How does the influence of birth affect love?

What influence does family background have on your love?

Hello, let's talk about what it means to come from a family.

Native refers to a family where children still live with their parents before marriage. Family of origin refers to the family where he was born and raised. The atmosphere of this family, traditional habits, children's learning objects in family roles, family interaction and so on all affect children's future performance in the new family. People should know the influence of their family background, so as not to bring some negative factors from their family background to a new family.

Now let's talk about what effect it will have on love.

1. cheerful personality.

Such people generally don't refuse others. They grew up in a family that criticized their children too much or overprotected them. Their parents are generally too demanding of their children, which makes them afraid of conflict and opposition when they grow up. Compromise constantly in love relationship, hoping to please close people.

2. Victim case.

Such people are usually very self-abased and afraid to show themselves. Their childhood usually lives in the shadow of quarrels and even domestic violence. They are used to "hiding" themselves and like to fantasize about a utopia in their minds to escape the reality that scares them. These people seem quiet, but they are often anxious and depressed. They are used to being submissive in love, even repeating the same mistakes and falling in love with violent and irritable people.

3. Controlled personality.

People with controlling personality, because of the lack of family protection in childhood, force themselves to become powerful in order to survive. However, for fear of stepping out of their own safety zone, they will control their intimate partner twice in love, hoping that the other party will do as they say. Once the other person loses control of his emotions, he will become angry and even do something out of line.

4. Swing personality.

Such people are extremely insecure. When they were children, they usually lived in the shadow of fear of abandonment and neglect. When they grow up, they are too sensitive to rejection and loss of contact, and often fantasize about having a perfect lover to make up for the lack of love in childhood. Therefore, they are always too idealistic and put great psychological pressure on their lovers.

5. Avoidant personality.

People with controlling personality are taught to be independent and self-reliant from an early age, learn to take care of themselves from an early age, get used to getting along with themselves, and are not good at communicating with others. Although they are more restrained, they are also less sensitive to others.

With a person's experience, economic independence and independent personality, you can actually get rid of the influence of bad environment gradually if you want.