How to learn to speak with high emotional intelligence

The speaking skills of high EQ are as follows:

1. When you meet the right person, you should speak and learn to be cautious.

Talking to different people is like eating and watching food.

Talking to a teacher is like talking to parents, and talking to a boss is like talking to a wife. It's easy to get more than one bargained for

Whether you are just chatting, comforting others, or arguing with others, it is important to distinguish the occasion.

2, communication is mutual, don't always say it yourself.

Talking and chatting is a mutual process. Where do you put each other in stand-up comedy?

The easiest way is to say less "I" and let the other person speak first, so that many people will feel comfortable talking to you.

Don't interrupt others easily. This is a courtesy.

Keeping up with the last paragraph is simply worse. Such people are self-righteous. Before others finished, he began to analyze blindly, and finally prescribed a prescription and poured chicken soup. Waiting for someone to finish is a basic accomplishment. When you think you understand what others say, it is often a misunderstanding.

4. Don't deny others' achievements casually. Encouragement is always more popular than ridicule.

People tell you their best side, and you say it's great. Xx is much better than you.

One or two seemingly harmless words blurt out, you feel very humorous, but others feel very uncomfortable.

No matter how highly educated people are, they always want to be affirmed by others, not cynical. They should give more encouragement and confidence to each other.

5. communicate with people with your heart, don't be absent-minded

The most difficult person to talk to is someone who can't even remember what the other person said and can't even remember his name after talking for a long time. You should communicate with your heart, not perfunctory.

We are still good friends in the argument.

In case of dispute, all contents are only for the current discussion. Don't be easily promoted to a character problem. In fact, everyone is similar.

7, see through, say nothing, be a man, see you later.

You don't have to tell the truth all the time, it's also a kind of high emotional intelligence.

8. Communicate with people sincerely. If you don't understand, you don't understand. Don't pretend to understand.

No one is born to talk. The speaker just asks for mutual comfort and understanding.

If someone gives it to you, you don't have to answer it. It doesn't matter if you can't chat any longer. At least it will make people feel that you are sincere, unpretentious and comfortable to talk to.