Mom, after my divorce ruined my son's marriage, why did the evil mother-in-law suffer?

Every time I meet the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is different, but the essence of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the same, and they are incompatible.

Some women may think they are doing well, but their mother-in-law always finds trouble with herself. Over time, women no longer bother to please.

However, some mother-in-law feel that she is very kind to her daughter-in-law, but her daughter-in-law just doesn't regard herself as her own mother.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is short in parents, and no one can tell. There is a skeleton in the cupboard. The key is that people who recite the scriptures must read them well in the right way.

Marriage, husband and wife, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law all need care and management in life.

If you want to take it, you must take it first.

It will be much easier for people to get along with each other if everyone treats people with the mentality of giving first and taking later.

Just like between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law must be kind to each other before they can live in harmony.

It's one thing to say it, but it's another thing to do it in life. Not everyone can think from the other side first.

Some mothers-in-law are strong, always above their daughters-in-law, and want to say something about their daughters-in-law. Finally, they also ruined their son's marriage.

Aunt Wu, a reader, told me that she had two sons, both married and very happy, but because of her strength, the marriage of the eldest son broke down, and later the eldest son moved away.

Five years ago, Aunt Wu and her wife retired one after another, and the eldest son just got married. The husband and wife are very loving. Their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law got along well at the beginning. Although Aunt Wu is relatively strong, she is not unreasonable and is more polite to her daughter-in-law.

At that time, the eldest daughter-in-law was very filial to her and began to help her cook and do housework when she got home from work. Aunt Wu thought she was very happy and met a filial daughter-in-law.

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However, with the birth of her grandson, the contradiction between her and her daughter-in-law came out. Aunt Wu said that the contradiction between their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is mainly because they dislike their daughter-in-law's clumsiness in taking care of their children. But she always raised her dissatisfaction with her daughter-in-law, which became the root of the contradiction.

After all, the problem lies with Aunt Wu, whose daughter-in-law basically never quarreled with her at that time. Many times, she has the final say, and the daughter-in-law has been silent.

Aunt Wu said that once, the daughter-in-law took her grandson to the second aunt's house in the countryside. She said she would come back this afternoon. But Er Yi hasn't seen her niece for a long time, so she left Wu Yi's daughter-in-law there for two more days.

When the daughter-in-law went, she didn't bring a change of clothes for her children, so the second aunt took out her grandson's clothes and gave them to Aunt Wu's grandson.

Two days later, after the daughter-in-law came back with her children, Aunt Wu began to question her daughter-in-law as soon as she entered the door. Why did she go for so many days?

Aunt Wu said too much at that time. She said, "Your second aunt's house is in the countryside, and there must be bacteria everywhere. You have lived there with your children for so many days, aren't you afraid of infecting them? "

Daughter-in-law seldom quarreled with her mother-in-law, but at that time, daughter-in-law quarreled with Aunt Wu. The daughter-in-law said, "Mom, can you mind your own business? What happened to the countryside? " Isn't your hometown also a rural area? "

A strong mother-in-law like Aunt Wu must not tolerate her daughter-in-law talking back to herself. Her temper came up at that time and she said angrily, "What are you talking about now is the problem of children? What are you talking about? "

My daughter-in-law was cried by Aunt Wu. She said, "Mom, I have always respected you and regarded you as my own mother, but you have been giving me a hard time since the baby was born. You think I didn't take good care of the children. You care about your grandson. I understand, but what you said this time is that you care about your grandson. In fact, you just look down on us rural people.

I grew up in the countryside, and everyone in our family has a good life. Why is it unsanitary? It doesn't matter that my second aunt's grandchildren are running around the house alive and kicking every day. How can we get to this point and infect children? How delicate are our children? "

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Aunt Wu was cheated by her daughter-in-law She said that her daughter-in-law had never been so disobedient, and they quarreled.

At that time, they had a particularly fierce argument. Aunt Wu's wife and eldest son rushed home to persuade. Finally, the eldest son took his daughter-in-law out to live for a while, and when everyone calmed down, they made up.

But since then, Aunt Wu has often found trouble with her daughter-in-law, not only because of the children, but also because she nagged her daughter-in-law intentionally or unintentionally in her life.

As long as it is not excessive, the daughter-in-law has basically never had a face-to-face conflict with Aunt Wu.

Later, Aunt Wu's second son got married, and she preferred her second son and husband and wife. She is always kind to her eldest son, but more and more extravagant to her eldest daughter-in-law.

The eldest son originally planned to buy a house and move out with his wife and children, but Aunt Wu was scolded by her eldest daughter-in-law for breaking a bowl.

Moreover, Aunt Wu also ridiculed the eldest daughter-in-law for being stupid in front of the second daughter-in-law, and nothing was like the second daughter-in-law. At that time, after Aunt Wu scolded her, the eldest daughter-in-law took her children back to her hometown.

After that, the eldest son went to pick it up several times, but her family didn't let her daughter come back. After a period of stalemate, the eldest daughter-in-law filed for divorce.

The eldest son disagreed at first. During that time, he ran to his mother-in-law's house every day. However, the other party has made up his mind to divorce. After many unsuccessful visits, the eldest son was helpless and then agreed to divorce according to his wife's wishes.

After his divorce, he went home to see Aunt Wu very angry and his tone was very blunt. "Mom, I'm divorced. Thanks to you, are you satisfied? "

Aunt Wu also understood at this moment that she was too hard on her eldest daughter-in-law. If she hadn't been stingy, the eldest daughter-in-law wouldn't have divorced.

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Originally, she was considering whether to apologize to her eldest daughter-in-law and beg her to come back and remarry, but before she made up her mind, her eldest son left home and went to other places.

She called her eldest son to turn it off, and the whole family went out to look for him, but they couldn't find him.

Now, the eldest son has been away from home for two years and has never come back once. It seems that I have called Aunt Wu's wife several times in the middle, but I have never asked Aunt Wu or called her.

It's just that Aunt Wu went to Lacrimosa every day after her eldest son left, but no matter how much she regretted it, she couldn't get her eldest son and his marriage back.

Aunt Wu said that her "evil" mother-in-law has now tasted the bitter fruit.

Asha suggested that Aunt Wu Can sincerely apologized to her eldest son through his wife, and asked him to go home first and ask for his forgiveness. If your son comes back, you'd better accompany him to visit his grandson at his ex-daughter-in-law's house again, and show 100% sincerity and apologize to his ex-daughter-in-law. If his ex-daughter-in-law is still single, let's see if people are willing to remarry for their children.

If the other party agrees to remarry, give his son some support and let them buy a suite and move out. Of course, whether you are a mother-in-law or a grandmother in the future, you should pay more attention to your eldest daughter-in-law and grandson.

To say the least, if the other party refuses to come back, don't be discouraged easily. Aunt Wu Can asked her son to visit his children from time to time to express his sincerity. It is impossible to say that one day his daughter-in-law figured it out, maybe because the child agreed to remarry.

Of course, in any case, Aunt Wu Can is no longer an "evil" mother-in-law. Kindness is a virtue that can warm people's hearts and win the sincerity of others.

I have to say that Aunt Wu's son actually didn't get married well. When his mother was always picking on her, he didn't help her stop her from doing evil.

If, if he can come out earlier to stop his mother's behavior, maybe her mother can realize her mistake earlier and correct it in time, and her marriage will be saved.

In marriage, no matter what role you play, you must have a certain sense of responsibility. Don't let your marriage encounter a crisis because of your negligence, which will outweigh the benefits.

In short, no matter where you are in life and what role you play, you can always keep a kind heart and treat others sincerely, and you can get sincere returns from others.

This is especially true of marriage. People related to marriage should have a kind heart and don't ruin a happy marriage because of their own mistakes.