Middle-aged people are the most "cruel": stay away from relatives, get close to classmates, and pay little attention to bad things.

When I was young, someone always told us that "more friends, more roads". At that time, we have been holding such a "motto" as a person, so that we can associate with everyone, no matter how the other party treats us.

But with the growth of age and the deepening of experience, everything we have experienced tells us that it is not that there are more friends and more roads. It's that you have the ability. The more roads, the more friends you have. Do you really have feelings for such a "friend"? Not exactly.

When people reach middle age, everything will be seen through. You will know what a realistic human heart is, and you will understand what a realistic human heart is. As the saying goes, "If you are poor, don't ask; if you are rich, you have distant relatives in the mountains." I don't believe it, but look at the wine at the banquet. The cups are all respected by the rich first. "Not only your friends will do this, but also your relatives, your classmates and so on.

It's not that such people are bad, but that people are under great pressure. If you find some people who "hold high and step low", don't you just find yourself something to do? When you're in power, it's okay. They will flatter you and please you, but if you lose power, they will leave you, and what's more, they will hit people when they are down.

When people reach middle age, there is a very important word, and that is "cruelty". You are responsible for yourself, so you should be cruel. If you want to give yourself a free world, you must be cruel. Cruelty here does not mean doing some big right and wrong, but learning to distinguish the boundaries between people and know how to "break up."

I have heard a saying: "Tigers can live nearby, but men are too familiar with it."

A strange tiger can still approach, because this tiger treats everyone equally, and this tiger will often appear. But if it is a close person, it is different. Because the closer people are, the less prepared they are, and the more likely they are to be countered and stabbed.

In life, in fact, such people are very common, hidden in the "circle of relatives." Many relatives are related to you by blood and are inextricably linked, but what are their characteristics? It is to hold high and step low, and turn your face and deny "pro".

I once met a friend who said such a thing. A few years ago, my friend's grandfather celebrated his birthday and invited several relatives to hold a banquet. But because his friend's family is not very good, his relatives and friends look down on him. After receiving the invitation, those relatives conspired not to see how unlucky their friends were.

You know, if a relative doesn't come, it will also implicate other relatives. In this way, few relatives were present, only close friends and grandfathers came. According to them, it turned out that one of Grandpa's sworn relatives didn't want Grandpa to hold a beautiful banquet, so they formed a gang to speak ill of their friends and family behind their backs, and few people came.

Friends think it's not surprising that the world is so big and people are unpredictable, so they reduce contact with those relatives and even break up. This is blood relationship, but some just can't be good, so they do bad things everywhere. Such a person can be said to be a person who hates people and laughs at people.

When people reach middle age and have experienced some things, they will understand that the friendship between people may not be as good as the change of people's hearts and the exchange of money.

I have heard such a sentence: "The so-called classmates have long gone their separate ways. People who can contact are still in contact, and people who have not contacted will come to you decades later to talk about what feelings? "

By my side, there are always some leaders who have built a so-called so-and-so primary school group or junior high school group and have been pulling people into the group to catch up and chat. Some people are embarrassed to refuse the warm invitation from others, so they want to contact their former friends and see if they can find someone to talk to.

But after joining the group, you will find that some people in it are familiar to you, but you don't remember them. Even if you want to chat with him, you should make a draft in your mind and see what to talk about. It is this relationship that has long been a stranger. The so-called friendship may have disappeared on the day of graduation decades ago.

And the news in the group is not where to get together, or a bunch of praises, or a bunch of e-commerce news. Are you sure this group is not a "hodgepodge" of strangers? Sometimes, I don't mean that I hate this information, but that such groups will only add to my life.

Everyone's life is not easy, everyone has to earn money to live, and how many people have time to go to parties and chat with strangers who have lost contact? It's not that people are rude when they are old, but that everyone should think about his own life.

There is only so much space in a person's heart. If you put those "strangers" in again, isn't it just blocking your own space? Some people, since they left decades ago, no longer contact and forget the rivers and lakes, should be the best ending. Some feelings, since the light has faded at any time, it is better to stay the same. Perhaps "light" feelings can preserve the best memories.

Whether it is a circle of relatives or a group of classmates, it is actually a microcosm of social relations. It is necessary for people to have a working group and get on well with their superiors at work, because this is your job. In the family, you should have a good relationship with your child's other half and plan your future well, which is certain, because the only people closest to you are your family.

Since life is not easy, why invite more people into life? You know, when people reach middle age, what they actually have to do is "subtraction." It's not that you should do subtraction to cultivate your self-cultivation, but that you should do subtraction in your interpersonal circle.

This "subtraction" is actually "separation". Cut off contact with people you don't know, abandon people who bother you, and leave those relationships that have no friendship. This subtraction is the essence of people's daily life.

Some people will wonder, is this too unreasonable? To be honest, the relationship is not good, and there is no friendship in it. Have you contacted him? Isn't life the same?

Many times, it's not that people don't know the stakes. It's just that they are too emotional and don't want to give up. However, when you don't like this relationship, or feel strange, will you give up to "lighten your burden"?

In this life, this is the process of picking up and putting down. Some people and things, we must be cruel to let go. Such cruelty is not a person's "fickle feelings", but a person's own responsibility for himself and respect for others.

If you can't hold the sand, you might as well raise it. If you can't stay, let him go. For the rest of your life, live according to your own wishes. Giving up those people and things you can't keep may be the best choice.

Text/There are deer in Shushan