Waiting for Flowers to Bloom —— Giving Children the Guidance of Patience Smile

When I saw this picture, my mind suddenly jumped out: waiting for flowers to bloom, and the position where parents accompany their children: sometimes in the back, sometimes around, sometimes in front, all talking about treating children as an independent individual, giving them enough respect and giving them patience and time to grow up.

Before writing, I still read my partner's handwriting. I especially agree with Xiaoyu's golden sentence: Waiting is not waiting, but also planting flowers. Recalling last summer vacation, as planned, I took my daughter out to study and play for more than 30 days. Cucumbers and peppers are planted in the yard. Before going out, although I didn't care so much, I still gave basic attention every day. When I got home, the cucumber was almost withered, and there were several big and old cucumbers hanging on it. Most of the peppers are red, and they almost fell to the ground (teammates said they tried their best and took care of them, so I listened). Isn't this what most people understand as waiting for flowers to bloom? Just wait, it happens that there is enough rain in summer, and cucumbers and peppers do grow, but they will soon wither after the unguided madness!

Isn't raising children the same? When children need guidance, we don't give them enough and proper guidance. Isn't it just like cucumbers and peppers that are allowed to grow in summer? What may follow is the rebellion of adolescence and the stumbling of future life.

Then, in the process of waiting for flowers to bloom, how can we give children patience and a smile? Every child is different and every mother is different, which reminds me of learning piano with my children from June.

In the second half of last year, children began to sign up for piano lessons with great interest. Every time you learn the piano, you can see that kind of love for the piano from the expectation of jumping, so every piano lesson is not a problem. Even if you ask her out to play on weekends, her first consideration is what to do with the piano. This enthusiasm continued until June this year.

During the epidemic, I was chanting when I was able to go to class every day, so after classes resumed, my relatives remained the same. But it didn't last long. I studied for about half a month in May, and suddenly I didn't want to study. When she first proposed not to study, I reasoned with her and communicated with him as an adult. He insisted on not going. It is estimated that she is too tired today and will go tomorrow, but she still refuses to go the next day. At that time, I chose a simple and rude way-dragging her to the training center (next to our home, very relaxed). After pulling in, she still chose not to go to the classroom. When we were deadlocked in the yard, she cried and said, "I don't want to learn technology, I just want to stay with my mother forever." I was suddenly moved to tears. Even though I was rude to her just now, she is still full of love and concern for me. It suddenly occurred to me that she must have encountered difficulties that she could not solve in the process of learning the piano.

My reason finally came back. I want to accompany her through this difficulty and let her see the joy of growing up. I'll apologize to her at once, and then communicate with her why she doesn't want to learn. She finally said to me, "Mom, after studying for four times, the teacher didn't tick, and it's getting harder and harder, and the teacher is not as patient as you ..." After listening to it, I felt that she was really in trouble. I said, "honey, I'll study with you, and we'll spend more time practicing." Yes "

Every time I practice the piano, I sit beside her intently:

Where she can't, I encourage her to ask the teacher for guidance.

When the teacher is busy, I encourage her to invite older children to teach her;

Although I can't play the piano, I can hear whether she plays fluently. After listening to it several times, I found that her problem was that she was not proficient in music, so I told her to recite more music.

When there is no class in the afternoon, I take her to practice more and tell her that more practice will become more and more smooth;

Time her with a mobile phone stopwatch, and it takes less and less time to practice the same one every time;

When practicing, other children often come to talk to her, so I use the tomato clock to encourage her to concentrate on training;

I told her that I wanted to learn, too, and encouraged her to teach me from the basics (I also changed from a piano blind person to a small white who can read simple staff).

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In this way, every time I go to learn the piano, I pay full attention to her, see the problems she encounters in practice, analyze the reasons with her, and then work together to overcome them. Finally, I stayed with her for four times. Under the active guidance of the teacher, she learned the most difficult one to teach her? At this time, the joy on her face came out again. I told her that these are the results of your efforts. Believe in yourself, and your efforts will grow.

She is going to learn piano again this Friday, and she is looking forward to it, because she has experienced the joy of overcoming difficulties through hard work.

Waiting for flowers to bloom is not waiting, but cultivating. What I have done during this period is not to give her patience and smile, to give her guidance and support, and to accompany her to a better self!

I hope I can be with my child every time I grow up, give her patience and smile, and bring her the joy of growing up!