What is the experience of an old woman who is almost fifty years old and coquetry in the office every day?

One of my friends' colleagues is such a person. My friends often talk about her, and their disgust is beyond words.

This is a divorced woman. She is fifty years old, which is not easy, but it just makes people feel sorry for her. There were five people in the office, and the other four people built a group, but she was excluded.

When male leaders come to the office, she often sells cute clothes, and her seduction and flattery are not concealed, which makes other colleagues feel at a loss and very embarrassed, but she doesn't agree and goes her own way.

apart from obsessing, she and every colleague don't really get along, one thing on the surface and one thing behind her back. So although she has a glib tongue, she hardly has any friends.

For those honest young female subordinates, she does her best to suppress bullying. A female subordinate failed to fill in the form for many times. The female subordinate WeChat asked about specific matters, but she didn't even return, which made people almost collapse.

In short, this kind of person just lives with a mask, which is very hypocritical and unkind. The purpose of her coquetry and adoration of male leaders is nothing more than to win over quickly and then exchange interests, which is not true love at all.

A sincere person will never be coquettish and cute at the age of fifty. If you have such a person around you, you can experience it.

what is the experience of an old woman who is almost fifty years old, coquetry in the office every day?

I guess when you say coquetry in front of small leaders, you don't mean coquetry between men and women, but definitely coquetry in interpersonal communication. Let me talk about my point of view.

In front of leaders, it is still necessary for women (regardless of their age) to give full play to their gender advantages, show weakness, ask for help, and occasionally be a little coquettish (not the ambiguous coquettish relationship between men and women). As long as the leader is a man, he will enjoy this feeling. The purpose of coquetry is to improve relations and promote better cooperation.

In the workplace, I don't reject those who can win a place by flattery and flattery. After all, when people eat meat, you can only smack them in the mouth. You can only drool when people drink soup.

the fact is, no matter what means people use, the ultimate goal is that people eat meat. You are somewhat sarcastic, but you are just sarcastic.

when people live to middle age, who can't bow and scrape several times?

during the job interview, you must not keep your voice down?

don't you give the teacher a smile when the child goes to school?

why don't you stand up and propose a toast when you are having dinner with the leader?

you don't like the fact that no matter how high your heart is, it's not as high as rough.

no matter how hard your bones are, they can't be hard in life.

Therefore, a woman of fifty years old should not be disgusted with coquetry. Everyone wants to gain a foothold in society, and everyone's communication style is different.

I met such a colleague when I first went to work, more than ten years ago, when she was in her forties. When I was looking for a job, it was relatively easy to find it. I chose one of the corresponding units that was close to my husband's unit and submitted my resume, and then the head of the department contacted me for an interview. After talking to the number one, talk to the number two, meet the person in charge of the small department after talking, and then the protagonist comes on stage.

when I first saw her, it was really amazing. I am very tall, where I should be fat, where I should be thin, with big waves, wearing glasses, well-dressed and exquisite makeup, and exudes the charm of mature women, which suddenly shocked me, a bumpkin who has never seen the world. As soon as she started talking, oh, my God, what a beautiful voice. I was attracted to her as a woman.

then we chatted for a while, and she said that she was invited to dinner at noon and asked me to go with her, and then we talked again in the afternoon. I, a person with no social experience, believe it, saying that it is not appropriate for me to go. Let her go by herself and I will come back this afternoon. Later, when I got to know her, I realized that she wanted me to invite her to dinner.

In the afternoon, we chatted very speculatively (on the surface), and it felt like we had been best friends for many years. Well, I admit I was stupid. Then in the evening, I got a call from the head of the department, saying that my major was not right, and they had to reconsider. I realized at this time that she should have said something in front of the leader.

two or three months later, the top leader called me and said that if I still wanted to go, I would go through the formalities directly. I thought about it and went. The only thing that made me uncomfortable was that I had to work for her. As a result, after I graduated and officially joined the job, I was assigned to a newly established department. All the members of the department except the person in charge were new here in the past year or two. What luck! Two of them were transferred from her department, and according to them, they were devastated by her for nearly a year, which was unbearable.

I learned later that it's really hard to judge a book by its cover! A woman with such an outstanding and elegant appearance is actually a center of right and wrong. She plays the coquette in the office every day. People in her department must hold her and praise her, otherwise she will give each other a hard time.

after two years, the head of the department changed, and then the head of the small department was also adjusted. She was replaced. I guess she has no right to be reconciled. So she found a relationship and transferred to another parallel unit. It is said that she soon mixed with the small leader.

We didn't stay in that unit for two years, but we heard an exciting gossip. She divorced and found a husband who was nearly 2 years younger than her. Then she resigned with her little husband and went to another city to find a unit that was a little worse than the original unit. Later, she studied for a doctorate on the job, and went to the south after graduation. I heard that she got along well.

A few years ago, colleagues from other departments went to other places for a meeting and met her. Was she already in her early fifties? According to colleagues who met her, she is more beautiful than before. When a group of men and women talked about her, we admired her, although we despised her as a person.

for an old woman who is almost 5 years old, what is the experience of coquetry in the office every day? I think it varies from person to person. In the workplace, people are definitely for their own interests. Maybe some people have mixed emotional ties with interpersonal relationships. Maybe this is just a way of interpersonal communication. Maybe this is just a means to make a living for others, but it is a coquetry way for others.

In the workplace, people originally expand their interpersonal relationships for the equal exchange of interests. Many people only seek results, but don't look at the process. In interpersonal communication, it is a truth that many people know.

In particular, women's social status in the workplace is rather embarrassing. Many women will use their gender to achieve their desired results in some charming ways in order to obtain their desired benefits. Of course, if this is a charm display under normal circumstances, it is understandable.

Some people associate with you in this way, not to win the favor of their leaders. This may be the habit of others' life for decades, but they don't like it.

the same is true for a woman without a unit. Everyone says that Xiao Jie is a servant girl, but she doesn't feel that her behavior is abnormal. For decades, she has always dealt with people in this way, so everyone who knows her knows that it is her characteristic of dealing with people.

There are all kinds of people in this society. Many people ignore themselves and hang high. If you don't like this kind of behavior, you don't have to watch it. After all, everyone has everyone's temperament, everyone has everyone's interpersonal communication style, and all social behaviors can't be carried out according to your right and wrong standards. Learning to accept and see problems rationally is the ability that everyone in the workplace should have.

This question looks uncomfortable. What is an old woman who is almost fifty? Who is not old? You're not old? Everyone will get old? What's wrong with coquetry? Who stipulates what age women should be spoiled? She didn't tell you? Who did she spill it on? I really don't care. Women don't be a third party all their lives, they don't do harm to personnel, they don't violate the law and discipline, and they live as they please. Women who can coquetry are lovely. Why do they have to live as a woman, and when they are tired, they act like a little girl in their spare time, and some people love them well [yi tooth ]

Hahaha, this question reminds me of one or two people in my work unit.

in the late 198s or around 1988. Said, there is a female worker, about 5 years old, still looks unruly, but she always talks because she seems to be charming. Some big leaders ate this and were promoted to a small leader. I was young and thought this man was disgusting. The kind that young people can't come out. She is very natural in her fifties. But there is a new professional military cadre in the unit, and one day in the office, she is talking nonsense, not talking about serious things, and she comes to that again. The great leader from a military background is blunt. Ask her how did you do this? If you have something to say, why are you still acting like a child? This is the work unit! No face at all, it should be disgusting. Ha, ha, ha, ha, ha. We are embarrassed to leave at once. Ha, ha, I want to imply that you are so embarrassed and so old. Goose skin clattered all over the floor ...

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Everyone has different mentality. No matter how old she is, who does she coquetry to?

there is nothing wrong with a young mind and rich feelings. As long as it's not artificial.

Happiness is a day, and so is trouble. Why not let yourself live happily every day?

It's normal for women to be spoiled. Women are emotional animals, and their spiritual needs are greater than their material needs. However, this kind of situation you mentioned is really rare. I think the specific experience is only embarrassment and boredom.

coquetry is an external manifestation of personality, trying to get the attention of outsiders. This kind of behavior is often bound by the environment and age. The older you get, the weaker your desire for expression is. If, as you said, a woman in her late fifties is still coquetry, you can only say that her psychological age is not big, at least she thinks she can still coquetry.

This is the case with some female employees who are old to outsiders. When faced with leaders younger than themselves, they are really "gentle" and have some modal particles. They are not so much coquetry as just flattering.

There are reasons why women in their late fifties are spoiled.

First, women of this age are almost grandmothers. They have experienced love, marriage and sex. It can be said that their lives are rather boring. In addition, what they say and do at work is different from that at home, which may affect their "official career". Without the vigor and vitality of young girls, they can only show the charm of mature women. The same woman, the young girl is too shy and embarrassed to be spoiled. At this time, I can see the "basic skills" of others. Second, the old employees of many enterprises, especially the old female employees, have a lot of temper, but they can't express it to anyone. In the face of leadership, they still have plans. Experienced people and inexperienced people, obviously, they can coquetry without taboo, which is also prompted by their own confidence.

this kind of woman is not easy to provoke, and she can change her mood at will at work, which is also the experience accumulated by years of work. This situation is boring, but helpless, which is a woman's advantage.

A girl who works as a real estate agent told me that there is an old woman in their office. She is 5 years old and is her boss. She is like a psycho every day, which is really annoying. Then she said the following points.

1. melodramatic. I've never seen a woman who is almost 5 years old, and I think of myself as a 2-year-old girl. She doesn't eat, and she doesn't like it. She criticizes other people's tastes all the time, while she is listening to a particularly vulgar online saliva song.

2. My private life is chaotic. I talk to different members of the opposite sex on the phone every day, not to mention ordinary friends or clients. I have told clients: I don't make money. Do you support me? In front of us, I have never mentioned my lover, dressed beautifully every day. Think of a 5-year-old woman with loose face and heavy makeup.

3, duplicity, vanity, on the one hand, seniority, on the other hand, don't let others say her age, for example, tell a young man: I'm old enough to be your mother. After a while, he said: no, I have to call my sister, or I will be old.

4. Victimization paranoia, I always feel that someone is targeting her, saying that someone is not good every day, and I feel that what others do is not as good as her. She is a collection of beauty and wisdom.

5. I am jealous, and I can't see other people's kindness, and it's obvious. When someone else has made certain achievements or made money, the first reaction is jealousy and sarcastic remarks.

6. She likes to brag. She usually loves gossiping and gossiping about herself. She can talk about her glorious deeds. If people ignore her for half an hour, she can go on alone.

This kind of person is a little abnormal, which makes people dislike and hate her, and they want to avoid her when they see her.

Everyone is old sometimes, so face the reality, old is old, and don't act young, which is not only ridiculous, but also annoying. 5-year-old people should have 5-year-old makeup, do things steadily, guide the younger generation in their work, and play a good role as an example. Everyone will respect you, otherwise it will be counterproductive.

Be kind to others, and see more advantages of others

A person has his own way of life, and a person has his own personality and temper. Colleagues must live in harmony and be kind to others. People who have just turned 5 are not old, so don't call them old women. This kind of address is extremely impolite, and everyone should respect each other. A person's personality, temper is different, some are extroverted, usually like joking, like communication, easy to communicate with people; Some are introverted, do not like to talk, and are not easy to expose their thoughts. The colleague you are talking about is an extroverted personality with a wide range of communication and loves to dress up. It is also necessary to analyze whether she is single. If she is single, she likes to meet some members of the opposite sex. I hope people around her can pay attention to her, which is beyond reproach. Colleagues should be kind to others, pay more attention to the advantages of others, and don't care about the details of each other's lives. As long as it doesn't affect others' study, work and life, we should try our best to be tolerant, not to mention that she is not an old woman, everyone is old, and maybe you will become an old man in a blink of an eye, right? See more of her advantages, maybe one day you will feel that this woman is lovely, and communication, understanding and trust between colleagues are very important. May you be happy and don't be angry.