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I want to reconcile with myself and the world
No one in the world can empathize with you, and no one can understand your grievances. Only by letting yourself go can you live a better life.
In the past few days, I didn’t know whether it was because I wasn’t used to eating complementary foods, had an uncomfortable stomach, teething pain, or wasn’t full. Anyway, I woke up in less than an hour, and I haven't slept since 3 a.m., and I kept rubbing my eyes, looking very sleepy.
Now I'm finally back to normal. I don't know if I said it too early, but I can't sleep.
I still remember this state when I was in high school. I went to bed close to 12 o'clock. I was half asleep and half awake for a few hours and couldn't fall asleep. Because I had to go to class the next day, I still lay in bed with my eyes closed to relax. It was almost 6 o'clock. I was so sleepy that I couldn't open my eyes.
I am exactly the same now as I was then, the more I sleep, the more awake I become. Simply, half-lying down to read.
I saw a sentence like this on some news yesterday: Who is the most tiring person to take care of children?
Does tiredness here mean physical or psychological?
Physically speaking, I have to wake up at least twice every night. Sometimes after feeding, the child falls asleep while I am unusually awake. The child slept less during the day, but began to pick on others. It seems like he knows what his mother smells like. He only recognizes me and refuses to play by himself as long as my mother holds him. Obviously the child's father also sleeps in the same bed with the child.
Psychologically, except for your own parents who will understand your hard work of raising children and will take the initiative to share some of the burden, others will not, including your husband.
"Look, he only wants you, look for mom, look for mom." "My mom is staying at home with me." "You are not relaxed yet. You don't have to cook and wash clothes, just take care of the child." "You need to lose weight." "Go and get a teaching certificate and become a teacher." "I just gave you 1,000 yuan, why is it gone? Where is the money going?" Why is there so much hair in the room?”
There are many kinds of verbal “violence”. However, generally speaking, the speaker may not have a heart, but the listener may feel uncomfortable.
I regret that I didn’t work hard before getting married, and I didn’t have any savings around me. Not to mention myself, I had to think twice about what to buy and use for my children, and I didn’t have any decision-making power at all. The days when my palms are up are really uncomfortable. I have never wanted to work and make money so strongly at this moment. Is it because I don’t want to make money and want to be a stay-at-home mother?
I might want my children to follow my own path, and I hate myself.
After I was weaned, my mother went out to work with my father, and from then on lived the life of a left-behind child. I could only envy other children having their parents accompany them. He was raised by his grandma to be dull and dull. He was bullied by his classmates at school. He couldn't do his homework and his grandma couldn't help him. My parents had no choice but to go home to do business, and I transferred to another school to study in the town.
In order to make a living, after his parents were busy with business, he had to help. Because my parents were not around earlier, I didn’t know how to act coquettishly with my parents, and my parents didn’t have time to listen to my worries.
Later I thought that if I got married and had a child, I would definitely take care of it myself, accompany the child to grow up, and prevent the child from following his own path. If your children want to go to kindergarten, they can go. If they don’t want to go, they can be taught at home.
Ideals will always lose to reality. If you have never given birth to a child, you can never imagine what will happen after giving birth. There is a saying: "If you don't raise children, you don't know the kindness of your parents." When I was a child, I complained that my parents didn't accompany me. After becoming a mother, I want my children to face the same situation.
I am not a woman who pursues materialistic life. I don’t need to buy clothes, put on makeup, or eat meat. But I have never thought about not making money and having no surplus food in my hands. It feels so uncomfortable.
Especially when my husband had a quarrel with my mother-in-law, she didn’t discuss with me about weaning, and she left the child at home and asked me to go out to earn money. I had no way to refute.
There is no harm if there is no comparison, but I still hope that my mother-in-law at home can help me and help take care of the children. But in my mother-in-law's heart, I want to cultivate good fields and feed chickens and ducks well, so that I can have rice, vegetables and chickens and ducks to eat without having to spend money to buy them.
How can I trust a mother-in-law who cannot sit still at home, has no patience to take care of her children, has no plans for doing things, cannot sum up experience, does not accept new things, and takes care of her children with the ideas of the older generation.
But he had to face the "violence" of the villagers' language. "It will only take three years of hard work to have another baby, and we can grow up together.
"Tell your mother-in-law and let her take care of it. It's a waste for a college student to take care of the child at home." "It seems that it is easy for children to grow up. Maybe it is true for the elders that as long as they don't starve to death, they will grow up.
The most funny thing is that I have said many times that I will not have a second child. My father-in-law encouraged the birth: "My goal is to have two children, and the second child does not matter whether it is a boy or a girl. When you are old, there will be a discussion between the two children. It's really stressful to be alone. "As if giving birth to and raising children is easy.
Then I brought up the grandparents. When people get old and have various problems, they have brothers who can take turns going to the hospital. If you are alone, you will definitely be bored to death. . It is true that there is no filial son in front of the old hospital bed.
But even so, when the uncle and the fourth uncle started to go to the county to see the house this year, they started to have troubles in their hearts. My fifth uncle didn’t buy a house because he felt he was inferior to others. My fourth uncle bought a house because his cousin was on a blind date and the girl asked me to buy a house first.
Although I don’t want to live with my parents-in-law because of issues such as concept and generation gap. I want to reduce conflicts, but after buying a house, can I really move to the county? It's not just my pride and face that are causing trouble. I feel that many people in the village have bought cars and houses, but I don't, and I feel that I will be looked down upon. < /p>
Here I want to buy a car and a house to satisfy my self-esteem and save my face. Over there, I want to pay attention to whoever wants to pay attention to it.
"Those who eat from one pot should pay attention to those who eat from one pot." "When I was having a hard time, why didn't I think that I was the one eating out of the pot?
However, who has never experienced something that can truly understand the hardships involved. My husband said that he helped me speak, Tell me not to talk about the past. "I'm not okay. I also take care of children. Look at who and what, who has taken care of as many children as I do." "
Is confinement hatred really said to be something that can be overcome in the past? Yes, I know, when talking about confinement period, even your own mother will say to you: "Goodbye" What are you talking about?"
So I have to understand that you all have such a widowed parenting style and a widowed marriage, and then let yourself experience it again. They always make things so easy, and then kidnap you morally, Anyway, I am not the one who experiences these things, and I am not the one who suffers.
My cousin said: "After I gave birth to Xuan Bao, my mother-in-law was not in good health and could not take care of me. My mother had no time to build a house. take care of. I shed a lot of tears during my confinement. Now that the child is older, you can see how good it is. ”
No one can redeem yourself except yourself. If you want to be happy, you can only let go of the depression in your heart, reconcile with yourself, and live a positive life.
But this is very important to the current situation. For me, it’s still a bit difficult. Is it the money or the heart?
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