Why does the daughter-in-law always think that the mother-in-law should take care of the grandchildren?

My husband and I are both single and have two children. The eldest is a son, with my husband’s surname, and the second is a daughter, with my surname. My son is 6 years old and my daughter is 3 years old. Because my husband and I had to go to work, my parents divorced, and I followed my father. However, my father was not in good health, so my mother-in-law helped to take care of the two children. Xiao Lin’s desire to have a second child was not because he had a preference for boys over girls, but because he wanted to have a second child. I feel very lonely, and so does my husband, Xiao Zhou. I hope that having a second child can keep each other company

Since my daughter took my last name, my mother-in-law didn’t say anything on the surface, but in fact I know she still has complaints. . It can be seen from her attitude towards her grandchildren and granddaughters. For example, when I bought cherries, my mother-in-law only left them for her grandson to eat, while my granddaughter stayed aside and could only swallow her saliva. My neighbor saw this and quietly told me this. In private, my mother-in-law gives all the delicious food and fun things to her grandson, but she doesn't care about her granddaughter at all.

My daughter also picked up my son’s clothes and wore them every day. I couldn’t stand it anymore, so I secretly bought beautiful new clothes for my daughter. When my mother-in-law found out, she was very upset. They said I was a prodigal. Let me ask, that mother who loves her daughter doesn’t want to dress her up beautifully. As for the new year's money, my mother-in-law always gives 500 to her grandson and 100 to her granddaughter. We can only secretly give it to our daughter behind my mother-in-law's back.

That day, because my mother-in-law said she was not feeling very well and had no food after get off work, we went out to eat as a family. When we were eating in a restaurant, my eldest brother ate happily (always like this), while the second eldest child ate slowly and shook his head and refused to eat. So my mother-in-law said in front of everyone: "My eldest brother is so happy to eat like this. That's why." Like our children! So I was not very happy in my heart. I felt that she couldn't say this in front of the second child. One day the child will understand when he grows up, and I felt bad for the child. But he didn't say anything to his face. Xiao Lin was very angry. He gave birth to a son to accompany his daughter as she grew up. After giving birth to a younger brother, her daughter's life worsened one after another. Her father-in-law and mother-in-law focused entirely on their son Xiaoxin. Her husband was busy with work, always leaving early and coming back late. He also needed to take care of himself, and the whole family couldn't take care of Manman. Gradually, she found that the lively and active Manman had become a bit quiet. When her grandma and grandfather lectured her, she He will immediately shut up obediently and stay alone in the room if he is unhappy. . Compared with the restless person before, Ai Xiao seems to be a different person. Xiao Lin tried to talk to the two old people, but the father-in-law said with a nonchalant look that it was better for the son, and the girl's family should be sensible. Sooner or later, you will grow up to be someone else’s family. Unexpectedly, my mother-in-law also agreed. . Look at them like this. Xiao Lin regretted it and felt that he should not have followed the wishes of his father-in-law and mother-in-law to have a second child. This is unfair to my daughter.

The weirdest thing is yet to come. My daughter is no longer three years old. I plan to buy an education fund for my daughter. My mother-in-law asked me how much it was. When I said 300 a month, my mother-in-law immediately became furious and said that I don’t know how to take care of my family. My daughter has my surname, so the money should be paid by my mother’s family. Besides, this girl will get married sooner or later. Read What are you doing with so many books and buying education funds? It’s just a waste of money. I immediately became furious after hearing this, "I was so angry with her: Aren't my daughters and sons from other people's families my own flesh and blood? You mention these things in front of your children all day long. What will you think of your children when they grow up?" Different treatment, what kind of shadow will be left on the child's young mind? Moreover, I am the only daughter in my family. My dad's money will still be mine in the future. Isn't it the same that we will support my dad's retirement? Why is this money The money must be divided so clearly!"

My mother-in-law did not expect that I, who had always been submissive, would suddenly become angry at her and was stunned. The next day, my mother-in-law packed her bags and went back to her hometown. I thought about it all night. Both children were my heart and soul, so I decided to resign and take care of them myself! I believe there are many more traditional old people who feel deep down that their sons and grandsons are their own family, and their daughters and granddaughters will have to go out sooner or later. Times have changed, and my granddaughter~daughter is also my roots.