"Women are weak and women are strong" is the most poisonous chicken soup.

Suddenly I don't like the phrase "women are weak and mothers are only strong". You know, mom is also a spoiled child.

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Yesterday was a rare day. My brother brought his sister-in-law and nephew to my house to play. Because my little nephew is only over two months old, my sister-in-law is a 100% newborn mother.

After lunch, my sister-in-law kept saying that she would buy a cart for her little nephew, because she really didn't have much strength to carry him out to play. The neighbors upstairs and downstairs laughed at her for hiding the child at home all day and not taking him out.

My sister-in-law is petite and exquisite. Although she is in her twenties, she still looks like a child. In fact, her personality is quite naive. On the whole, she is lovely.

When she said she wanted to buy a cart, our first reaction at that time was: the child is too young to sit! As for holding a baby, how to be a mother needs to be practiced. Don't be so young. Even after seven or eight months, you still have to hold the baby in one hand and carry things in the other.

I was shocked when I had this idea. Unconsciously, have I already agreed that "women are weak and mothers are strong"?

Sister-in-law used to be the kind of girl who went to the supermarket to buy a box of milk to have a rest, saying that her arm hurt and she couldn't lift it. Although the little nephew is only a dozen kilograms now, it is really not easy to go out and hug.

Because the child needs it, the mother is trying to be strong, but this "strong" is not easy. The so-called "women are weak and mothers are strong" is just a spiritual pillar given by their mothers, or they have no choice. If you are not strong enough, how can you take care of your children and deal with all difficulties?

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I once heard a friend say that because her mother died early and her mother-in-law was old, no one could cheer her up except her lover when giving birth.

Later, because my wife couldn't get away from work, she was sent directly to the hospital for labor and went to work again! Because of the first child, I don't know when it will be born.

She said: "Seeing others giving birth, there are people beside the bed, all kinds of reasons, all kinds of jokes; Remind expectant mothers of things to pay attention to and look forward to the arrival of the baby. Look at myself again. I'm lying in bed alone, and the sadness comes from it. I can't help crying under the bed. At this moment, I feel particularly sad and particularly wronged. "

I can understand her feelings very well. Even when she said that paragraph, she tried to restrain her eyes from being sour, especially for such girls.

After the child was born and discharged from the hospital, her lover had to go to work, so for the next month, she took care of the child and was busy with various housework.

Always strongly encourage yourself, it will pass, but in the dead of night, no one knows how many tears she secretly shed. Finally, my daughter is a little older and my second child is born again! Because of the preference for boys, the second one is still a girl, and her parents-in-law dislike her even less.

I can only rely on myself, and sometimes I complain about my fate, but for the sake of my children, I have to be strong.

Once, I went to kindergarten with my baby on my back and rode an electric car. I fell down with the three of them because of the rain. It's okay, it's just that the clothes are dirty!

I couldn't care less about grievances, so I quickly picked up the car and took the children home to change clothes. When I was busy with these things, I called my lover to complain. On the other end of the phone, he said, "How can you be so careless that you can wrestle while riding an electric car ..."

At that moment, I couldn't help crying, and all the grievances flooded my face, feeling that the whole world had abandoned her. Why, after being a mother, I am both a father and a mother.

I also have weaknesses. The stronger my mother is, the more fragile she is. It's just that many times, I don't want to express my grievances, I don't have the opportunity to express my grievances, and I don't even have time to grieve.

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The so-called "women are weak and women are strong" is about the armor when the mother is not strong enough and the shield when she is innocent:

There are often friends around me who say that it is impossible to sleep late since having a baby. My mother used to say that you were asleep and others didn't know you were sold. But now, as long as the child wakes up-women are weak and mothers are just.

It is also said that during breastfeeding, the incision is particularly painful because of cesarean section. When a child starts nursing for the first time, it is really painful to tell herself that she will survive while crying-women are weak and mothers are just.

Others said: I accidentally caught a cold and had a fever of 38 degrees, but I didn't want to take medicine, which would affect my child's breastfeeding. I hope I can get through it and tell myself that it is not easy to be a mother, nor is it easy to breastfeed-women are weak and mothers are just strong.

Do you know that the mother who stayed up for 24 hours because her child had a fever was once a little princess who grew up with the love of her parents?

The mother who turned ordinary complementary food into mouth-watering food used to be an idiot in the kitchen.

The mother who knew how to raise children and vowed to fight against old ideas was once a heartless fool.

The mother who is eating, when the baby wants to poop, can eat it calmly and then wash her hands and go back to the table. She is also a sentimental little girl.

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Including myself, because I have been working in Guangdong before, there are not many trivial matters, and my husband takes care of them one by one, so I am the kind of mother who can't clean up the house and enter the kitchen. Now that I am home, I am equivalent to a newborn mother.

From rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea to myself who knows "dancing" like the back of my hand, no step is easy. The reason why my mother is strong is clear only to those who have experienced it.

Yesterday, my brother asked me what time I got up and rested. After I answered truthfully, he said, "It's not easy. Our eldest lady has finally grown into a mother. "

Therefore, I am particularly disgusted with the saying that "women are weak and mothers are strong". I hope that everyone will: be more understanding and tolerant of their mothers; And mothers don't have to force themselves to grow and relax; Finally, accept who you really are, even if it is not perfect.

Mothers should believe in themselves, even if you are not strong enough, even if you are not the perfect mother in the eyes of others, you are irreplaceable and the most suitable mother for children.

May every mother be a sweet girl, although she has the courage to shelter from the wind and rain.