How do you feel when your child is admitted to an ideal university?

Actually, I'm quite ambivalent about this. I don't have company, so I have some difficulties, and I can solve them with company. But I'm glad I don't have company. Some parents have the opposite effect.

Tell me about my experience. I studied in the provincial capital in high school. At that time, I was in the third year of high school, and I rented a house with two classmates, A and B. Most of my meals were in the canteen. When there is no food in the canteen, I go out to buy some. I was not very good at cooking at that time. I also prepared a lot of instant noodles and eggs in my room. When you are hungry, you can cook noodles and poached eggs, which is also called midnight snack.

The problem of not accompanying students mainly lies in two aspects. One is that in life, the diet is irregular and you can cook in your spare time. What about when you are busy? I can't finish my homework. I can only sleep four or five hours a day. I can't cook when I have time. Just buy some ham sausages and a box of Snickers after school to make do with it. Results Senior three ate chronic gastritis, and his weight soared by 38 Jin. Before that, I have been a thin man.

It's especially easy to get fat after that, so I'll play if I lose weight. What impressed me more was that during the winter vacation of senior three, the school canteen was closed and the Chinese New Year vegetable market was closed. That's helpless. You can only eat instant noodles in the rental house for a week. That senior high school entrance examination was the best in my whole senior high school, which was probably expected by Qingbei. At least it is the level randomly selected except Qing Dynasty. After eating, I went to the hospital. At that time, there were many people hanging water in winter. The room was crowded with people. The nurse gave me an intravenous drip in the corridor. The cold of hanging liquid and the wind in the corridor make half of the body cold after hanging water. As a result, the rumor circulating in the class at that time was that I must have used some special methods to do so well in the exam, and I was still tired and ill. Who should I talk to if I feel uncomfortable?

Another aspect is communication. Your parents are not around, and you don't know your state at all. When you are in the third year of high school, your parents are even more nervous. There was a weekly exam, which fluctuated greatly. For example, there are three major problems in mathematics. If you are not careful, go straight to 70. At that time, the most immoral thing was to send text messages to parents when I didn't know the results of the weekly exam.

Then every time I finish the weekly exam, my dad's phone call is the most worrying thing the next night. If I do not do well in the exam, I will be scolded. I can't explain yet. I said I tried my best. He asked me why I did not do well in the exam. What's my answer? In the eyes of parents, the reason why you didn't do well in the exam is that you are playful and just don't care. You explain, you talk back, you just don't listen. I know the reason, but when you scolded me for taking it out, you felt good, as if you had done your duty. Who can make up for an hour's delay? Finally, I don't care. The mobile phone is on speakerphone, so you can swear at will. I'll, uh, do it next time. He scolded, and I was angry. I finished brushing a test paper. But it's still hard. I don't even want to talk about these things when I go home now.

But accompanying reading is not necessarily good. Tell me an example of my roommate. This part is my observation and may be biased. I'll try to be objective. Classmate B, who has been in the top 20 of our class, scored an average of more than 60 points in the college entrance examination. As long as he doesn't drop it, it is stable to play the college entrance examination 985 normally. Unfortunately, after he lived with us for two months, his mother was worried and insisted on taking him. First of all, I especially envy his learning methods. I'm a die-hard type, and I'm very rewarding if I work hard. I may only get three or four points if I work hard for six or seven points. He is very skillful, 80% or 90% of 67%, but 80% or 90% of 10% may be. In fact, according to his own pace, the problem is not big and he can be relatively happy. But after his mother came to take him away, I found the problem.

Let's call aunt. I think maybe all the parents in the world are neurotic in the third year of high school, and my aunt is worse than my father. When she first came, she accompanied my classmates to study in his room. When we had dinner together, she kept telling him that I was ten points too much. In fact, there is nothing happy about being someone else's child. Even if you bring me positive textbooks, I feel uncomfortable. I thought, how much more time do I need to spend on this? I don't necessarily like him at the same time compared with the score. Moreover, the time I spend is just up to my limit, and one more minute will not exceed this limit. See my other answer at the end of the article for the specific time.

My classmate just wanted to explain a few words, but my aunt immediately said, Look, xxx (I) did better than you in the exam and didn't talk back to his parents. I smiled bitterly: because I knew it was futile. Is it useful to say more? Will anyone listen? I'm still listening to the wall. I didn't expect that my passive communication style has become a model for other parents to be obedient. My classmate was told by my aunt for two days a day, and finally gambled on time and worked all night. I sometimes get up at four o'clock, he is still awake, and then go to school after six o'clock. At that time, I guessed that he could only sleep for two hours a day, and he was always half asleep during the day. He fell asleep in class. How is that possible? So it slides at a speed visible to the naked eye. Aunt still thought he didn't work hard and took him out.

When he was learning to eat instant noodles in the rental house on New Year's Eve, his aunt gave him a full extracurricular class. I think what he needs is a rest. What does he think of taking three days off from work in the New Year? Tiger mother and wolf father can't violate people's basic physiological laws! Finally, I watched helplessly that his lead in the previous two years did not reach the peak level of the college entrance examination. If it's fun, at least he's happy. He was ruined by his parents' wrong decision.

By the way, we have a good relationship since we moved out. Once A came home, and I was the only one in the whole suite. There was a sudden knock at the door at night. I shouldn't ask anyone. We live in an old community, and the corridor is dark at night ... I'm afraid there will be robbery or something. I quickly sent a message to B and asked him if he could come and stay with me at night. I'm a little scared. He went downstairs in less than half an hour and slept in the room in front of him at night. It takes 20 minutes to walk to me from the house rented behind him, which means that he got the news, packed his things and came over. Very loyal, and I was quite moved at the time.

Really, if parents don't know the methods of education, and children are not particularly fond of playing, it is better not to accompany them. I don't have room to accompany me and operate. I can dance with shackles. This kind of accompanying reading is completely pushing the child to death. You don't need