yuan. What a coincidence! There happened to be a shawl of this style in the shopping mall passing by, so I chose one for you. Do you like it? "

District Min stood up and said, "Look at you, I bought something for myself, and I am still thinking about me!" " "Meng Yuner wrapped her shawl and said," It's rare for you to say that you like this shawl. Besides, without your concern, how could I have the opportunity to attend such an important meeting? "

Looking at his luxurious temperament in a shawl in the mirror, Qu Min was happy from ear to ear. She took out an invitation and said, "There will be a reception at the China World Hotel next Wednesday. Young people like to join in the fun. Please go for me. " Meng Yun took the red post and pretended to complain: "Look at what you said, it seems to be really old, which makes us all afraid of the future." Meng Yun won more than a hotel invitation with a few angry smiles and a shawl that borrowed flowers to offer Buddha.

Sketch of "Flatterer":

People who practice tongue skills too often will make people feel flashy; People who speak slowly and act quickly sometimes feel moved and timid; Only a bearded walker like Meng Yun, who combines words and deeds, can truly cultivate into "essence". How can we stop the boss from laughing with temperature and behaving appropriately? Knowing how to make small profits but quick turnover, knowing how to put them away freely, the boss certainly has special respect for such sensible subordinates.

The workplace is like a sports field, with results every day. People in the workplace should not only learn to use eighteen weapons, but also learn all kinds of Sun Tzu's art of war to deal with competitors. Flattery is one of the effective means to win important votes for yourself.

So far, no company has explicitly stipulated that flattery is not allowed. Flatterers try their best to please their boss. Their brains are stocked with countless compliments and action scripts to meet their flattering needs on different occasions. The "sycophants" in the new era flatter themselves in the workplace and fight for their goals.

Here, I would also like to advise people in the workplace that although you are constantly getting spiritual rewards in the process of flattery, there will be times when the horse slips, and flattery is also risky. Besides, you have to shoot properly, you can't hurt others, and there are many flattering skills. When you have to rely on flattery to advance, please think twice. In any case, sincerity always wins the market more easily than hypocrisy.

Interviewee: Weiwei 2 184- manager level 5 7-27 08: 19.

You mean verbal communication, right?

It's no use talking about it here. You should practice more and chat with others more to master the skills. Reading can only be an armchair strategist. If you have to give a suggestion, I mind you reading a famous book, The World's Greatest Salesman, which is about speaking skills. I can't be comprehensive here. Language is an art, which needs your own understanding and practice, as long as.

Responder: Encountered Decadence-Magician Level 5 7-27 08:24

Generous and open-minded, learn to observe each other's psychology and be honest with each other.

Our society is a pluralistic society, and the relationship between people is becoming more and more complicated. The complexity of society leads to the richness of personality, which inevitably leads to the intensification of contradictions among individuals. To maintain good interpersonal relationships with people around you, we must learn to seek common ground while reserving differences and have a generous and open-minded psychological quality. We must be considerate of others and be honest with each other.

In life, we have misunderstandings with our classmates who live together day and night. When we are treated unfairly and not accepted by others, you will be anxious and irritable, which will definitely affect your study, life and social relations. What are we going to do, make a scene? Why don't you just break up These are not the best ways, they can only put themselves at a disadvantage in communication and affect future communication. On the contrary, if we are open-minded, we may be more calm, consider the problem from the other side's position, understand the feelings and feelings of others, misunderstandings and grievances will often disappear, and others will accept you happily. As the saying goes, "gather friends generously." It is difficult to be a broad-minded person, but we college students must pay attention to the cultivation of this quality in daily life and communication in order to better adapt to life and society. Among our classmates, they are either cheerful or deep; Or implicit, or frank; Or open-minded, or cautious, its personality is rich and diverse. So learn to be a caring person, be good at observing other people's moods, take the initiative to care about others, and let them feel your kindness and warmth in different ways. Take roommates in the same dormitory as an example. They have frequent contact, because they have many contacts and opportunities, so they are the easiest, and because they have many contacts, frictions and contradictions, they are the most difficult. This requires each of us to pay attention to observation and try our best to meet the needs of others, such as drawing water to sweep the floor, cooking for sick or busy students and making up lessons. However, there is a "self-centered" communication tendency among college students today. Many people only emphasize that others should know, understand, accept and respect themselves, but neglect to understand and respect others equally; Only pay attention to the realization of their own goals, but ignore the interests and requirements of others, and so on. Under the control of this tendency, they often blindly communicate with their own temperament regardless of the occasion and the mood of the other party, leading to an embarrassing situation in communication. Imagine a person is at a low psychological level, but you announce your achievements in front of him. What will happen? ! Therefore, many times, we need to put ourselves in others' shoes. Only by caring for each other and exchanging sincerity for sincerity can we achieve spiritual communication and emotional harmony.

Honesty and trustworthiness is the basic principle of being a man. In our college students' communication, if a friend cheats you, your self-esteem will be hurt and you may not be able to trust him as before. Similarly, we should treat others honestly and sincerely to gain their trust and understanding. It shows a person's self-esteem and inner sense of security and dignity, which can make people gain the trust of others in communication, and then attract people with the same excellent quality to their side and establish a relaxed and happy social circle without pretending to be themselves.

Making friends is a process of constant selection. Hypocrisy cannot be hidden forever. Once discovered by the other party, it is the greatest harm to friendship. Therefore, when we get along with others, we should be generous and open-minded, considerate of others and treat each other with sincerity everywhere. Only in this way can we get real friends and get along better with others.

Interpersonal relationship is an important part of our life. If we don't have good interpersonal relationships, it will have a bad influence on our work, life and mental health. In the real society, it is normal and understandable that there is a certain ideological gap due to different personalities, endowments, living backgrounds and purposes. If you don't get along well with everyone at work or in life, it's not normal. You need to adjust yourself and change it.

People play different social roles according to age, gender, occupation, position and environment. When interacting with people, different roles have different codes of conduct, so when interacting with different people, they have different requirements and skills.

First of all, we should think of others everywhere and avoid being self-centered. To improve the relationship between colleagues, we must learn to consider problems from other angles and be good at making appropriate self-sacrifice.

To do a good job, you should always cooperate with others. After you get your grades, please * * * share them with you. Don't show yourself everywhere, take everyone's achievements as your own. Providing opportunities for others and helping others achieve their goals in life is very important for dealing with interpersonal relationships.

Thinking of others is also manifested in extending a helping hand and giving help when others encounter difficulties and setbacks. Good interpersonal relationships are often mutually beneficial. All the care and help you give others will be rewarded when you are in trouble.

Secondly, open-minded, good at accepting others and accepting yourself. Don't waste time praising others. But you should be careful not to exaggerate blindly, which will give people a false feeling and lose others' trust in you.

Thirdly, we should master the skills of talking with colleagues. When talking with colleagues, pay attention to his speech and give appropriate feedback. Attentive listening represents understanding and acceptance, and it is a bridge connecting the soul. Pay attention to being subtle, humorous, concise and vivid when expressing ideas. Implicit not only shows your elegance and self-cultivation, but also plays a role in avoiding differences, explaining opinions and not hurting relationships. When commenting and pointing out others' mistakes, we should pay attention to the occasion and use peaceful words to avoid hurting others' self-esteem and causing resistance. Humor is the spice of language, which can make conversation lively and interesting. Conciseness requires that when talking with people, you should master what you should say and not say what you shouldn't. When talking with people, you should have your own emotional input, so that you can impress people with your feelings. This is called vividness. Of course, to master the skills of expressing yourself, you need to practice constantly, increase your cultural confusion and broaden your horizons.

Finally, take time to mingle with colleagues. This is also a good way to cultivate your various interests and make friends with them. In addition, exchanging information and learning from your own experience can coordinate interpersonal relationships.

Good interpersonal relationship is an art. All people need constant study and practice to master it. I hope you can make a self-analysis according to your own specific situation, break through the self-enclosed barrier with an open mind and build a harmonious interpersonal relationship.

How to say nice words

How to praise others

Don't praise the other person, but praise his past achievements and property.

I get along well with many friends' families, among which the friendship with a lady is even deeper than that with her husband. Of course, our relationship will never lead to misunderstanding. Originally, I only knew her husband, so how did I become a friend of her family? I remembered a remark I made casually at a party when I first met her.

At that time, I was introduced to this friend's wife. Because there was no suitable topic at that time, I said, "This pendant you are wearing is very rare and special" in an attempt to cover up the embarrassment at that time. I said this sentence completely unintentionally. Because I know nothing about women's decoration. Surprisingly, this pendant is really special and can only be bought in Notre Dame de Paris. This is her favorite thing. This casual remark reminded my wife of all kinds of past events about pendants, and we became good friends from then on.

Of course, this matter can be described as "hitting the nail on the head". However, I did unconsciously choose the most appropriate flattery when I first met. Flattery is a double-edged sword. If used skillfully, it can make interpersonal relationship better, otherwise it will destroy interpersonal relationship.

Proper praise is indeed a lubricant to promote interpersonal harmony, but those disgusting flatteries will only quickly expose a person's personality and intentions, and eventually lead to the end of being despised.

So, what kind of praise is the most effective for people who meet for the first time? In my opinion, it's best to avoid taking the other person's character or personality as the object to praise his past achievements, behaviors or possessions and other tangible things. If you praise the other person "you are really a good person", even if it is sincere, the other person will easily produce "I just met for the first time. How do you know that I am a good person? " Doubt and vigilance.

If you praise past achievements or actions, the situation is different. Praising this fact has nothing to do with the depth of friendship, and it is easier for the other party to accept it. In other words, "indirect flattery" is more effective when we meet for the first time, instead of praising each other directly, we praise things related to each other. If the other person is a woman, her clothes and decorations will be the best targets for indirect flattery.

Judging from the effect of this "indirect flattery", it is better to collect materials that can be used as "indirect flattery" in advance than to face strangers unprepared. With this preparation, perhaps just one sentence can make the other party feel that they have found a bosom friend and open their hearts to you soon.

Praising each other's pride can make them open up.

I have a good friend who is an editor. He looks like the famous actor Atsuo Nakamura. Whenever I go to a restaurant with him and meet his waitress for the first time, I will say to him, "Hi! You really look like movie star XXX! " Indeed, his appearance and temperament are very similar to that actor. Generally speaking, it is a compliment to say that someone looks like a famous actor. People who are "praised" are usually not unhappy, but my friend's reaction is different. After listening to the waitress's "flattery", He, who doesn't like to talk, became even more silent.

The waitress may have said those words with half sincerity and half flattery, but because the other party usually ignores them in this case, she can only show surprise. But in my opinion, this friend's reaction is not surprising at all, because the compliment to the waitress is not legal at all. He knows his shortcoming, that is, he tends to give the impression of indifference. The actor in "Nakamura" plays a ruthless role on the screen. Therefore, if he looks like Nakamura, it is not a compliment, but a clear indication of his shortcomings.

It is not easy to praise others properly. Improper praise will be rejected. In order to make the other party outspoken, we must find out what the other party is proud of and likes to be praised as soon as possible, and then praise it, that is, praise the other party's pride. It's best not to praise at will before determining what the other person is most proud of, so as not to be boring. Just imagine, a woman who is worried about her thin figure, how can she be sincerely happy when she hears others "boast" that she is slender?

The second problem worthy of attention is that when the other person shows a good response to your compliment, you should change the way and give it another compliment. If you only give a little compliment, the other person may think it is a compliment or a polite word, but repeating the compliment can improve its credibility and make the other person feel that you really praise him. In short, praise should be skillful. As long as it is used properly, it will definitely hit the other person's heart.

Interviewee: Free Ren Woxing-Assistant Level 2 7-27 08:24

You are really beautiful in person.

Responder: wuya 629- Magician Level 4 7-27 08:27

You chose the wrong sentence! I can't read it! ! !

Interviewee: shixuan 072 1- probationary period level 1 7-27 08:3 1.

You are so beautiful, so good in temperament, so beautiful in hair and so gentle in voice!

You are too capable and have a strong working ability. I envy you!

Reply: Dabao's lovely girl-assistant level 3 7-27 08:3 1

I once had the same troubles as you, but I am also mastering them bit by bit. There are too many nice words, so use them naturally. That's what you really learned. I always buy some books, such as "Smart Life", "Speech" and "Eloquence", and then pay more attention to what others say when communicating with others, and then write it down carefully when I come back, so that I can gradually improve myself and achieve self-indulgence.

You need to do a lot of preparatory work, and the most important thing is that you must have a rich vocabulary. In this way, you can praise a person from another angle and have something to say. So you should read more books and use more words.

Clear personality, hobbies, etc. You don't necessarily know much. A general understanding is enough.

When communicating with people, we should concentrate, broaden our thinking and enrich our facial expressions.

Keep a diary, and use it to record your day's gains and losses, so as to sum up experience and learn lessons in the future.