Mature men are all a bit 'mother-in-law'

It is said that Zen Master Dogen, the founder of Soto Sect in Japan, sailed to China to seek Zen. He came empty-handed and left empty-handed, only to find a soft heart. The ambitious Zen master took great pains to come to China. After some hardships, he finally realized that the essence of Zen is softness.

Lin Qingxuan said, "Only by being soft can we be sensitive, and only by being soft can we be tolerant."

I think truly mature men will be like Zen masters, After years of experience, I have developed a soft heart and become a bit of a 'mother-in-law' for my family.

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Become a 'mother-in-law' because I know how to care and accompany you

I sat with my two sisters that day In the car, they talked about their men. One sister said that her man was her husband. After he went into the kitchen to cook, he kept the kitchen cleaner than her. Every weekend we get up together, have breakfast together, and buy groceries. When we get home, we go into the kitchen together. You cut the meat and I wash the vegetables. We do the work very carefully.

She said that after her daughter went to college, her husband became more like a mother-in-law. He was afraid of her loneliness all day long and chatted with her like an old woman.

My sister looked happy and satisfied.

The famous psychologist Wu Zhihong said, "Home is the place of 'mother-in-law'. The main reason why home is warm is because the members of the family, 'mother-in-law', can understand and consider each other's trivial feelings. . ”

A truly mature man should be like this, knowing how to care for his loving wife with the heart of a ‘mother-in-law’.

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He became a 'mother-in-law' because he was working hard to grow up

My husband is a very hard-working person who graduated from college. After joining the workforce, he relied on his own efforts to serve as a leader in different departments for more than ten years. Like many men, he sometimes takes the rights he exercised at work home with him, which leads to family conflicts.

After our quarrel, he also began to learn to reflect on himself. Later, he curbed his machismo and learned to lend a hand when at home.

Once, after he finished eating, he cleaned up the dishes, but did not clean up the trash for the day. I reminded him that after washing the dishes, he would also clean up the trash.

After listening, he bent down, packed away the garbage, opened the cupboard, took out a new garbage bag and put it on the garbage basket. He finished cleaning up the kitchen, living room and balcony, and then put Three bags of garbage were placed outside the door, indicating that they would be picked up tomorrow.

I feel warm in my heart when I see my lover bent over and busy like a mother-in-law. I felt that he was telling me in a 'mother-in-law' way that he was also growing.

When he was chasing me before, in order to win my heart, he often talked eloquently in front of me. He was really very manly, but at this moment, I think he is more manly, although' Mother-in-law, mother-in-law', but compared to the lofty talks and endless love letters of my youth, I prefer the heartbeat and warmth that this moment brings to me.

A man who understands "mother-in-law and mother-in-law" when he returns home knows how to bend down, know how to be humble, and knows how to share.

Love is conveyed through sharing. Only when a woman feels shared by her lover can she feel love, and her heart will not have complaints. A home without complaints is a happy home. Only when a man has a happy family can he work with peace of mind and be sure of his future.

Men can make all the difference at work, because the working mechanism of work is competition and cooperation, control and conquest. But family is not enough. Family is about love, tolerance and cherishing. To reach these realms, everyone must let go of themselves and accept the rules of the family. Only then can the family be happy.

Huang Lijing said: "The more mature the ears of rice are, the more they know how to bend down."

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Becoming a 'mother-in-law' is all because of love

Sometimes a man who knows how to become a 'mother-in-law' can make people feel warm.

Looking at the happy marriages of many public figures, they all have a soft man who is a ‘mother-in-law’ in their happy families.

Mei Ting’s husband Zeng Jian is a well-known photographer. The two met while filming "Massage" in 2012, and then got married in a flash marriage in Hong Kong. Mei Ting then gave birth to a son and a daughter.

In the program "Mom is Superman", we see Mei Ting who is full of happiness.

According to Mei Ting, she is the housekeeper at home, and her husband takes care of the children. Her husband Zeng Jian does everything from changing diapers, making milk, and bathing the children. She said that if a good husband was 100 points, she would give her husband 120 points.

Zeng Jian integrated his love for Mei Ting into the household affairs of his "mother-in-law and mother-in-law". He did not complain, but felt that a man who knew how to take care of his wife was a real man.

The love scene between Big S and Wang Xiaofei in the popular reality show "Happiness Trio" has become a hot search topic. Wang Xiaofei is the fourth young master in the capital and the second generation of rich people. Wang Xiaofei in the show is very skillful in the kitchen. From a series of actions including breaking the belly, cleaning, cutting and chopping a fish, it can be seen that Wang Xiaofei is not a lazy man at home, but a man who knows how to help his wife when she needs it. A caring and giving man. No wonder they are a happy couple with zero bad reviews in the entertainment industry.

Celebrities are all wealthy people, and they are fully capable of purchasing labor services in life. But when they have money to buy services, they still know how to put down their posture after returning home, which is commendable.

Zhou Guoping said: "As long as it is natural, strong in a woman and gentle in a man, it is beautiful."

When a man returns home, he knows how to feel sorry for his wife and becomes 'Mother-in-law' to give and act is an act of loving women. Women are home, and a man who loves women loves home and life.

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Becoming a 'mother-in-law' means tolerance and acceptance

Tolerance is sometimes a gesture of tolerance .

Li Na in the TV series "Stay with Mom" ??is a strong woman. She is the owner of a cosmetics company, and her husband is an ordinary teacher.

In the play, Li Na was in a particularly bad mood because of her son's affairs. She yelled at her husband Li Zhiyuan on the phone, "Why have you become such a mother-in-law?" Li Zhiyuan was not angry after being scolded. Instead, communicate with her calmly and sort out her mood.

It is especially important for men to become ‘mother-in-law’ when women are emotional. This kind of performance can resolve many family conflicts. At this time, the 'mother-in-law' is tolerant and cherishing. If a man relies on his ambitious nature and shows a tough style, it will be harmful to his wife.

Mature men will use a 'forbearance' attitude when necessary to express tolerance and acceptance of their wives. Although this may seem very unmanly and even a little bit ‘mother-in-law’, it can make a great contribution to family harmony.

I remember watching a cross talk before. My wife scolded her husband for not being able to make money and not being as good as her neighbor Xiaoli’s husband. According to our traditional view, the husband should show anger and fight back against his wife to be a man. ’ But this husband used a very mother-in-law approach to resolve the conflict between their husband and wife.

The husband said to his wife,

"There is one thing about Xiaoli's husband that is definitely not as good as me."

"In what way is he not as good as you?" The wife was disdainful. asked.

"His wife is not as beautiful as my wife." After speaking, he looked at his wife with a smile.

My wife suddenly became very happy, scolded him for being sweet, and then walked into the kitchen to cook something delicious for him.

Some people say that a woman’s heart is like a needle on the bottom of the sea. In fact, women are emotional, but very simple. As long as she feels the love and appreciation of a man, her heart will be full.

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Becoming a 'mother-in-law' is to give your wife the greatest support

Men know how to become 'weaker' at home and how to change' Mother-in-law plays a very important role in the harmony of a family. This quality is particularly important in families where women are independent.

Sheryl Sandberg, the current chief operating officer of Facebook, is the first female member to join Facebook’s board of directors and is one of the top 50 “most powerful” businesswomen listed by Forbes. one.

Cheryl said that after her child was born, her husband almost took care of the child. Her husband's work was taken over by women in many families, but he did not complain because he knew he was supporting his wife's career.

Cheryl also admitted that the couple established a deep relationship during the years of supporting each other.

Having a ‘mother-in-law’ in your family is really a blessing!

A mature man can never break Loulan at work, but when he returns home, he must know how to wrap up the happiness of his family with that soft heart. Even if he becomes a 'mother-in-law', he will still be charming. Full.