Generous mother-in-law but stingy mother-in-law

People have a bad temper. If they don’t have it, they will envy it, but if they have it, they may not cherish it.

I don’t have a mother-in-law, so when I see someone complaining about my mother-in-law, I feel envious.

But the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been difficult since ancient times, because a man squeezes two unrelated women under the same roof. It seems really difficult to do it without friction. After all, even if his daughter and himself When the biological mother is together, there will still be friction.

I listened to two stories yesterday, two stories about my mother-in-law, and I felt a lot of emotion after listening to them. The story goes like this:

1. Generous mother-in-law

? Ling and Lin are best friends. Since Ling got married and gave birth to a child, Ling quit her job and stayed at home full time, and her mother-in-law also helped take care of the child.

Ling's husband is an only child. He works for the same job every month and receives the same salary. The family of three is squeezed into a small two-room apartment of more than 60 square meters, and their life is not rich. The cost of living is too high now. It is really difficult to support a family's normal consumption with a few thousand yuan, so my mother-in-law comes every time. I would bring fruits, vegetables or daily necessities in big and small bags to help my son.

Seeing that Ling's son is getting older, he needs his own space. Ling wanted to change rooms, but the 60-square-meter room with several people in it was really not spacious. Her son's books and toys could fill the entire room. Ling didn't have much savings. Her son went to kindergarten, and she also went to work as a cashier. She earned a salary of two to three thousand yuan a month, which was enough to spend on herself.

My mother-in-law is the richest in the family. My mother-in-law had a better job before, and her pension after retirement was much higher than that of ordinary old ladies. When her father-in-law passed away, he left her a sum of money. Up to now, it is estimated that her mother-in-law has at least one million, and she herself A person is usually very frugal and doesn't spend much money.

Ling encouraged her husband to ask his mother for money to exchange for a house. Changing to a larger house can allow the elderly to live together and make it easier to take care of them.

But the mother-in-law, who is usually generous to her son, refuses to let go and refuses to give her son the money to buy a house. Her intention is very clear. This money is her pension money. She doesn’t know how long she will live. , so no one can touch it to make money.

Ling was very depressed about this. She complained to Lin several times. She couldn’t understand why her mother-in-law couldn’t figure it out. She was an only child and it was their business to take care of her until the end. Take out the pension money. There's nothing wrong with helping them first.

Second, the stingy mother-in-law

Lin’s husband is also an only child, but because Lin has been working since she graduated from college, her mother-in-law also takes care of the children. In the beginning, Lin's salary was not high, and almost all of her income became the family's expenses. Her mother-in-law took care of her children. Until the children went to kindergarten, she never bought them a single piece of clothing or a toy. For this reason, Lin also followed her. Ling complained because she saw that Ling's mother-in-law paid for almost all of Ling's son's food and clothing expenses.

Later, Lin moved from the back office to the field office, and then to real estate sales. Her colleagues, who had a higher income, also followed the example of all house sellers and started flipping houses, turning one house into two, and two into three. set. It also takes a lot of money to make a small thing big or a bad thing good. Lin didn't have it. At this time, her mother-in-law unexpectedly gave up all her savings. Every time she flipped a house, her mother-in-law gave her full support and kept the money at the bottom of the box. Take out every penny left. For this reason, Lin was very moved, because her mother-in-law took out all her pension money, and she gave her life and fortune to support Lin and her wife without any reservation.

Later, Lin's career grew bigger and bigger, and her income became higher and higher. Lin is also a grateful person. She treats her mother-in-law better than her own mother. She is very willing to spend money on her mother-in-law on weekdays. When she has the opportunity to travel, she will take her mother-in-law with her and never let her spend a penny when going out.

My mother-in-law, who was usually stingy, began to slowly change. She began to buy groceries for the family, clothes and toys for the children, and accompany them to the playground and eat delicious food.

Later, when Ling complained to Zhang Lin, Lin suddenly understood why Ling's mother-in-law was usually generous, but she clung to her pension money, and why her mother-in-law was so picky on weekdays. , but the most fundamental reason why he was able to pour out all his money at the critical moment was his wife's performance.

A mother-in-law would not have the courage to bet her future pension on a daughter-in-law who could not even live a good life for herself. Lin's mother-in-law is a smart person. She knows her daughter-in-law's gratitude, and she also sees the ability of her son and her daughter-in-law to live a good life. Therefore, even if she spends all her money, she will feel safe.

This reminds me of some things in my daily life.

For example, when introducing friends, the richer the introduction, the easier it is. The more difficult it is and the lack of money, the harder it is to borrow money, because everyone understands that lending money is a temporary thing and it is difficult to get it back. Things to come. If you don't have confidence in the borrower's future, you won't dare to lend out your money.

Only when you are stronger can you give others courage. Only when people live confidently can they not be afraid of the future.

Listening to others tell the story of mother-in-law, I have feelings.