Enlightenment of Jiangge's kindness

2017165438+1October 3rd, Jiangge has been dead for one year. During this year, Jiangge's mother was miserable; But Liu Xin, who was saved by Jiangge, and his family all lived well, enjoying themselves and enjoying themselves. I ignored Jiangge's mother's meeting request and assistance, and I didn't go to see my savior. Let's talk about the enlightenment of Jiangge's kindness.

This reminds me of a sentence: talk to people who understand. Be kind to people with conscience. Perhaps this is a lesson that all parents should teach their children: human nature is good, even if there is such a thing, we should still be kind. However, don't be silly and kind.

When the video of "Liu Xin Facing Jiang Mu for the First Time" was released, many netizens cried.

Keigo Higashino once said: There are two things in the world that you can't look directly at, one is the sun and the other is the human heart.

The movie A Trip to Busan also has a mapping. Sometimes, the living are more terrible than zombies.

Just like Jiangge defended Liu Xin and his family to the death.

Because of its chaotic relationship between men and women, net biography lures wolves into the room and pushes Jiang Ge, a brave roommate, to the front. After being stabbed many times by her extreme ex-boyfriend, she locked the door instead of saving him, blocking the only way out for Jiangge to be rescued.

This is reminiscent of a scene in the Korean film A Trip to Busan:

Three people with pregnant women and children struggled through four carriages occupied by zombies, trying to enter an uninfected No.9 carriage. But when they rushed to the door of No.9 carriage, the people inside were persuaded by a middle-aged man not to open the door for them. They tied the door frame with a tie.

The front is the door that can't be closed, and the back is the bloodthirsty zombie. This picture is just like the scene before Jiangge died. There are wolves before, tigers behind, helpless and scared ... until death.

And Liu Xin's statement is also inconsistent. One minute he said he didn't hear it, and the next minute he said it was locked. If a girl is afraid to show up in the face of bloody violence, everyone can understand, but what Liu Xin's family did afterwards can cause great public dissatisfaction and even indignation.

Just two months after Jiangge's death, what is Liu Xin doing?

She is happily celebrating the New Year. ...

She made new hair and changed her head, compared with scissorhands ...

She went to a dinner party with friends. ...

Jiangge held a funeral and Liu Xin didn't show up. After that, Jiangge's mother came home with ashes, but Liu Xin didn't show up. Before that, she explicitly promised to go.

After the incident, Liu Xin didn't reply to Jiangge's mother's message until the overwhelming news on the Internet affected her. Instead of feeling bad, she asked Jiangge's mother that she had spread false news. Even threatened to stop assisting the police if she had any more information. I haven't heard from their family since. Liu Xin's parents both played the mother of Heijiangge.

For more than 300 days, my mother endured suffering. It was not until Jiangge's mother sent a message to Liu Xin's family that they reappeared. She took the initiative to call Jiangge's mother, but she said she would sue Jiangge's mother for leaking their information. Even Liu Xin's parents scolded Jiangge's mother, saying that her daughter's life was short. They completely forgot that Jiangge died to save Liu Xin.

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After knowing this, I sent a WeChat in my circle of friends for the first time, hoping to contact Shangjiangge's mother and give some help to this divorced and widowed mother. Many kind friends provided me with the contact information of Jiangge's mother and the group she built.

But unfortunately, her WeChat has not been added, my text message has not been returned, my phone call has been turned off, and the group pulled by my friends has not been verified. Later, I saw from Jiangge's mother's official WeChat account that she was already seeking support for the death penalty of the murderer Chen Shifeng, and she was far away from Japan, and various social channels even broke the news.

For more than a year, judging from the deeds of Jiangge's mother, she is a strong and great woman.

This is not only because her husband prefers boys to girls, but also because she resolutely divorced and took care of her children. She sold the demolished house, let Jiangge foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, and went to Japan to study. After her daughter's accident, she was still not hysterical, but was seeking justice and calling for punishment of the murderer.

However, after Liu Xin took the initiative to find her under the pressure of public opinion, she was still able to restrain her emotions and talk to him, but her words were meticulous and earth-shattering. People can't help but appeal for this strong mother, but at the same time feel sorry for her unfortunate experience.

"My daughter is lying there with no black hair, wrapped in something, and no beautiful clothes. It's the kind of non-woven surgical gown. Her eyes were half open and her mouth could not be closed. Seeing this hurts me very much and hurts me very much. "

She still refuses to believe that Jiangge has passed away. I send WeChat to my daughter every day. For more than a year, I don't know how this widowed mother spent the long night.

I believe Jiangge's mother is a good mother, so she can educate a good girl, Jiangge, who works hard and is brave in the sun. But maybe there is a lesson missing in Jiangge's education. That is: a kind education.

Jiangge is obviously too kind, but it helps those who are not well educated. As can be seen from the video, in Liu Xin's three views, it is like this: I know I was wrong, why don't you leave me alone? Why don't you forgive me?

In her values: I know what she said is wrong and is worth more than Jiangge's life.

So when they were in trouble, Jiangge, a good girl who fought bravely, obviously overestimated her strength. As a result, he died innocently and was not remembered by the other side A 24-year-old girl who just started a good life died in the harsh winter in a foreign country.

Really, not all kindness can be rewarded. For selfish people, ungrateful people, heartless people, cold-blooded people, extremely violent garbage people, anti-personality people, people full of negative energy. . . The best way is to stay away. But good people tend to underestimate the bad things they can do.

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I don't know if you still remember the tiger bite in Badaling last year.

The bitten woman went out without reading the safety instructions, was targeted by the tiger, killed her mother, seriously injured herself and became a public enemy of the whole network. I remember I wrote an article called "The Latest Progress of Tiger Biting: Stay away from the garbage people around you …". It says, never stay away from those who don't follow the rules, because when lightning strikes him, you may be involved. So is the garbage man.

Badaling tiger bite video

In fact, there are still many people who are harmed by "kindness".

San Mao, a well-known writer, also wrote an article called "The West Wind is Not Enough". Before going abroad to study, Sanmao was repeatedly urged by her parents: "When dealing with others outside, we should be educated by China people, and it is cheap to be patient in everything. If you have an argument with someone, you must think like this-take a step back and broaden your horizons. Never get angry with others, but have a broad mind ....................................................................................................................................................................

So when she treats foreign students according to China's etiquette, she is modest, polite, gentle and sweet. In the first two months, the students in the dormitory were very kind to Sanmao. But three months later, in the dormitory where four people originally lived, four people scrambled to work together, and housework such as making the bed, opening the window, sweeping the floor and cleaning the table gradually fell on Sanmao alone. Although she was angry inside, she never forgot what her parents told her, and she should be patient in everything.

Half a year later, Sanmao became everyone's treasure and a fool in everyone's eyes because she was responsive. Then, one night, the conflict finally broke out. On that day, the girls in the dormitory stole the sweet wine for mass, and they all sat down and hung on the Sanmao bed. Everyone handed over the wine and drank it, and then pretended to be crazy.

San Mao quarreled with them and was scolded by the dean standing by the door with a metal gray face. Unbearable, she picked up a broom and rained on a group of classmates. He also picked up a big vase with a big mouth on the table and threw flowers and water at the dean. I was so angry that I twisted the dean's face and made him apologize in public before confessing to the priest!

After the fight, Sanmao refused to apologize or repent. Everyone was very polite to Sanmao, but Sanmao still didn't give them a good face. On the contrary, these foreign students, in turn, flatter themselves and take the initiative to do dormitory work. After a month of stalemate between the dean and San Mao, he also talked to San Mao once and took the initiative to reconcile with San Mao.

This is not so much a cultural difference between the East and the West as a self-deception. Sanmao's reflection is also the reflection of each of us. On the issue of getting along with others, are others deliberately trying to bully me, or am I too obedient to let go and inadvertently indulge others? It is better to say that people should constantly strive for self-improvement than that the west wind is spreading eastward.

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Is human nature good or evil? This is an eternal question.

But I believe that except for a few people who are against humanity, most people are born kind. It's just that the lack of family education, abnormal pressure or cognitive distortion have not been corrected in time, which has led to the extremism, violence and criminality of some people. There are many "excellent children" in everyone's mind. Chen Shifeng, for example, committed violent acts this time.

Volunteer Chen Shifeng presided over the awarding ceremony of the greeting card competition.

The education of China people is also educating children. "You should be kind, be patient and unite with your classmates." However, they have no education, and not all "kindness" can be rewarded. Sometimes, rejection is "kindness" to yourself.

For example, I once turned down a request from a former colleague. She is a former colleague of an internship company of mine and has no intimate relationship. One day, after a long time of no contact, she once asked if she could stay at my house. I asked her what it was like there and how long she planned to stay. Nearly 30 years old, she said that she was forced to get married by her parents every day and was heartbroken. Her life is coming to an end, and when her parents stop, she will move back.

At that time, I was already getting married with my boyfriend, which was naturally inconvenient. And often go out early and come back late, and the time is different. A day or two is ok. I expressed my meaning. As a result, she was very angry and thought I didn't help her, and then she blacked me out. At that moment, I felt very grateful for my "rejection".

As can be seen from Sanmao's example, a perfect China person will not work among a group of foreign devils who bully the good and fear the evil. Simply giving in will only make the vested interests worse.

From Jiang Ge's example, it can be concluded that kindness applied to people without the same upbringing is not only disrespected, but may be harmed by it.

Therefore, people respect me one foot, and I respect others one foot. If people invade me, they will never be soft. Stay away from the garbage people around you, supplemented by legal means when necessary.

Maybe this is also a lesson that Jiang Ge and his mother taught us.

You should be kind, but not stupid.