Looking at life from four angles, I wrote a summary of nearly five thousand words.

(This article was first written on 20 17, and it has been greatly changed this time. )

In the face of this epidemic, it is found that life is so fragile that it will not give you much room and space at all, so isolation and protection are particularly important.

A slightly longer holiday is coming to an end. Everyone will either work in the company or stay at home next week.

I found that I have written many life essays, and many of my official WeChat account fans know each other because of these words.

Enlightenment may be what I pursue at my age, just like a child chasing a kite without thread, or touching a long ropeway in a swamp, or there may be nothing. Frankly speaking, everyone wants to live a clearer and more transparent life. If you find out, you may still be unable to avoid those problems. Let's think about it.

I will look at life in the following parts.

1. Data survey to see life

2. Look at life through books

3. See life through movies

4. Look at life through the family.

1. Data survey to see life

Let's look at a set of data first. A magazine once conducted a questionnaire survey on the elderly over 60 in China: What do you regret most? It lists 10 things that people easily regret in their lives, so many of us are under that age now, but we have a list of data provided by big data. First place: 75% people regret not working hard enough when they were young. Second place: 70% people regret choosing the wrong career when they were young. Third place: 62% people regret not educating their children well. Fourth place: 57% people regret not cherishing their partner. Fifth place: 49% people regret not taking good care of their health.

Therefore, it is also corruption to choose comfort at the age of hard work, in other words.

2. Look at life through books

This result is similar to many viewpoints in the book "Don't say it's really too late". The story in this book is more profound. They are facing another kind of life boundary, that is, they have reached the edge of life, which includes people of various professional identities and different life classes' examination of life. For them, time is more limited, so their feelings are deeper. There are stories about buying insurance at home and eating expired food leading to cancer fraud. There are children under the age of/kloc-0 who ruined their beautiful families because of lies, veterans who participated in the war struggle on the edge of life, and a little depressed loli who sprouted in the hearts of university professors.

Life is short. If there is no plan for life and no comprehensive consideration for family, many things will be more entangled and helpless in the end and fall into one cycle after another.

I believe these stories are true, because they are anonymous and are the last words of people of different social roles before they die. There was an Indian who lived a hard life in America. One of his shocking secrets is that in order to make his family live a better life, he bought himself a special insurance, then ate all kinds of spoiled and expired food, and after a while, he was diagnosed with cancer, and then left those truths in his dying struggle. I believe that when we read this story, he had already left. A retired university professor, her last words turned out to be to do what she likes like like a child, without any constraints, but because of her social status and family environment, she felt that this was still an extravagant hope. A Vietnam War veteran, who came back from the battlefield disabled, was finally infected with AIDS. All these ups and downs are felt from his constant swearing language as a cry for this kind of life. His hope is simple, that is, there will be no more such wars. Many people know that life will be completely destroyed. A young child, probably only in his teens, his last words were shocking. As a young boy, he seldom goes home because his father is a soldier and he subconsciously hates his father. Once he secretly told his parents that his mother was secretly dating someone else, but it was actually out of thin air. Finally, mainly because of this, my father left home and he never had the courage to tell his mother the truth. A Japanese veteran participated in the massacre in China that year. Although he changed his surname and gave himself other glamorous social identities, it seems that fate is punishing him. His grandchildren and children died one after another, and in this state of constant fear, he had to associate his sins with them. I feel that God is punishing him. His real idea is that there should be no war. War will change many people's life trajectories. There are all kinds of stories. I feel that every time I read a story, I see through a kind of life. I read a small part at a time, because it is completely different from reading other novels. These are all life experiences, and it would be too hasty to skip them. Another news many years ago was that Zuckerberg, the founder of facebook, was so happy that he planned to donate 99% of his personal wealth. I also read his letter to his daughter, and I think it should be written to the whole world. He said that "what we are doing now may take decades to see the effect", and this letter seems to give me some answers.

The second book, The Best Farewell, has been at the bottom of the box for a long time. I was attracted by his best selling, and then I felt the same way because of the book's point of view. The author combs all aspects and development of American social pension, and the improper treatment of dying patients by medical circles. I believe it will inspire China's aging society. It discusses aging and death, which we don't want to face in life.

The author of this book, godwin, is an Indian-American, and was named the only doctor on the list of 100 most influential people.

Aging and death are things we don't want to talk about, and I don't want to recommend this book to many friends, mainly for fear of causing some misunderstandings. Let me explain some of them.

Generally speaking, this book will be like a movie, which makes people feel that they have gone through life, and there are many problems at every node and stage.

Generally speaking, a person's health is like a trap, without a very slow slope. This is also one reason why people today are not only anxious about their work and life, but also about their health. Health problems are not only themselves, but also their relatives around them, which are uncontrollable.

With the popularization and improvement of public health, many chronic diseases (such as emphysema, liver disease, etc. ) has slowed down, but this process is like a steep downhill. Although drugs, surgery and other means can help us tide over the difficulties temporarily, our physical indicators are actually not as good as before. I've had obvious feelings since I was in my thirties. For me, writing something a few years ago and staying up late is nothing. I have been sitting and sleeping for several times now.

Aging is a sensitive topic and an unchangeable fact. The author described it in detail, for example, enamel is the hardest substance in our body. In the course of life, our mandibular muscles will lose 40% of their mass, and our mandibles will lose 20% of their bones. When the mouth is bad, we turn to soft food, but this food is rich in carbohydrates, which makes our teeth more prone to tooth decay.

Teeth become soft, but other parts (blood vessels, joints, etc. ) began to harden. For blood vessels, the same amount of blood flows through narrowed and hardened blood vessels, and the heart can only produce greater pressure, which is a common situation in many elderly people. With the increase of heart pressure, the heart wall will thicken and begin to weaken its ability to respond to some things.

The heart wall becomes thicker and the muscles in other parts become thinner. At the age of 40, muscle strength will begin to decline, and by the age of 80, 25-50% of muscle will be lost.

The aging of life is an inevitable process, and we can make it relatively slow in this process.

In fact, for me, seeing such a detailed analysis and interpretation, I suddenly understood a lot of things that I didn't care much about. Health is a common problem. We can face aging rationally. Of course, the attitude towards death still needs a process. One of them is very good. I understand that the quality of life is very important.

3. See life through movies

In this regard, I think many Japanese and Korean films are very delicate and can fully express these feelings. For example, The Elephant's Back, Ten Covenants between My Dog and Me, The Disgusting Life of Matsuko, and The Bucket List, I will briefly talk about them. Movie 1: Elephant's Back

Once the elephant realizes that it is aging and will become a burden to the elephant, it will quietly leave the group. A huge elephant fell silently and disappeared silently, just like a leaf falling away. What this story wants to express is such a plot, which can also be said to be dignity. Of course, there are contradictions and confusion.

The protagonist is 48-year-old Yukio Fujiyama, the minister of a powerful real estate company. He has a beautiful wife and a pair of children at home, and his life is very happy. However, the sudden bad news broke his smooth life-the doctor told him that he had reached the terminal stage of lung cancer and could only live for another six months. After careful consideration, Yukio Edano decided not to accept life-prolonging treatment. Although there are not many days left, we must spend them meaningfully. He decided to meet those people who couldn't meet for various reasons, and made his final farewell in person, such as Miho, his first love, A Qing, his high school friend who quarreled over a trifle, and his brother Koichi, who had broken off relations. Of course, the protagonist also has many imperfections and can be criticized selectively.

Movie 2: Ten Promises of Dogs

The whole movie looks very warm, many of them are conversations between parents, and many opposing plots are still fresh in my memory. For example, Xiaoqing's mother died, and her father began to do housework. Cooking was terrible, and the father and daughter smiled helplessly. Because my father's job is transferred and my daughter needs to transfer, my father will join hands and apologize to her very sincerely; My daughter left home when she grew up and worked, and my father took care of Sox alone. In a scene by the sea, my father sat by the sea, talking to himself, feeling that time passed quickly, and then entertaining himself with a bottle of beer. The dog was lying next to the chair, listening silently, and saw that the white hairs on both sides of his father were getting heavier and heavier, which was quite different from the beginning of the film. Finally, my daughter got married, and my father took a photo of my mother and Sox to represent the family's blessing. Dogs over ten must be old. At the end of the film, my father broke the previous agreement. Xiaoqing, accustomed to this pace of life, suddenly realized that she didn't know when she was happy. The Chinese translations of the ten conventions of dogs are as follows:

1. You should be patient with me.

Believe me, I will always be your partner.

Please play games with me more often.

Don't forget, I have feelings, too

If I don't listen to you, there is a reason.

6. Don't quarrel with me.

7. You can go to school and have many friends, but I only have you.

Please don't abandon me when I am old.

9. I can only live for about ten years, so please cherish our time together.

10. I will never forget the days I spent with you. Please be sure to stay with me when I leave. Xiaoqing looked back and found herself feeling more and more guilty. It's like a slide that flashed in her mind, and every appointment will be related to the scene in life. There are too many stories in it.

Movie 3: The disgusting life of pine nuts

To tell you the truth, it took me many days to finish this movie. I felt very shocked after reading it. I am depressed, but I can't find any solution. I feel sorry for this life.

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Matsuko is not a woman with high consciousness. Her passion for life comes from her own intuition rather than perception. She longs for her lover to be loved and the world around her to be harmonious. When I was a child, I was my father and my sister. At work, I was a colleague, a student, and then a man. She tries her best to make each other happy, hoping that all the troubles will disappear, and even more, she hopes that people can take the initiative to skip their troubles in exchange for a happy life.

What should I do if my life is like this and my future is like this? What time has taught us is that regret and confusion will accompany us all our lives, and no fairy or magic can change or reverse it. This is life.

Movie 4: The Bucket List

This is a special film, which can show the course of a serious illness in a relatively relaxed way. Two cancer patients met by chance and became friends. The two decided to finish the story of "The Bucket List" in their hearts in the remaining days. Among them, the old Carter played by Morgan Freeman uses a special narration similar to that in The Shawshank Redemption, which makes the whole movie constantly remind people of thinking and memories.

4. Look at life through the family.

One of my thoughts is that if family relations always talk about money, natural family relations are not much better, so we seldom talk about this when we call, and when we call, we usually report good news instead of bad news.

If it is a state of marriage, it is to form a family and face the life of three families. And if brothers and sisters are involved, it is even more complicated.

However, no matter how complicated it is, a central point is that parents try not to give their children trouble, and children try not to give their parents trouble. It's easier said than done, but it's still difficult in practice. If we look at many things from a comprehensive and rational perspective, we will have more understanding and your thoughts will be more rational.

So a sentence in A Dream of Red Mansions: It's true when it's fake, it's true when it's fake, and sometimes there's nothing. Some people say that this sentence is the essence of A Dream of Red Mansions.

Maybe we are old, and many of us may become stubborn old ladies in the eyes of others. If we look at it from the present point of view, there may be some deviations. For example, the movie "International Market" really looked at me sparsely. A boy, the eldest son of his family, left home because of the war. In the process of escape, the boy was separated from his father because of his words. In order to wait for my lost father, I have been silently waiting for my father on the pavement of an international market.

Stick to the oath of nearly half a century. It was not until he was old and finally ready to sell the store that he lamented that I was so tired. The pursuit of a lifetime, this is the affection that blood is thicker than water.

5. Summary

If I want to sum up the meaning of life, it should be how much you have paid. And if it makes more sense, I might as well use what Jack's father said in Lost: Everyone will die, and the most important thing in your life is to be with these people. That's why they are here. No one is lonely. You need them and they need you. As for the reason, it is: remember and forget.