How many dates can you sleep with, and how many dates can you have sex with?

Article丨Pink Elephant Girl

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I once asked a male friend if a girl had sex with her for the first time. What do you think if I agree to sleep with you on a date?

He said, of course I will go to bed with her, but after that, I will feel that this kind of girl is too casual, and we can at best be sex partners.

Sorry, if I were the girl who slept with you, I can only say that men like you have such double standards that even sex partners are too lazy to have sex with you.

The first date was a bang bang, it was completely a matter of your will and mutual decision made by both parties. I won't be happy if you get a good deal and still act nice. You say you want it, begging for sex like a dog, hoping that the girl will agree immediately, but at the same time, you feel disgusted with the frivolity of the girl who agrees to go to bed with you. You have all the words and all the reasons. Do girls deserve to be weak?

There is a very magical logic. When you go on a date, you need to kiss. When you kiss, you need to go to bed. When you go to bed, it becomes cheap. Is it true that whether or not you agree to go to bed is the highest criterion for determining whether a girl is cheap? You are not visiting the vegetable market, and I am not that cabbage. My value will not depreciate just because I go to bed, and I have no product attributes, okay?

So you have to figure out whether he thinks you are devalued, or whether you think you are devalued. It's not scary if others use moral restraints on you. What's scary is that you despise yourself.

When it comes to sex, the moral pressure on women is always greater than on men. There are always people telling you to be reserved, to be careful, to hold on to your defense, and not to give it to him too quickly.

Did you notice the word "give"? What did you give him? Are you a thing? Is it an item? Is sex a transaction? Is this how you look down on yourself?

A related survey shows that elite women with high incomes and high education generally think that having sex on the first date is no big deal. It can be seen that women who can be equal to men in social situations can also do the same in bed. This type of woman will not feel that she is devalued just because she has sex once, because I have always been expensive.

So, since we need to be reserved and behave ourselves, men and women should behave themselves together and let everyone be frigid.

If virginity is the best dowry for girls, then men should also remain virgins and not even masturbate.

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Therefore, I have no objection to having sex right after a date. The body is your own, as long as it does not harm a third person. , you have absolute decision-making power and free will.

“As long as having sex on the first date can bring happiness to both parties, and this happiness is greater than the pain caused by this behavior, then you should have sex.”

But today we still want to discuss how many dates before going to bed is best for you.

I once had the following very magical conversation with a male fan:

“I accidentally had sex with my partner before, and it was her first time. It was impulsive, but I had no intention of being with her for the rest of my life. Now she would kill me every time she mentioned it, and she would kill me if I wanted to break up, and she wouldn't listen to anything I said. She. You said, if she loves me, shouldn’t she make me happy and give me freedom?”

“Then what are you going to do now?”

“I plan to continue talking to her. "Just keep it."

"How can you continue if you don't like her?"

"Treat her as a sex partner. You see, there are a few boys who don't want to have someone around them at any time." "The one you want to have sex with."

"But she really likes you."

"It's just a matter of fun. I didn't force her, she did it voluntarily. Besides, I had sex with her after only a week. How could I have known that she was a virgin? If I had known that I would be responsible after sleeping with her, I wouldn’t have had sex with her."

I got it from his words. There are two meanings. One is that girls who agree to sleep with each other as soon as they meet are very casual and must have slept with many people. Secondly, I just want to have sex with a random girl without having to take responsibility after sleeping.

Scumbags are not scary. What is scary is that scumbags play double standards. He won't attribute your sleeping with him to the fact that you like him or that you are happy. He will only think that you are cheap and easy to sleep with.

For that girl, what she did wrong was not that she went to bed with someone too quickly, but that she couldn't tell the difference between a human and a dog.

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So, here’s why there’s nothing wrong with having sex on the first date, but you’d better not do it on the first date Reasons to go to bed.

First, there are many ruthless people, so you must avoid meeting scumbags who only want to hook up and not fall in love.

Secondly, human nature is base, and people are fascinated by what they can’t get. Men prefer to get girls through hard work, and don't like girls to throw themselves into their arms easily. Things that are easily obtained are often not cherished.

Third, you have to give yourself time to consider the risks of contraceptive failure, sexually transmitted diseases, infectious diseases, being cheated, etc., as well as whether the two of you can develop a stable relationship in the long term. Just make your own scale and think it through.

Fourth, from the perspective of some men, of course I would like a girl to go to bed with me on the first date, but I would never choose to marry a girl who goes to bed with me after just one date. (As for why those men think so, I am too lazy to analyze, and I hope you will not encounter such men.)

"A new survey found that after three weeks of dating, women It takes five dates to get laid. 25% of men say I love you in the first month of dating, compared to 13% of women. In fact, women don’t tell their partner until the fourth month. love you. ”

Women love before sex, men love before sex, and the order of men and women is always staggered.

But in fact, feelings cannot be explained clearly by simply using logical thinking and rationality, and these statistics cannot tell you exactly what to do.

For some people, you fell in love with each other on the first date, did it for love, and finally got married and stayed together. There are also people who, even if they keep the first time until after marriage, may get divorced after one year of marriage.

Therefore, there is nothing wrong with doing it on the first date. Doing it for the Nth time does not mean that you will grow old together. The key depends on what stage of life and order of appearance you meet, and what kind of person you meet.