Being good at "pleasing yourself" is the highest life.

"If life is fleeting, it's just sudden."

Life is short, but we often consider whether we like it or not, but whether others like it or not.

In order to gain everyone's recognition, we do not hesitate to bury our deepest desires; In order to gain the love of others, we hide our needs silently.

But so wronged ourselves, what have we gained?

We are becoming less important. In the eyes of others, we no longer have light, but become a foil to others, and everyone's background color is even dispensable.

The grievances and dissatisfaction in our hearts are also increasing day by day.

It's time to let go of the shackles and think independently.

Zhang Ailing said: "When I met him, she became very low, so low that she turned to dust, but her heart was happy, and flowers blossomed in the dust."

A relationship, once one of the parties has the idea of "hitting a person when he is down", is not far from breaking up.

In a humble relationship, no matter how strong the love is, it will disappear in the daily necessities, and the rest is the pain I feel for my humble self.

Furthermore, if a person always faces a humble person, then after a long time, he will find the other person boring. Only close relationships can keep vitality and last.

Obedience, over time, will only make people tired.

Just like winning every battle, it will be boring.

A person, first himself, and then the various roles played by the outside world.

If he doesn't even recognize himself and constantly changes himself with the evaluation of others, does he still exist?

Be yourself first.

"For a thousand readers, there are a thousand Hamlets."

You can never satisfy everyone. There are always people who are dissatisfied with you.

Therefore, instead of constantly seeking others' approval, it is better to calm down, reflect on yourself and see what you like about yourself. Only when you like yourself first will you shine brilliantly and be really liked by people with the same frequency.

"Go your own way and let others talk."

There are always people who like you. Why should you please others and lose yourself?

It is reasonable that each of us has our own needs. We don't need to sacrifice ourselves to meet the needs of others.

If you always show that you have no requirements and are always "casual" or "casual", how can others understand your real needs? After a long time, others will never ask for your advice again. You are always "casual" anyway.

You will become more and more "transparent".

Some people will stare at you when they see that you are so easy-going. Once given the chance, they will meet their needs at the expense of your interests.

Gradually, they push their luck and get greedy, and you can't get up casually anymore.

Suppressing your own needs is not noble, but "immoral" to yourself. If you have your own rights, you must fight for them and be responsible for them.

We need to be kind to others, but we should not be left out.

"Gold is not enough, and no one is perfect."

No one is perfect. Even people who have made great achievements in one aspect have shortcomings, big or small.

Zhang Ailing said in Dream of Genius: "I found that I can't peel apples. After hard work, I learned to mend socks. I'm afraid of going to the barber shop, meeting guests and trying on clothes for the tailor. Many people tried to teach me to knit, but no one succeeded. "

Finally, she said that famous saying: "Life is a gorgeous robe covered with fleas."

As ordinary people, we have various shortcomings, which are understandable.

However, if there are some shortcomings, we can correct them and we will try our best to correct them. If you can't correct yourself and accept yourself, it's also practice.

A person's ability to accept his own shortcomings is also a sign of maturity.

Advanced life is not everything, but a "free heart" that can accept yourself, please yourself and live for yourself. Only in this way can we get happiness and happiness.