Children's insecurity will often say these three sentences.

The first sentence: don't leave your mother. The child is very dependent on his mother, which shows that the child is very nervous. The second sentence: it's too dark, I'm afraid. Children's fear of the dark is also a sign of insecurity. The third sentence: Mom and Dad, stop arguing. The quarrel between parents is very traumatic to children.

Children are insecure.

First sentence: Mom, don't go.

When children say "mom, don't go", it shows that they have a sense of insecurity and are afraid. Mothers can't ignore it. If the problem remains unresolved, it may be detrimental to their future growth. It is suggested that Ma Bao ask her why she won't let go, so as to help solve the problem effectively.

The second sentence: it's too dark, I'm afraid.

Children can't sleep with their parents all the time. At a certain age, parents will sleep in separate beds, which is also very important to cultivate children's independence. However, when they say "it's too dark, I'm afraid", parents should pay attention, which shows that they lack security. It is suggested that parents can spend some time with each other before going to bed and tell some sleep stories. , to help calm the uneasy mood, maybe after a while they will gradually get used to sleeping by themselves. However, it should be noted that although children are afraid of the dark, it is not recommended to turn on the light when sleeping, because this will affect the quality of sleep and is not conducive to physical development.

The third sentence: Mom and Dad, stop arguing.

Friction between husband and wife is inevitable because of little things in daily life, but if parents always quarrel in front of children, children will feel insecure and will have the idea that parents don't want him, which will do great harm to children's young hearts.

Does caesarean section baby feel insecure?

Caesarean babies are born with the help of external forces. They have not experienced the squeeze and intimate contact of their mother's vagina, nor have they experienced the natural life survival process and stimulation in the production process, so they lack a certain sense of security. When they feel that their parents are not around, or there are other sound stimuli, the baby may think that this situation poses a threat to himself, so he will cry inexplicably, thus attracting the attention of adults. This is what they are telling their parents: "I'm afraid, come and play with me."

What should children do if they are too scared?

Performance: It is normal for children to have fear, but they should pay attention to those beyond the normal range, such as being afraid of the dark, thinking that they need an injection when they see a doctor, or "school phobia".

The main reason: people's fear is almost directly proportional to the development of physical skills and personal growth experience. With more and more things and activities, the fear experienced by the baby will increase accordingly. Generally speaking, the fear of disease, death, loneliness, darkness and imaginary monsters peaked at the age of 4, and began to decline after the age of 6. Whether the fear can be overcome in time is closely related to the sense of security that children get from their parents.

Intervention skills: understand children's fears, appease+tell the truth.

Children's imagination is extremely rich, and they often confuse imagination with reality. Adults should understand and comfort him from the child's point of view, don't ignore him, and don't scare the child. For children who can't express themselves, they can cuddle, pat and comfort softly to reduce their fears; For children who can express themselves, parents should encourage them to speak out, and explain the truth to them appropriately while comforting them, such as why they are black.

A sign of children's mental health

1. Sympathy

Simply put, it is willing to help and care for others. This practice is often called "altruism" or "prosocial" behavior.

2. Good interpersonal relationship

Harmonious interpersonal relationship, can get along well with other students. Adapt to act under certain constraints and rules and actively participate in group activities.

3. Inner peace

Calm and optimistic, calm when things go wrong, not melancholy, not impatient, able to analyze and solve rationally.

4. Have a strong thirst for knowledge

I am interested in things around me, actively seek answers, dare to try new things, and love to use my head.

5. Strong willpower

Strong willpower, not afraid of setbacks, have certain anti-interference ability, can concentrate on doing one thing, and will not be often distracted by external interference.

6. Lively personality

Easy-going personality, frank and direct when dealing with people, willing to listen to different opinions, even if encountering difficulties or setbacks can adjust themselves.