Should women choose love or bread? What kind of life difference will there be?

There are many choices in life. When I was a child, I often heard a choice: which do you choose, love or bread?

Both are very precious, and it would be miserable to lose one. It is because it is difficult to choose that it will be discussed as a hot topic.

Everyone can think of the risks after the choice: choose love, without bread, it is but not as poor as those who know it; A loveless marriage is hard to choose loveless bread.

For this choice, there is also a joke on the internet: children are making choices, and I want them all.

Love and bread coexist, which is a good ending, but is there really such a good life that both love and bread have in reality?

So the choice between bread and love is unrealistic and not the right answer.

The best choice is: bring your own bread and marry love confidently.

02

My friend fell out with his parents to marry love.

The man has no money and no ability, so he can only do the most basic work and get the most basic income. He is not self-motivated and difficult to learn. His love for his friends is only reflected in sweet words and salary, but even if he is paid, he is only two or three thousand yuan. Apart from the rent, the family's life cannot be maintained.

When a daughter marries such a person, of course, her parents don't agree with her suffering, but her friends insist that she doesn't marry, not bread, but love.

Finally, my parents didn't agree to get married, and my friend secretly got the certificate, and then lived in a rental house behind my parents and boyfriend's back.

A friend once thought that as long as she worked hard, she could live a good life and let her parents recognize her marriage. But in the end, love lost to money. She doesn't expect her husband to get rich by earning less than 3000 yuan a month, but even how to survive is a problem.

They are husband and wife, and their income adds up to a little more than 6 thousand. Rent, property, water and electricity, communication and commuting expenses add up to nearly 3,000 yuan. When they go to work on weekdays, they just eat noodles or fast food outside. When I go back to the rental house at night, I have to buy food and cook, and I need a living allowance of about 3,000 yuan.

But beyond that, two people can't live without buying some necessities and other extra expenses. Even if they live frugally and painfully, they still have no savings.

Their marriage, no money to buy clothes, even if it is cheap, no money to go out on a date, even if it is just to watch a movie; I have no money to go out for a good meal. Even friends' parties can be pushed as early as possible, and colleagues' dinners can be avoided as much as possible.

For this relationship, my friend worked overtime desperately. In addition to her normal job, she also found a part-time job online. She sleeps later than the dog and gets up earlier than the chicken every day. Nevertheless, life is still very difficult.

Two years of marriage has worn away love and made my friend see the essence of poverty clearly, but she has never wavered in marriage. What she wants is to keep looking.

Unexpectedly, the husband couldn't stand the fast pace of big cities, and even told his wife that he hoped they could go to their hometown together, find a job in the county, and then live in peace.

My friend didn't expect that her love didn't make her husband work hard, but she wanted to go back to her hometown and live a comfortable life.

Of course, my friend doesn't agree with this proposal. As a result, her husband left her alone, and her friend filed for divorce soon.

03

In marriage, money is very important. Love without bread may be happy, but marriage without bread is painful.

After all, you can't move without money in this world.

There is a cruel fact: not everything can be obtained through hard work, such as money. Some people can succeed casually, while others can only live at the bottom of life.

Marriage without considering bread for love is hasty. Be rational before you get married. Love is really cheap in a poor marriage, especially for poor, self-motivated and even poor men.

Many women are willing to work hard with their loved ones for love, but can they endure it for a year or two and a lifetime? In a marriage without money, the biggest fear is not the pain of two people, but the inability to have children. What scares me more is that if I am sick and hospitalized, I will be helpless.

Marriage is not love. It's not enough for two people to have love. It's far more realistic than imagined, but it's not casual as people who have been poor together know.

04

Marriage without bread and love is not strong, so what about marriage without bread and love?

Of course, it is also suffering.

Ms. Li contributed a lot. She said that she had just entered a marriage with only bread.

Ms. Li told me that before she got married, she made a dramatic choice:

One is her boyfriend of three years. Generally speaking, parents can only make a down payment on the house. When Ms. Li marries him, it means that she has to repay the loan after marriage, and she has to fight for it all her life.

One is a blind date introduced by relatives. The other party's family has prepared a wedding room, and his family is well-off, with nearly 10 million possessions at home.

Ms. Li finally gave up love and chose bread. She said:? At that time, I thought that the feelings after marriage could be cultivated slowly, and money could solve 99% problems. ?

The days when she could get married for bread didn't make her feel better. Her husband looks down on Ms. Li's family because of money, and works hard for Ms. Li, but he is not loyal and often goes out at night.

What's more, Ms. Li doesn't want to share a room with her husband at all. Because I don't love, I feel depressed together. Sometimes sleeping next to him makes her feel insecure and can't sleep in the middle of the night.

Moreover, Ms. Li didn't get the bread she wanted. When the husband is in a good mood, he will give her a gift to make her happy. When she was in a bad mood, she was penniless. Ms. Li repeatedly praised the humble palm and supercilious eyes.

Finally, she regretted it and wanted a divorce.

She finally said to me: Maybe marrying love is the right choice. At least there is love and respect. Marriage without love is like a year. ?

05

This is a sad fact. When you happily marry a rich man and think you can share the bread with him, you forget that the bread is written on the palm of your hand. If you want it, you must look at his face.

Few people change their lives by marriage, and those who think that they can sit back and relax by marrying a rich man are usually in great trouble.

The choice of love and bread has always been a multiple-choice question, because in life, if you have it, you will lose it. If every woman can marry love with bread, it is naturally the best, so if there is only one choice, how to choose the right answer?

Of course, the best answer should be: earn your own bread and have love.

It is not easy for two people to fall in love, and it is cruel to be beaten by reality, so you have to earn it yourself, and the person who wants to love is free to love.