Stay-at-home mothers accompany their children or send them to nursing classes, which kind of children will get better grades?

Stay-at-home mothers or sending children to nursing classes, which kind of children will get better grades? In this issue, the child's performance has little to do with whether the mother is full-time accompanying him. Whether a child's grades are good or not depends on whether the child has good study habits, and also depends on the mother's attitude towards the child's study.

Then let's analyze the specific situation and see under what circumstances the children get good grades.

First, the mother takes care of the children full-time: the mother accompanies the children full-time, and the father can support the family alone, so that the mother has no worries. So, can stay-at-home mothers study with their children?

Usually, when mothers have time, they will play games with their children, read with their parents, chat and talk. This kind of interaction can not only deepen the parent-child relationship, but also cultivate children's optimistic spirit.

Such a stay-at-home mother can accompany her children and guide them to learn. Learning can't be wrong.

And some stay-at-home mothers, although they say that they accompany their children full-time, do not care about their children's learning, nor do they care about their children's learning. They think that learning is a school teacher's business, and it is also the teacher's responsibility for children's poor study. Mothers not only don't help their children to establish good study habits, but also reprimand their children when they fail in the exam and can't learn, instead of helping them solve problems, and they won't teach them the correct learning methods and guide them to fall in love with learning.

In such an environment, children will not only lose interest and confidence in learning, but even have rebellious psychology and weariness of learning.

Therefore, whether the mother takes care of the child full-time has nothing to do with the child's performance. Her attitude towards children's learning determines their attitude towards learning and their future achievements.

Second, send the children to the custody class: the parents who send the children to the custody class are mostly dual-employees, or they have two treasures at home and cannot take care of them. So can the children in the custody class study hard?

Some parents send their children to kindergartens, which is really helpless. Both of them have to go to work, and no one can help pick them up. However, no matter whether it's mom or dad, whenever they have time, they will go to the custody class to pick up their children and then help them with their homework. Children will patiently explain the problems they can't solve and guide their thinking ability and imagination. Help children to correct their learning attitude and establish good study habits, and at the same time express parents' attention to their children's learning.

Such parents attach importance to their children's learning, let them consciously attach importance to learning, finish their homework seriously, and form good study habits. Such a virtuous circle will naturally lead to the improvement of their academic performance.

Some parents obviously have their own time, but they find it too much trouble to help their children with their homework. For their own peace of mind, simply send the children to the custody class, let the children do their homework in the custody class, and let the teachers in the custody class check it out before taking it home. As long as the children finish their homework in the custody class, parents will not ask questions again. Anyway, the homework is finished, so play. However, the quality of children's homework and learning attitude are completely ignored by parents.

Because there are many students in the custody class, students have a lot of homework, and the workload of teachers' homework inspection is heavy, it is inevitable that there will be wrong questions. In addition, children's understanding and acceptance are different, and the teachers in the custody class can't give one-on-one counseling. If you can't say a question once or twice, you can only guide your child to tell the answer. As a result, although the child's homework is finished and looks perfect, many topics still seem incomprehensible and incomprehensible. Parents no longer care about their children's study, how can their children's academic performance be good?

There are many examples of hosting classes here:

When parents come to pick up their children, the first sentence is "Have you finished your homework? If you have finished, you can leave. Continue to write if you haven't finished writing. " For their own peace of mind, this kind of parents send their children to a custody class to do their homework. When I get home, I will ignore my children's study and think that their homework has been finished and the teacher has checked it. I don't care what the children learn at all. Have you learned?

(2) Parents pick up their children as soon as they get off work. It doesn't matter if they can't finish their homework. They can write after they get home. Parents can check their children's homework. Such parents will pay more attention to their children's learning and pay more attention to their children's learning. Children will also do their homework as soon as possible after school, and their learning attitude is also very correct. Children's academic performance is naturally good.

Therefore, parents' attitude towards learning determines children's attitude towards learning. Parents' careful company with their children is the best education and investment, and children's academic performance can be improved.

Hello! I am Qin's mother. I will answer this question through my real experience.

Stay-at-home mothers accompany their children.

When the baby is at home, when I wash clothes, he will be happy to come and "help". It is when you are not looking, he will stuff all the clothes he can see into the washing machine.

When I cook, he will come to me with a wry smile and say "Mom, hug me" and "Mom, play with me". Then he would hug me, shake my legs and pull my clothes, but he wouldn't let me cook.

When I am cleaning, he will pour out all the toys and articles I have just packed and throw them on the ground, as if I can't see that the ground is clean.

This is the so-called Xiong Haizi feature. Anyway, children are all kinds of mischief at home. You hit him, you just cry a few times, and you forget kuya in less than three minutes. If you reason with him, you will go in one ear and out the other.

(The picture shows the child climbing the desk and playing with his sister. )

The children were sent to a care class.

Therefore, when the child was less than three years old, I tried to send him to kindergarten. At first, I was worried that he would not adapt and cry. I didn't expect to cry for a while when I gave it to my teacher on the first day, and asked me to pick him up early in the evening. In the next few days, I behaved well and went out with my schoolbag on my back every morning.

After about three days at school, I learned a nursery rhyme: "Xiao Bai, Xiao Bai, go up the stairs and turn on the TV …" I said it when I came home, before watching TV and before going to bed.

I learned to dance in less than a month. On June 1 day, a performance was staged on the stage. No crying, no noise, completed a complete performance.

I can't imagine that children will have such a perfect performance, which completely subverts my cognition of children.

(The picture shows the child's performance in kindergarten)

abstract

From the above personal experience of my children, I think it is not difficult for you to judge the fact that sending children to a custody class will lead to better grades.

Because as soon as children enter school, they will play with children, do actions with other children and learn to imitate teachers together. With this learning atmosphere, they naturally study better than at home. If they are at home, they still have to talk about whether they listen to you or not.

No, you have to find a good nursing class and a responsible teacher. My child's kindergarten was chosen after many comparisons.

1. It is very important for children to form good study habits.

Based on this principle, whoever can help children establish good study habits will choose which one. But how can children learn effectively and keep their academic performance from falling?

Tell me about my child:

My daughter, 1 1 years old, is in grade 5, and she is not with me. She goes to school with her grandparents in her hometown. But in the mid-term exam, every subject is 95%. Not the best, but the result is balanced.

I can't help with my homework at all, and neither can my grandparents. I think the most important thing is to form good habits. -form the habit of finishing homework on time and not delaying.

When I was in the first grade, my aunt was unmarried, and she could help me with my homework at night. Later, no one helped her. After school, she was sent to the remedial class to do her homework. The most important thing is that she can finish her homework on time, which greatly improves her speed and accuracy. I stopped taking remedial classes in the fifth grade, but I'm used to it. After I go home, I finish my homework first, and then I do other things.

Second, cultivate children's learning fun and take the initiative to learn independently.

? Why do you study? In order to get 100, and to attend Peking University Tsinghua, you got 100, so you don't have to study at Peking University Tsinghua? This is one of the goals of learning, but if children are allowed to help others with what they have learned, what they have learned is still valuable, which is more enlightening than getting 100.

Third, parents who don't nag. You can learn Adler's philosophy and be a parent who doesn't criticize or praise.

? You can honestly say how you feel. When children watch TV for too long, you can say, "I'm afraid you haven't finished your homework after watching TV for so long." I hope you can do your homework after five minutes. " It's definitely better than turning off the TV when you go up and shouting "Do your homework".

? When parents communicate with their children in a good mood, she will feel respected.

As far as grades are concerned, in theory, children who send their children to a custody class are more likely to get better grades, but individuals do not recommend sending their children to a custody class.

This should be done from two aspects, provided that there are trusteeship classes that provide guidance for educational courses and have relevant qualifications.

Teaching skills

Why do many parents avoid teaching their children homework? There is a very important but neglected problem: parents do not have academic teaching skills.

We have basically learned the knowledge of children, but understanding does not mean teaching. Taking primary school as an example, the teacher qualification examination needs to learn the following contents: pedagogy, educational psychology, teachers' professional ethics, introduction to educational laws and regulations, theory and practice of teaching skills, introduction to teaching methods, introduction to student and team management, interpretation of professional ethics and professional standards;

In the trusteeship class that provides homework guidance, there are professional certified teachers to supervise children's learning;

profit model

A trusteeship class that wants to be bigger and stronger, besides competing for decoration and environment, the most important thing is to fight for service.

Among them, the core link of service is the performance of children. There is no need to refute this point. If our children are sent to a custody class and their grades plummet, who dares to go? On the contrary, if our children's grades in the custody class improve, they will be passed on from parents to parents.

For most trusteeship classes, children's grades are the lifeline of development.

Sending children to kindergartens can easily lead to the lack of parents' sense of responsibility. At puberty, children don't know how to teach.

Qualification problem

As mentioned above, in fact, there are very few qualified trusteeship classes and even cram schools on the market. For details, please refer to the rectification of the industry last year. 65438+On August 22nd, 2008, the General Office of the State Council issued the Opinions on Standardizing the Development of Off-campus Training Institutions. The training market fluctuated once, and even many big-name chain organizations were swept off the horse.

It mainly involves qualification certificate (teacher qualification certificate), site safety (fire-related certificates) and per capita area.

In other words, children are likely to study in undocumented, unsafe and crowded places, and they are more likely to get better grades, but other risks will increase accordingly.

Custody, that is, off-campus custody business premises, has been included in the management scope of domestic service, and it is necessary to apply for registration with the industrial and commercial department. Education, health, public security fire control, police station and other departments are responsible for the corresponding supervision work according to the division of responsibilities.

In other words, a qualified trusteeship class needs to have the following qualifications:

However, many custody classes are located in residential buildings, so it is impossible to apply for a business license for residential land. This alone is enough to destroy many managed classes in the market.

Second, the trusteeship class needs to have a certain average student area, and it should be handled in the form of kindergartens, nurseries or other private educational institutions in accordance with the regulations of the education department. It should have a legal place, qualified personnel (if educational courses are provided, they should also have educational qualifications) and meet the literacy standards.

Custody classes are created to cope with the phenomenon that parents and employees can't pick up their children from school normally. Its main function is to keep. At present, some after-school care institutions also provide counseling services. If the teachers in the institution are professional enough, it is also a good choice for families whose parents have no time or lack of ability.

Of course, if parents have the energy, ability and time, it must be a better choice to pick up their children from school.

This problem really needs to be looked at separately. Personally, I don't recommend full-time mothers to take care of their children. I don't think it is a good choice for children or mothers.

First of all, for children, early education is not only to make up for learning and improve academic performance, but more importantly, to cultivate children's ability to communicate with others, communicate with others and deal with emergencies. If the mother takes care of the children full-time, it means depriving the children of the right to study and play with more children, and the children also lose one of the most important "learning" ways. Academic performance is not the most important thing. The emotional intelligence cultivation and social behavior of children can't be given by a full-time mother with closed cultivation. You may cultivate a schoolmaster, but you are by no means an elite.

On the other hand, for mothers, maternal love is great. They always think that it is best to take care of their children alone, but you ignore the difference between you as a mother and an educator, which is why many parents know that in the eyes of children, teachers fart all the time, and your educational achievements can never be compared with those of teachers. Because you need to change roles.

Also, full-time work is more harmful to children and mothers. If you stay at home alone, you lose your ideals, goals and social circle, and you are seriously out of touch with society, you will find that you have lost too much. So sometimes I suggest that mothers would rather hire a nanny and go to work by themselves. Even if your salary is less than the money for hiring a nanny, you should go out to work. Good for you, the children, your husband and the whole family!

Therefore, my personal suggestion is: don't be a full-time mother, let you and your children go out, and the gains will be even greater!

Full-time is better.

This can't be compared. The key to tutoring children is to use the right method and be patient with them. Every child has different IQ, different acceptance, different views on things and different adaptability. Children who are slow to respond should be encouraged more and criticized less. Some children don't want to go to a care class. If they are forced to go to a custody class, the effect will not be satisfactory. If their parents really can't help their children with their homework at home, it is a good choice to send their children to a care class. Everything has advantages and disadvantages, depending on how you choose.

This depends on the ability of stay-at-home mothers. If stay-at-home mothers have teaching ability, in fact, one-on-one family counseling will be more effective than multi-person counseling in training courses. But the training class also has one-on-one tutoring. So I can't say which is better. The answer should be, who has the ability to coach best. One-on-one is better than one-on-one.

It's better for mom to teach.